Mixed signals - is he messing with me or is he interested again?! I'm going nuts!!

[Cpt]

Hi Cpt,

 

I'll be honest - I cannot say that with 100% certainty yet but I think it is very, very unlikely that I would go back to him after everything that has happened. Frankly speaking, it is also very unlikely that he would want me back and I certainly have no intentions to approach him for a reconciliation so I think all things considered, that is pretty much done.

 

What I found most attractive about him in the beginning: well, he is very intelligent and has a great sense of humor - both things are very important to me - and his personality in general. He also understood me very well which is very rare - sounds silly, but most people in my life really don't unless they have known me for a very long time. I suppose the fact that he was my best friend for a long time before we got together gave him that understanding. On top of that, we always had chemistry and he knew exactly what I needed/wanted and vice versa so it all worked really well. I don't know if I believe in the concept of soulmates but I think if we were to go down that road, he was as close to one as I have ever met.

 

Well thats a really nice summary. You say you don't know who he has become now? Well I got some bad news for you, that is still the same guy who is your supposed near-soulmate. Thats the other side of him you would have experienced if you had gotten married. People do well at hiding who they FULLY are until they feel comfortable enough. The guy you think is your near-soulmate and knew your every want/need is really not that at all. By all means, don't forget the good times, nor his good qualities, but you need to move on and chalk this up as a learning experience. You need to say with 100% certainty that you will not get back with him, think about it...

 

If you don't like this other side of him, then what makes you think you will like it 10 years from now?

[TaraMaiden]

(....and bear in mind that if he is showing his 'true colours', these will be more PROMINENT in 10 years' time, than the good things you see about him now. People revert to type. Keeping up appearances becomes too much like hard work. )