ryno Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Its been about two months since the best girl by far i have ever been with left me and one week later i lost my job. Dealing with this is harder for me then the average person because i have adjustment disorder or better known in slang terms is situational anxiety and depression. By definition if things are going pretty good in my life i have very little psych issues. In past relationships, when it was over i could always consider that we had some problems between us. Not this time. We broke up because her two sons did not like me. Her older daughter did like me. The reason is she did not disipline her kids at all and i could not say anything. It was very hard to not say anything because my natural reaction is to try to protect the person that is being hurt. I did talk her into taking things away from them when they would act up. They knew this and did not like me because of it. Also i slipped twice in 13 months of seeing her saying something. Note, her own 19 year old daughter told her mom you have to do something because if you don't they will do the same thing every five minutes. The boys were 12 and 16. Our plan was to move in together eventually. When it came time to do that the boys threatened her to move in with their father. She said she needed to find someone that the boys liked and would live there long term. I've beat myself up over this and have had friends tell me that its not me. Also, she is the first girlfriend i had with kids. She told me i'm not good with kids and that's ok she said. Friends have told me, what man can put up with that and it will be hard for her to find a man to move in with her in that situation. We honestly were great together and her boys ruined it for us. Its very depressing. The job situation was a killer on top of this. I'm new here and is there a way to private message? If not i could use a friend and if we could exchange emails to live chat or message privately that would be great. I'm great to talk to, caring, understanding and supportive.
Hoosfoos Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I think you have to make 50 posts in order to gain access to private messages. At least that's what i found. Regarding to your post, the title got my attention..I was also dumped and experienced job failure within a few weeks..double whammy indeed. Been down ever since.
Grumpybutfun Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I love kids, have three, and am great with them and I could not, would not live with someone who did not discipline them and let them run their household. She isn't a good mother. Good mothers have boundaries and give their children reasonable and healthy structure. Anything that gives you situational depression is not a healthy situation. Also, her boys will be gone soon and she will know that she let go of a good man because of her own limitations as a mother of placing boundaries and accepting bad behavior from her children. You dodged a bullet. Sorry about the double whammy...hope you find a job soon. Best, Grumps 1
Author ryno Posted April 8, 2014 Author Posted April 8, 2014 Like i said i'm new to this site but, i must admit that it seams strange that 200 people can look at a post and only a few people give feed back??
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