Dayrth Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Started seeing a girl I work with 2 months ago. You all know the story everything was good, we were in love. A few days ago we had a fight. During the fight mean things were said on both sides and I asked her why she was acting like a bitch. Well that was it. She was in a long relationship and a guy that was verbally abusive and he called her a bitch a lot. In the heat of the fight I forgot about all that and that's what I said. She froze up immediately and said she would not go through this again with anybody and she deserves better. I told her I was sorry but she wouldn't hear any of it. She said that once the name calling starts it will never stop. That was four days ago she said she wants space but still texts me in the morning around 9am during her break and texts me in the evening to see how my day is going just like she use to. We work at the same place but she is on first and I'm on second shift, we see each other every day when she leaves and I come in. And in 9 weeks I’ll be back on first shift with her. How do you do NC with someone you work with? Or does she just need some time to sort through some stuff (I know that’s a stretch)?
Keenly Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I guess I would need to know what happened? I do know that if a girl is genuinely behaving badly, being mean, and just being a pain in the ass, that if you call her on her behavior and she gets mad at you for doing so, then that's already a huge red flag. I don't know about the NC at work though. It didn't work very well for me, and It was really difficult to see her everyday.
Author Dayrth Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 The fight was really stupid. We were away for the weekend and couldn't decide on what to do on the second night. She wanted me to make a decision and I really had no idea so she said we should just go back to the hotel room. Well I started feeling insecure and after we watched a movie asked her if she was disappointed with me because I was boring. She said no and I said but you wouldn't be back in the hotel at 10pm if you were out with girl friends. She then said right they would have just went to a bar and got some drinks. I said I would have been fine with that (not sure why I didn’t just say that but I didn’t at the time). She said I know you aren't much of a bar or club person and I’m not so she didn’t bring that up. That’s when the fight started. Really dumb situation I know and I all come about because of my insecurities.
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 If this relationship was so weak, it was doomed to fail regardless. You can just wait it out, and maybe she'll realize she's being nuts. If not, it's not your loss. Kind of a win win situation.
somedude81 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 She said that once the name calling starts it will never stop. That was four days ago she said she wants space but still texts me in the morning around 9am during her break and texts me in the evening to see how my day is going just like she use to. Or does she just need some time to sort through some stuff (I know that’s a stretch)? Aside from the fight and the name calling which freaked her out, it really does seem that she just needs same space. If she was done with you, she wouldn't be contacting you.
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