Larry56 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Yeah...the age old question of what the hell to do next when a girl "isn't ready" but happens to be "looking". Some background info, met a girl online, we haven't met yet in person but I've prodded her to. Her and I are basically mirror-images of each other personality-wise. Which is hot. She's pretty, down to earth and well - pretty much what I've been looking for my whole life. Live quite close to each other (10 minute drive). Ummm...did I say she's awesome? We've been talking non-stop, yesterday she kinda freaked out and says she's not ready for a new relationship but I can tell she really likes me, but she feels if we keep "talking" non-stop it's unfair on me. Which is sweet of her to say. So we are kinda in a "cooling-down" period right now. I haven't asked about her exes, but I'm guessing she's come out of a heavy relationship either recently or in the past 6 months. And so she's not ready for big steps. Now LOL, here's what Women seem to say about this Woman Say: Give her time, go at her pace. But don't demand too much or too little from her.." Man Say: Kick her to the curb, find yourself another girl and forget about her - it's over - she's just using you. I'm a pretty good conversationalist, so in some ways I can see these things from the Man's point of view, I'm kinda supplementing her without getting anything in return (no guarentees). But obviously, I don't have many options because she is sooooo much cooler and intellectally interesting then any other girl I'm talking to. What should I do...and justify it.
ja123 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 (edited) Take her at her word: if she says she's not ready for a relationship and you are, then I'd keep looking if I were you. EDIT: You haven't even met in person!!! Why are you investing so much in someone you haven't met? Edited April 8, 2014 by ja123 1
Author Larry56 Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 (edited) I'm not *that* invested. I just think it's a shame if we never even got the chance to meet because we have so much in common. We are the "Logical" choice for one another intellectually, emotionally and sexually. The problem is I'm not a normal guy. I'm not creepy or weird, I just don't share the same common interests with 99% of the Female population. So when I meet a girl who I have *alot* of things in common with - it get's my pencil hard. *edit* - I'm not a nerd. I don't sit home playing video games. I just don't go to the Beach nor am I interested in Cars/Mechanical things like other guys. I read philosophy and history books. Into my indie hipster electronic music. Edited April 8, 2014 by Larry56
ja123 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 So, don't get your hopes up ... but, set-up a meeting with her a.s.a.p. Good Luck!
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 8, 2014 Posted April 8, 2014 Yeah...the age old question of what the hell to do next when a girl "isn't ready" but happens to be "looking". Some background info, met a girl online, we haven't met yet in person but I've prodded her to. Her and I are basically mirror-images of each other personality-wise. Which is hot. She's pretty, down to earth and well - pretty much what I've been looking for my whole life. Live quite close to each other (10 minute drive). Ummm...did I say she's awesome? We've been talking non-stop, yesterday she kinda freaked out and says she's not ready for a new relationship but I can tell she really likes me, but she feels if we keep "talking" non-stop it's unfair on me. Which is sweet of her to say. So we are kinda in a "cooling-down" period right now. I haven't asked about her exes, but I'm guessing she's come out of a heavy relationship either recently or in the past 6 months. And so she's not ready for big steps. Now LOL, here's what Women seem to say about this Woman Say: Give her time, go at her pace. But don't demand too much or too little from her.." Man Say: Kick her to the curb, find yourself another girl and forget about her - it's over - she's just using you. I'm a pretty good conversationalist, so in some ways I can see these things from the Man's point of view, I'm kinda supplementing her without getting anything in return (no guarentees). But obviously, I don't have many options because she is sooooo much cooler and intellectally interesting then any other girl I'm talking to. What should I do...and justify it. I say leave her alone or become friends with friendship being the only goal. No woman who has recently gotten out of a relationship and is emotionally torn up wants to go through it all again so soon. It took me a good 12 months to start again.
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