Emma1234 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 So a couple of months ago I knew a guy who was in a relationship. We got on incredibly well but had to cut the close contact because of the relationship he was in and his admittance to liking me. Anyway, fast forward 5 months and he is now single. We still spoke throughout those months but it was purely friendship and mainly because of being involved in the same social activity. His 4 year relationship has now ended on his terms because she wasn't making him happy anymore and his feelings had changed. Basically, we have started talking a lot more since the relationship boundaries are no longer there. I am slightly worried about how to proceed though. Obviously he needs time to grieve the past relationship (it was long distance for them for 3 years, just putting that out there in case it changes things). I want him to be ok, but i also don't want to be a rebound. There are a few problems though. We only have another month of living within close proximity to one another (after these 3 weeks of easter and being at home), he finishes university and will be 2.5 hours away from the uni and a bit further away from my actual home. I'd rather there not be any bad comments about the fact he was in a relationship at the beginning, i already feel terrible that we spoke then anyway. I just need advice on how to proceed. We are now speaking every day but i feel i should stop this and give him time to be by himself, also, i'm not sure what to do after this holiday. Do we make the most of the only month we'll have living near each other and really get to know each other (as he has said he'd like to) or do i still give him time to get over his relationship and hope that if things are meant to be then we'll figure something out in the future? Thank you so much for any advice you can give
Gaeta Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 You don't want to but I am still gonna....... Let him go. What he did to her, he will do to you. When he's done with you he won't say a word and start looking for his next girlfriend while in a relationship with you. He is capable of it, he's just proved it to you. How will you be able to trust him in a long distance relationship now that you know he is capable of venturing out?
Author Emma1234 Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Sometimes I suppose you've just got to give people a chance, I'd be willing to do that I think :/
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