Mary Oak Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 So, as I have mentioned in various posts, I was in a 7-8 years relationship. I tried to move on aobut 6 months and date another woman. On paper, this woman was perfect. But, I wasn't in love with her, and she knew about my past and my hurt, and accepted it. As time went on, she (rightly so) started to expect more from me and I couldn't give it to her. So she broke up with me in November, I was upset, because I felt I was always doing something wrong, not really because I missed her. But, we remained in contact as friends. I got over the relationship ( and told her this) because she kept "testing" me, she would put this expectations on me, and not tell me, then I would fail. So, as friends, we talk a lot about growth, me getting over my ex, etc. We were going to go out of town next week for a few days, but she got weird. I asked her if she liked me more than friends, and she responded, "Does that have any bering on you going with me or not?" i say no, nevermind, it doesnt matter. She asked me over this weekend but I have plans so I said no. She responded with some thing mean, and I just don't want to deal with that, so I didn't respond. So, what is the deal? Is she just not ready to be friends...remember, she broke up with me...twice actually. She is very hot and cold. I think she could be a good friend because she is a very caring person, i just can't stand the inconsistency.
Jiivy Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 (edited) 7-8 years is a very long time...to walk in to a frienship with anyone you've been romantically involved with is tricky. You're looking at trying make a friendship work 6 months after an extremely long partnership. If she's responding so erractically, then you need to give her space. Ask yourself, is this how you deserve to be treated by your neutral friends??? If not, then she's not your friend - she's something else. Edited April 10, 2014 by Jiivy spelling
ThatGirl213 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Looking like she wants you to ask her back and fight for her. She playing hard but at the same time she cares about you. It will hurt her a lot if you find someone else who you actually develop strong feelings for. Might as well stop the friendship because it will hurt her a lot.
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