CherryBlossom200 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Ok, will try and condense this as much as possible. Met a guy around 2 months ago (we are both 38), got on incredibly well from the minute we met and literally it’s got better and better. We’ve been through lots of ups and downs in the past month due to both of us getting ill with bugs (sick bug/flu you name it!) but we are continually supportive. Literally the chemistry is amazing. The problem is, the guy in question told me on the 2nd date that he applied for a VISA for Australia and it came through, it’s a skilled worker visa so as long as he gets settled within the next 4-5 years he is fine and can live there. He just needs to validate the visa by going on holiday there. I stated from the start I don’t want to hold him back from his dream, but also that I would definitely be open with living in OZ with him (I am a very outdoors person and I also would like to bring up a family in a country where the quality of life is better) The dilemma is he would have to wait for me, until I can get a partner visa (potentially up to 2 years) he initially was going to leave in June before he met me. It would mean delaying getting his career started in OZ and getting settled. He hasn’t commited to staying as he wants to explore how things work out with us before making a decision, living in the moment etc So my question is if you feel you have potentially met the ‘one’ – would you wait for the girl or go? He also handed in his notice on his job so freelancing now. Thoughts please! xx 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 It's a real tough one, but I do think eight weeks of knowing somebody is usually not long enough to change your life plans over something this major. Then again, you hear of people who from the first date knew that they wanted to be with this person and would do anything to make it happen. I think he's being sensible in waiting to see how things pan out between you before he decides either way. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 This is exactly what happened to my cousin .. U don't need to wait 2 years. He had already applied & been accepted as a skilled worker (before they met) but had to go there first which he did.. She flew out as a visitor during this time. They both flew back he then went back to oz & she followed a few weeks later (again as a visitor with her 2 kids) they then married out there & the permanent visa was given. U can do the back door approach.. She did x They have been out there 14 months now, have bought a house & had a baby x She has no regrets & she knows we are always here should she come back home so I guess the question is.. What do u have to lose? I moved from uk to Los Angeles back in 2001.. It didn't work out & I'm back in the UK but do I regret it.. No it was a life opportunity x
Author CherryBlossom200 Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 The thing is if I go there as a visitor how long can I stay? Also, I wouldnt be able to work? I don't understand how going as a visitor changes things? How long after they met did he then decide to go to oz? I'm worried that if he goes that will be it between us?! I don't understand how a long distance relationship will work if we haven't been together long enough. Thanks for your reply! xx
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 She did x & had a baby x No it was a life opportunity x Why do you keep putting random x's everywhere. Looks terrible On topic, I knew someone who went, didn't take 2 years.
Author CherryBlossom200 Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Also the guy does a job which isn't the best paid, so flying backwards and forth won't work due to the price of plane tickets. Same goes for me too. It would be hard for us to have a long distance relationship and I think he knows that too.
Author CherryBlossom200 Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Thomas how long did it take please? If you could explain how they did it that would be great xx
Author CherryBlossom200 Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 BTW - I can't go on my own visa, I'm a PA so not on the list of jobs that OZ needs. I would have no choice but to go on a partner/spouse visa.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 U can stay for 90 days & no u can't work during that time as u would be a visitor x u need to get some evidence of a 'relationship' wether it be call records etc just to show u were together before he moved as u will need this for the permanent visa application once there x They were only together for matter of weeks before he told her about the oz thing & it all moved very quickly from there x She took 2 kids with her from a prev relationship & no questions were asked.. As long as he has been accepted & u can prove a relationship was there before he moved over turn u will be fine x Their permanent visa was granted about 6 months after she flew out the second time (once he was there as a permanent)they married within 30 days x
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 She didn't either she just went as a visitor (with 2 kids in tow!) they married once there x
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