Conners Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 My ex friend with benefits is ignoring me in public, at least this far. He told my friend he thought I was crazy so I texted him to let him know how I feel about it. No response. Obviously he's two faced because he reached out to me at 2 am on vday saying he was concerned about me. Anyway a month goes by and I see him out last night. I was a little tipsy so I told him he sucks while walking with my friend. He and the people he was with ignored it. I don't want to be malicious but the reason I'm so upset and said what I said was because he is completely fake and disrespectful (he was the first person I had sex with). What do you think he's thinking? He still looks at all of my snapchat stories (pictures and videos I take). I remember your previous post. He booty called you on valentines day, he did not reach out to you out of concern. If I remember correctly, he bailed on you because you were too emotional and he was not going to get his doodle wet. You obviously have some emotional attachement to him because he took your virginity but you are only making yourself look crazy by telling him that "he sucks" in public. They probably laughed at you afterwards because it's so juvenile. What is he thinking? I think that he just doesn't care about you. Just because he opens your snap chats it doesn't mean ANYTHING! I have people I despise on my snap chat but I will still look at their bloody snap chats if they even send them to me. Why would you bother even sending him snap chats anyway? Delete him out of your life.
TheKook Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I remember your previous post. He booty called you on valentines day, he did not reach out to you out of concern. If I remember correctly, he bailed on you because you were too emotional and he was not going to get his doodle wet. You obviously have some emotional attachement to him because he took your virginity but you are only making yourself look crazy by telling him that "he sucks" in public. They probably laughed at you afterwards because it's so juvenile. What is he thinking? I think that he just doesn't care about you. Just because he opens your snap chats it doesn't mean ANYTHING! I have people I despise on my snap chat but I will still look at their bloody snap chats if they even send them to me. Why would you bother even sending him snap chats anyway? Delete him out of your life.Stories aren't directly sent to others. You have to go to that person's name on the list, and download the snap that everyone can view. It's possible it doesn't mean anything, but if someone puts in the effort to keep watching your snapchat they must have some degree of curiosity about what you're up to.
Conners Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Stories aren't directly sent to others. You have to go to that person's name on the list, and download the snap that everyone can view. It's possible it doesn't mean anything, but if someone puts in the effort to keep watching your snapchat they must have some degree of curiosity about what you're up to. It doesn't tell you when someone opens your story though right? I don't really add anything to my story so excuse me if I'm wrong. She is obviously still selecting to send the snap chat to him individually. Sometimes I get the same snap chat from someone and they have also added it to their story. Point is, she should of deleted him off snap chat. I highly doubt he cares just because he opens it. It literally takes 10 seconds at the most to open a snap chat. He is not watching out for it. It pops up on your bloody screen when you get one. If he actually replied to her snap chats, then maybe he would care. It's like saying "HE READ MY MSG BUT HE DIDNT REPLY, WHAT DOES THIS MEAN"
TheKook Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 It doesn't tell you when someone opens your story though right? I don't really add anything to my story so excuse me if I'm wrong. She is obviously still selecting to send the snap chat to him individually. Sometimes I get the same snap chat from someone and they have also added it to their story. Point is, she should of deleted him off snap chat. I highly doubt he cares just because he opens it. It literally takes 10 seconds at the most to open a snap chat. He is not watching out for it. It pops up on your bloody screen when you get one. If he actually replied to her snap chats, then maybe he would care. It's like saying "HE READ MY MSG BUT HE DIDNT REPLY, WHAT DOES THIS MEAN"Nope. It shows you a list of everyone who views your story. Basically this chick is setting her snapchat story to a picture, then this dude is coming and watching it, and she sees his name in the list. She isn't sending anything to him. But yeah I agree there really isn't much reason to still have him there.
Conners Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Nope. It shows you a list of everyone who views your story. Basically this chick is setting her snapchat story to a picture, then this dude is coming and watching it, and she sees his name in the list. She isn't sending anything to him. But yeah I agree there really isn't much reason to still have him there. haha oh god, does it tell the person if you view their story more than once? I viewed my ex boyfriends story a few times once I know it tells you if someone replays your snap chat. (ex bf was guilty of doing that to me on a few occasions) don't think he realises that yet.
TheKook Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 haha oh god, does it tell the person if you view their story more than once? I viewed my ex boyfriends story a few times once I know it tells you if someone replays your snap chat. (ex bf was guilty of doing that to me on a few occasions) don't think he realises that yet.If they create a new story, the list is reset so yeah if you view it again they'll see. I found this out after I had watched my ex girlfriends snapchat a few times lol. It's alright though, because she watches literally every single one of mine. It probably doesn't mean anything, but I will admit that I am curious. She blocked me on facebook and unfollowed my instagram but left me on snapchat and continues to watch me... Not to mention she started using her alternate facebook account the second she blocked me on her main one.
Conners Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 If they create a new story, the list is reset so yeah if you view it again they'll see. I found this out after I had watched my ex girlfriends snapchat a few times lol. It's alright though, because she watches literally every single one of mine. It probably doesn't mean anything, but I will admit that I am curious. She blocked me on facebook and unfollowed my instagram but left me on snapchat and continues to watch me... Not to mention she started using her alternate facebook account the second she blocked me on her main one. As long as it doesn't tell them that you watched the same story more than once? If that makes sense. Because that would me mortifying. I hardly snap chat my ex any more. Unless i'm about to go out and i'm dressed up or when I'm really drunk or I snap chat a guy mate doing something silly.. immature I know but I can't help myself sometimes. He always sends topless bathroom selfies to me. Snapchat is the devil.
TheKook Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 As long as it doesn't tell them that you watched the same story more than once? If that makes sense. Because that would me mortifying. I hardly snap chat my ex any more. Unless i'm about to go out and i'm dressed up or when I'm really drunk or I snap chat a guy mate doing something silly.. immature I know but I can't help myself sometimes. He always sends topless bathroom selfies to me. Snapchat is the devil.It doesn't display a number, no. Just that you viewed it. Snapchat really is the devil, I 100% agree. It's fun but it just straight up ruins relationships, man. If you're not snapchatting your good friends, then you're most likely just flirting. My ex girlfriend would always snapchat a bunch of guys, and while she didn't do anything direct or obviously wrong, it's like she teased them because she wanted the extra attention. She labeled them as friends, which they were, but there's a tad more to it and she knew what she was doing. If you spend the time to take some extremely cute selfie to send to your 'friend', you're probably just flirting. And what the hell is the point of snapchat points? Is it just suppose to tell others, "Look at how much flirting I'm doing". I did a really good job of not letting it bother me significantly, but it did always irritate me.
Author emoore2013 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Posted March 23, 2014 It just makes me sad cause he can't even look me in the face anymore, in public that is. He COMPLETELY ignores me except on snapchat. Does he just not care or is he doing it to help me get over him/help himself deal with the situation?
Conners Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 It just makes me sad cause he can't even look me in the face anymore, in public that is. He COMPLETELY ignores me except on snapchat. Does he just not care or is he doing it to help me get over him/help himself deal with the situation? He doesn't care. He probably thinks you are in love with him.
OhThatGirl Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Delete him off SnapChat. Delete him from Facebook. Delete his number. Forget him. Move on already. Let this be a lesson. Don't get involved with a FWB, you're clearly not able to handle that situation. Find another guy that can't get enough of you and wants a real, public, loving relationship. And for crying out loud. Stop with the retaliating texts and the "you suck" comments and all the rest of it. THIS level of maturity is exactly why he called you crazy. Just pretend he doesn't exist. Give this guy zero f*cks. Cause that's what he is giving you.
Author emoore2013 Posted March 24, 2014 Author Posted March 24, 2014 What would make him think he could talk crap about me and then try and talk to me again? Do I have every right to be upset?
Author emoore2013 Posted April 11, 2014 Author Posted April 11, 2014 So I had a huge falling out with a friend with benefits recently. He tried to use me on valentines day and things ended badly when I got emotional. Then I found out he was trying to get with my friend and called me crazy behind my back. For the longest time he ignored me when I saw him out. I saw him out last night and he said hi. No apology or anything but he acknowledged me. What do you think this could mean? He didn't stop to chat or anything but maybe it's because he knows I'm still upset?
veggirl Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 why are you so worried about what it means? i mean does it matter? he sounds like a jackass, so even if it means "omg I miss you" would that matter??? (it doesn't mean that btw) saying hi means nothing. If anything it means he's so over it all that he doesn't even care enough to ignore you--he's reached indifference, I'd guess. 1
PegNosePete Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 It means he split up with your friend and wants the benefits back. 2
Emilia Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 So I had a huge falling out with a friend with benefits recently. He tried to use me on valentines day and things ended badly when I got emotional. Then I found out he was trying to get with my friend and called me crazy behind my back. For the longest time he ignored me when I saw him out. I saw him out last night and he said hi. No apology or anything but he acknowledged me. What do you think this could mean? He didn't stop to chat or anything but maybe it's because he knows I'm still upset? I thought that's what FWBs were for? If you want a boyfriend, you need to find a guy who is looking for a relationship. Ignore this one. Who cares what he thinks? 2
Lernaean_Hydra Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I thought that's what FWBs were for? If you want a boyfriend, you need to find a guy who is looking for a relationship. Ignore this one. Who cares what he thinks? I get the feeling he maybe tried to use the romantic nature of the day as a means to get her in the sack using slightly false pretenses. Naturally this could be purely wild conjecture but I've seen it happen before on that day. That being said, OP, it doesn't sound like you need to be in contact with this guy. A lot of people can't handle FWBs. Sometimes the person ends up getting attached, sometimes they simply don't adhere to rules of common decency. A good FWB would shy away from trying to get with your close friends and especially bad mouthing you to them. However a person who is fully capable of handling casual sex wouldn't get so hung up on a simple "hi" from a former casual lover. I guess my point is, one or both of your probably shouldn't be having FWBs for various reasons and you certainly don't need to be over-thinking his words or actions. At best he was just being polite, at worst, he's hoping to start having sex with you again. Acquaint yourself with the definitions of FWB and f*kbuddy and determine which one you think you are, were, or are looking for in the future.
mikefromtheblock Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 So I had a huge falling out with a friend with benefits recently. He tried to use me on valentines day and things ended badly when I got emotional. Then I found out he was trying to get with my friend and called me crazy behind my back. For the longest time he ignored me when I saw him out. I saw him out last night and he said hi. No apology or anything but he acknowledged me. What do you think this could mean? He didn't stop to chat or anything but maybe it's because he knows I'm still upset? I am just curious. Did this FWB thing worked for you? And for how long? Regarding guy's reaction - agree with people above. He's over it and that "hi" is like big NOTHING.
Author emoore2013 Posted April 11, 2014 Author Posted April 11, 2014 You're probably right with it meaning nothing but he went out of his way to say hi to me. And the friends with benefits didn't work out well mainly because I was inexperienced and can't have sex without commitment.
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 You're probably right with it meaning nothing but he went out of his way to say hi to me. And the friends with benefits didn't work out well mainly because I was inexperienced and can't have sex without commitment. He went out of his way to say hello? do you consider that a favor to you or something? He tried to get with your friend, he called you crazy, then he ignored you...and you are so happy he said hello! That's the kind of people you want in your life? 2
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 He obviously doesn't want anything but a superficial sex relationship with you, OP. Stop wasting your time analyzing this guy. You're not cut out for the FWB mold and it seems you were befuddling the situation (from his perspective he might have gotten upset that you were being relatively inappropriate).
Zahara Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 So I had a huge falling out with a friend with benefits recently. He tried to use me on valentines day and things ended badly when I got emotional. Then I found out he was trying to get with my friend and called me crazy behind my back. For the longest time he ignored me when I saw him out. I saw him out last night and he said hi. No apology or anything but he acknowledged me. What do you think this could mean? He didn't stop to chat or anything but maybe it's because he knows I'm still upset? So, he tried to use you. Then he tried to get with your friend. Then he called you crazy behind your back. Then he ignored you for the longest time. After all that, you're tied up about a word -- hi. You really need to figure out why it is you're hung up on a person that treats you badly. If you settle for this, you'll keep living your life running after douchebags. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 So, he tried to use you. Then he tried to get with your friend. Then he called you crazy behind your back. Then he ignored you for the longest time. After all that, you're tied up about a word -- hi. You really need to figure out why it is you're hung up on a person that treats you badly. If you settle for this, you'll keep living your life running after douchebags. They were FWB! The agreement basically is "use for sex." And who cares if he hooked up with the other friend? They were FWB. I don't see how the friend is off limits. And he called her "crazy." In what context. I think the guy is getting vilified unjustly here. Now he may be a manipulative dbag but with the small details revealed I can't jump to that conclusion just yet.
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 They were FWB! The agreement basically is "use for sex." And who cares if he hooked up with the other friend? They were FWB. I don't see how the friend is off limits. And he called her "crazy." In what context. I think the guy is getting vilified unjustly here. Now he may be a manipulative dbag but with the small details revealed I can't jump to that conclusion just yet. Some friends with benefits have exclusivity agreements. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Some friends with benefits have exclusivity agreements. OP will have to check the fine print 1
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