napy666 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I was just thinking what if you ran into an ex that you hadn't seen since your breakup and you saw them at a club or on the street or even online via a chat room or got a message or an email etc. Do you think seeing them or them seeing you would have all the memories or you two flood back and the feelings re-grow?
Stay Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Yes, I've had it happened before. It does come rushing back and you might feel ****ty for a while but it'll pass like it once did. Depending on how long ago you broke up, etc. But as far as feelings re-growing, it doesn't really re-grow like that, you might feel like you want them back but it's just someone that has been in your life for so long and naturally you want to fill that empty space you may have. Once you've actually moved on it starts getting easier, seeing them will still bring back memories but you don't feel the urge to want them like before.
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I personally think it would work the other way; I'd remember all the reasons we were no longer together, and be grateful we'd split. (I'm assuming you were referring to regrowing happy feelings)
preraph Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 For the one who got dumped, the feelings may still be there, but whoever did the dumping is well over it. I carry a torch for decades, personally, on ones that it never even got serious enough to have a dumper and dumpee! I'm pathetic. There's not too many guys that make me feel that way, but the ones that do, I'm like that for life, I guess.
Author napy666 Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 To me, I am over him but yet part of me isn't. I dislike that he's moved on to his happily ever after and yet I am alone haha.
Stay Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 To me, I am over him but yet part of me isn't. I dislike that he's moved on to his happily ever after and yet I am alone haha. I know exactly how you feel, you feel like you're over him but if you ever see him again you know it's gonna change. Who broke up with who? As for dumper vs dumpee, I think both sides will have left over feelings no matter what. A little about my situation, my gf of a long time broke up with me... Left me devastated, strung me along, gave me false hope and I fell for every little bit of it. Once I found out what was going on and she was seeing someone else while technically us not fully apart yet I cut it all off. She had no more control and I'm sure felt like she made the wrong mistake which a lot of people told me it's her lost and I could do better. While people usually say this but I think she will never find anyone else like me, maybe she will but I took her crap for too long and I don't know who else would handle her. Anyways we met a few months down the line at a mutual friend's gathering, I knew she was going to be there so I was a little nervous and prepared. Walking in and seeing her was difficult and she knew I was seeing others which like how you feel, she didn't like seeing me happy with others. So she began to cry and said she missed me and hugging me for a long time, etc. all that sappy crap and I didn't buy it one bit, she hurt me too much. Every single feeling came back. I felt like crap for a whole week, depressed pretty much and almost as if I was going through the break up again. Snapped out of it, continued to enjoy my life and meet people. Ran into her again few months down the line and not a single f*** given, no feelings for her at all.. Just awkward around her since obviously we don't have much to talk about. So I wrote a lot but basically be ready for all your feelings to come back the first time you run into him again. Just don't be weak, make your life how you want it. Enjoy it, do new things, make it your life and improve on yourself. You will find that you can care less what he does as you have a better life. Once you start to not think about him that's when you begin to live your own life. So please, meet some guys, go out, have fun.
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