maybeimtheone Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 this is hard to talk about because its gonna make me look clingy and attached I have been having problems with my girlfriend lately with us spending time together we have maybe 2-3 days a week we can usually see each other. the problem is i feel like im being pushed aside for her friends. i have no problem with them and am glad she spends time with them, but its to teh point where i am making sacrifices on our time for them. we hung out earlier today and she said tonight she was just saying home and we were hanging out , well then she decided to go to her friends. i was like you gotta be kidding me? considering i wont have a chance to see her again for over a week it was very frustrating i just feel like she's taking me for granite on the time we spend together its hard to talk about though without making it seem like im telling her she cnat have friends how should i approach it
Soundsystem00 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I've been there. And yes, it is annoying. You can try to talk to her about it first. Just approach it carefully and gently. Depending on what kind of woman she is, she may or may not get defensive. Just talk to her the way you talked to us. This is just my opinion. I'm no expert. I tried talking to my ex about that and she flipped the lid. If it's affecting your happiness, then possible consider if the relationship is worth your time. Let her reaction determine your decision though. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Is this the girlfriend who broke up with you and who you aren't even 'back together' with?
Gaeta Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 we hung out earlier today and she said tonight she was just saying home and we were hanging out , well then she decided to go to her friends. i was like you gotta be kidding me? considering i wont have a chance to see her again for over a week it was very frustrating With this thread and the previous ones I think this girl is giving you the go around. You are there when it's convenient to her and has no problem dropping you last minute with no guilt or minimum consideration. Sometimes people have insecurities so have unjustified feelings of neediness. Sometimes it's not about insecurities it's about the gf-bf acting in an inappropriate way and your inner alarm goes off warning you something is off, except you interpret it as being insecurities. Is this the type of relationship you want to have? The kind where you are constantly pushed down the list or priorities?
Wisecrack Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Don't sell yourself short. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and the time she wants to spend with you, she opts for someone else? If it were me, I wouldn't even ask her about it. I'd simply move on and don't even contact her. No need to get butt hurt, simply get on with it because obviously she does not see you in the light that you see her. If she tries to come back, know the past and that nothing changes in the future even if they say they are a changed person.
devilish innocent Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I'm kind of confused after reading your other posts. I can't tell if she's an ex-girl-friend or if you've just gotten back together. Anyway, given everything, it really sounds like the relationship is very one sided. You seem to be much more into her than she is into you. You'll never be happy that way. If she's not willing to invest in trying to make things work, it would be better for you to cut off contact completely until you've gotten over her.
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