volley Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 My ex boyfriend is back in the picture. Whenever he doesnt have someone we hangout. We are now trying to be friends. He stated that will never be a couple again. But our relationship went well. He broke up with me out of the blue. Now we are more open and flirty with each other etc. Hes always touch feely and beings up the good times. We hung out one night and it got to be steamy. He said we can either be friends or fwb. Really? I said if you want to be fwb then why not work it out. He didn't say anything. Is he playing mind games.
TXGuy Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 No. He is not playing mind games. He told you exactly what he is looking for (fwb or friends) and made it perfectly clear what he is not looking for (serious relationship). You are either not hearing what he is saying or you think you can change his mind (which you can't). He is being straightforward with you. Believe him. You have to decide if that is what you want or is something you are willing to accept.
BetrayedH Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 No. He is not playing mind games. He told you exactly what he is looking for (fwb or friends) and made it perfectly clear what he is not looking for (serious relationship). You are either not hearing what he is saying or you think you can change his mind (which you can't). He is being straightforward with you. Believe him. You have to decide if that is what you want or is something you are willing to accept. I tend to agree with this. Generally, we men are simple creatures. If you ask what we want, we'll probably come out and say it. It sounds to me like he's made an intellectual decision that you two don't work well as a serious couple or long-term relationship. Perhaps you've just failed at it too many times. But it doesn't mean that he doesn't like you as a person (for friendship) or that he doesn't like you as a sexual partner. I suspect that he's just decided that you two don't work as a long-term couple and that it's not necessarily the fault of either of you. As an example, I had one gf that I still have fond memories of. She was a great person to talk to and we had a great connection. And we were wild in the sack together. But when we were a couple, she was just plain crazy jealous. While I never cheated on her and wouldn't have, we fought about it all the time. It was miserable and I eventually had to break it off with her. I still think she's great and missed her terribly and I definitely missed the sex for a good long while but I knew we just didn't work as a couple. If we could have been friends or FWB, I probably would have been happy to do so.
Author volley Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 Him and I gave spoken. He states what you two have said. He told me he just wants to be alone and do his thing. If his job doesnt work he might move or go contract over seas. But before we met he was doing this same thing. Yrs ago he broke off an angaement a few days because he wanted to be alone. They were together for 4yrs. Then there was someone else and know me a 6yr relationship. He has set his ways in life and at the point to were there can be no change. I just have to accept that and try to be a friend. Because we really had a good relationship and got along great.
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