venus1173 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Dated for 6 months. In the beginning of our relationship I told him right off the back that I had herpes (I was sexually assaulted). He was fine with it until about a month ago. We had sex (we used protection) then after a day or two he told me about how he was so scared to touch me and that he needed space to figure out if he wanted to continue our relationship. During this time he met another woman and started seeing her. He told me if I wanted to move on I can and I deserved better. I asked him to think about what he wanted and a few days later he texted me and told me that it was best if I moved on, he likes me but can't handle me having an std. I do miss and think about him sometimes. It's been one month NC, and I'm slowly getting better. * Getting back to being happy. In the meantime, I've been going to the library, looking for a job, going to counseling etc... Trying to keep busy I have met a couple of guys, but honestly I just want to be on my own for a while. I just want to make sure I'm all the way together before I jump into something new. Is that weird?
ponchsox Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 He has the right to move on if he's not comfortable. And kudos to you for telling him upfront. The stigma sucks but you will find someone who is ok with it and wants to get to know you. GL.
sooshi Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 No, that's not weird at all! In fact, it's great that you're going to take your time to work on healing and ensuring that you don't rush into anything. This will benefit you and your next partner. Keep being productive. It sounds like you're doing well with the healing process!
Thomas the Red Fox Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I think you sound very level headed. I am sorry you were sexually assaulted. I think that stuff should be punishable by death.
bluegreen Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 He has the right to move on if he's not comfortable. And kudos to you for telling him upfront. The stigma sucks but you will find someone who is ok with it and wants to get to know you. GL. I admire your honesty and good character very much very very much. As for him as someone said he has-had a right to choose he had no right to "choose" after already sleeping with you. So once is OK twice not god some man are just scum and no matter what don't take that on you its all on him simply take it as lesson learned and move on. ps: Next time do the same thing except part where you hook up without being exclusive first. As for you being assaulted I'll join in with a red fox opinion add to that castrating them before frying them ...
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