skins_nation Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 My ex and I dated for over 2years we broke up on new years over some serious issues. I ****ed up at the beginning of our relationship I cheated on her. But we manage to work through it nd I showed how much I regreted it and we fell in love each other. I took her virginity, we took the time to meet each others family. Always talked about our future. Well even tho we manage to work through our issues, she still cant get over what I did. And she tells me she tries her best but we never broken up about it cause she really loves and see that I have changed for her and are tryin to move us forward. ...well on new year's eve we got in a big fight. Nd she called it quits. I felt I had honestly lost her which made go through that whole desperate and needy scene. which was only hurting me she told me she had enough. Well I was able to catch a grip on my self nd realize I was only messing things up more so I backed off. When I did, she started to contact me and would even get mad I would try to ignore her. Well finally after about 2 months nd a couple of weeks ago we sat down and talk things through. She told me she still has feelings for me but doesnt want to jump back into our relationship so fast. I we agreed we would take things slow nd see what happens. The problem I have is that she is set to go to California in the end of june to see her family nd spend some time down there. She is originally from cali but move down to the east coast. She doesn't have a return date set. She doesn't know if she gonna be gone 3 months or till after the christmas holidays, which kills me to hear because lately we have been getting real close again we have been kissing and recently just had sex again which I didnt think I would even get from her but I did. What worries so much is that I want to be with her and im scared that she is just stringing me alone right now till she leaves. Ive talk to her about it nd told her how I feel that I want her to be honest with wats going to happen between us. That if she is set that we are not gonna get back togther before she leaves to tell me so I wont set myself for fail with me trying so hard to win her back. But for the time being all she can tell me is she doesn't know. and to wait to see what happens from here till june. But it is killing me inside because I feel she knows what she wants but Im thinkin she doesn't want to tell me the truth so I wont just cut her off but idk its a very confusing sistution like I said we are now kissing and even having sex and from all the time ive known her she isnt the type to do those things for notthing if she didnt care about me....what should I do I wanna keep pursing her and I like what we are doing but im scared that she may still not want to be together while she is away nd wait till she comes back which would really bother me....help sorry for some incorrect Grammer nd **** im typing through my phone.
Cunning_Linguist Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 My ex and I dated for over 2years we broke up on new years over some serious issues. I ****ed up at the beginning of our relationship I cheated on her. But we manage to work through it nd I showed how much I regreted it and we fell in love each other. I took her virginity, we took the time to meet each others family. Always talked about our future. Well even tho we manage to work through our issues, she still cant get over what I did. And she tells me she tries her best but we never broken up about it cause she really loves and see that I have changed for her and are tryin to move us forward. ... well on new year's eve we got in a big fight. Nd she called it quits. I felt I had honestly lost her which made go through that whole desperate and needy scene. which was only hurting me she told me she had enough. Well I was able to catch a grip on my self nd realize I was only messing things up more so I backed off. When I did, she started to contact me and would even get mad I would try to ignore her. Well finally after about 2 months nd a couple of weeks ago we sat down and talk things through. She told me she still has feelings for me but doesnt want to jump back into our relationship so fast. I we agreed we would take things slow nd see what happens. The problem I have is that she is set to go to California in the end of june to see her family nd spend some time down there. She is originally from cali but move down to the east coast. She doesn't have a return date set. She doesn't know if she gonna be gone 3 months or till after the christmas holidays, which kills me to hear because lately we have been getting real close again we have been kissing and recently just had sex again which I didnt think I would even get from her but I did. What worries so much is that I want to be with her and im scared that she is just stringing me alone right now till she leaves. Ive talk to her about it nd told her how I feel that I want her to be honest with wats going to happen between us. That if she is set that we are not gonna get back togther before she leaves to tell me so I wont set myself for fail with me trying so hard to win her back. But for the time being all she can tell me is she doesn't know. and to wait to see what happens from here till june. But it is killing me inside because I feel she knows what she wants but Im thinkin she doesn't want to tell me the truth so I wont just cut her off but idk its a very confusing sistution like I said we are now kissing and even having sex and from all the time ive known her she isnt the type to do those things for notthing if she didnt care about me.... what should I do I wanna keep pursing her and I like what we are doing but im scared that she may still not want to be together while she is away nd wait till she comes back which would really bother me....help sorry for some incorrect Grammer nd **** im typing through my phone.
Cunning_Linguist Posted April 6, 2014 Posted April 6, 2014 Had to break that up. It hurt my brain. Here is what I would do. You aren't going to like it but I have a sort of chaotic, create change kind of attitude (change happens inevitably so I like to influence and create it) I would tell her that I don't want to do a long term relationship. We can stay in touch and it'll probably be best for the relationship to let it breathe. In the mean time see other women to see how you feel. Then if she comes back and you two still have feelings for each then you can talk. There is no point in forcing things right now. Personally, I would move on as the trust barrier has been broken and things won't ever be the same again, and that feeling of insecurity will always be there...which is death to a healthy relationship. There is no point in wondering if she is stringing you along or not. She is leaving. Handle your own stuff while she is gone. Be patient and understanding, and then sort it out if and when she comes back.
Author skins_nation Posted April 6, 2014 Author Posted April 6, 2014 Thanks man I reposted your revised version. But yeah I understand what you are saying and it kills I know time will tell everything it just hurts it has to be that way. And my Insecurity is what is killing me also.. hopefully everything turns out for the best. Just sucks we are spending and doing all things togther now..
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