emoore2013 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 He keeps sending me random snapchats yet he hasn't responded to my text or initiate hangouts when I'm in town. I'm pretty sure he knows I like him although I haven't told him that directly.
mortensorchid Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Did you meet him on a dating website? Do you know this person in real life already? Not enough information here. Based on what you have said already, I would say he's just an online friend. He's someone you talk to online for whatever reason about things, but he's not that interested in meeting you face to face. 1
almond Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Tell him what you just told us, and then you'll have your answer. Maybe he's sending snapchats to his whole address book, and you just happen to be included? If he's ignored your texts and made no effort to hang out with you, it's a pretty clear indication that he's not interested. I'd suggest blocking him on snapchat, and forgetting him. 2
Author emoore2013 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 Were in college and he and I have a history together as he took my virginity.
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 How thoughtful of him. Has sex with you and then ignores you. What a classy guy. Of course he knows you like him, you had sex with him! There's not a lot to understand here. You text him, he doesn't respond - end of story. 2
spirius Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 It does sound like one to chalk up to experience. Fundamentally disrespectful to sleep with you and then not have the decency to either maintain contact or explain why he does not want to do so. I don't know you, but I'm sure you are worth more than that. Hell, everyone is worth more than that.
Author emoore2013 Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 (edited) My former friends with benefits texted me out of the blue last night (Valentines day) around 2 am. Last time I heard from him was when he had accidentally kissed my best friend. I didn't expect him to contact me because he had ignored my texts. But he did saying that he wanted to talk. I picked him up and it was awkward at first because I hadn't seen him in a year. But he was super nice and the convo started out casually. He said he wanted to go back to my place so we did. He asked if I had a valentine, I said no and asked him if he had one and he said no. I was apprehensive this entire time because A. He wanted to go back to my place at 2 am, and B. Because he was dropping hints like that and holding my hand. We went to my room but just casually stood while we talked. He said kissing my friend didn't mean anything, was wondering why I haven't been out, and was worried about me. Of course I held back from telling him that I was actually unhappy. He said he didn't know if he could sleep over. We made out briefly and I asked him to stay. He seemed like he wanted to but said he didn't want to hurt my feelings. We headed back to my car and he further said that he thought I needed a friend to talk to. I was upset at this point because he kind of implied hooking up. But I knew that if I were to have it would have made my feelings more intense. He told me that there are tons of guys out there and that there is someone out there for me. I told him that he knew I liked him and he didn't say anything but was clearly upset too. I drove him back home and he said something along the lines of "I'll be seeing you". I texted him soon after saying sorry I got upset and thanked him. What do you think all of this means? Edited February 16, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
organizedchaos Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 I don't know. I'm kind of lost as to what this is all about. What do you want???
FnlyFrei Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 I do not see what you are confused about. He was lonely. He called you. He was hoping something would happen. He hoped you were wanting a no strings thing like he was. He isn't that into you. He isn't worth your time. A former FWB who kissed your best friend isn't exactly relationship material. You will meet someone else better ! 3
Survivor12 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 It means that he knows that you want more than fwb and he doesn't. He contacted you for a booty call but when he realized that you were "fragile"--whether it was to spare your feelings or to avoid drama--he decided to take a pass. 3
KatZee Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 He wanted some easy sex. I mean, you haven't seen this guy in a year and you jump on the chance to get together with him, invite him back to your house, wind up in your bedroom, make out, and he basically tried to invite himself to sleep over. This guy has a lot of balls. He's not worried or concerned about you at all. If he was so "concerned" why did it take him a whole year to even be in touch with you? He's not interested in dating you, he flat out said he didn't want to hurt your feelings by staying over. (Please. This guy is good though, I'll give him that.) And then he said someone out there will be great for you. Sounds like he was lonely on Valentine's Day, thought you'd be an easy lay, and gave it a shot. 1
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Did you seriously go pick someone up at 2am after not speaking to them for a year and they kissed your friend? My God woman have some self respect. You owe yourself better than this! Chalk this up as a lack of judgement and learn from it! 7
Minneloa Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) I don't understand why you think this is shocking. To echo the other posters above, it sounds like a booty call gone wrong: once he realized were strings attached on your end, he bailed. I mean, his resurfacing after a year must have been a surprise, but what went down from there makes sense from this side of the internet. Edited February 16, 2014 by Minneloa 1
Author emoore2013 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 He kept insisting he just wanted to talk, not hook up.
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 He kept insisting he just wanted to talk, not hook up. For future reference any contact at 2am is a BOOTY CALL! 6
Minneloa Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 For future reference any contact at 2am is a BOOTY CALL! And on Valentine's Day!!
Minneloa Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 He kept insisting he just wanted to talk, not hook up. Focus on his actions, not his words.
2sunny Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Then you should have told him to call you in the daytime! A late night call is usually a booty call. All your emotional reactions probably made him uninterested after he got there. Drama and emotional reactions will make a guy go limp.
Author emoore2013 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 He knows I'm a virgin, and he's the only one I tried having sex with. He did ask me if I met any guys while I was away, possibly as a way of seeing if I have had sex.
Survivor12 Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 He knows I'm a virgin, and he's the only one I tried having sex with. He did ask me if I met any guys while I was away, possibly as a way of seeing if I have had sex. Huh??? You said he took your virginity & referred to him as your former fwb--now you say you're a virgin?????
Author emoore2013 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 I mean I'm technically not a virgin since we tried having sex and failed. We only make out and fool around as benefits.
Author emoore2013 Posted February 16, 2014 Author Posted February 16, 2014 Now he's not talking to me...
Poppygoodwill Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Don't answer any text or call that comes after 10 pm asking to see you that night. From anyone except your best friend in the whole world or your family. Seriously - you will avoid all sorts of headaches and hassles. Men who like and respect you will not call you at all hours because they know it's rude and terrible. Seems like he's a fairly decent guy though, and took a pass. So you dodged a bullet.
HappyLove Posted February 16, 2014 Posted February 16, 2014 Now he's not talking to me... Good! Find yourself a decent young man to date. This one only wants sex you're just going to end up hurt.
Author emoore2013 Posted February 17, 2014 Author Posted February 17, 2014 Some girl just posted a pic of him kissing some girl. It looks like a joke but I'm seriously so hurt. Should I just delete him off Facebook and snapchat?
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