Iamaquaman Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Before I tell you my problem, I feel like I should give a bit of background on my situation. Me and girlfriend have been dating for about three weeks now and we get along wonderfully. We like all of the same things, make each other laugh constantly, and are just the perfect compliment to each other. Our first four dates went swimmingly, each ending with a long hug and then a kiss goodbye. So, last night we decided that we would go to the local drive-in theater with another few friends of ours. In my mind, this was the perfect opportunity for us to get even closer. That is not what happened. To me at least, the night was an absolute disaster. We were cuddling under a blanket together as we watched the movies, but it seemed like her mind was on other things. Instead of focusing on me, she was teasing one of my male friends, running her hands through his hair and playfully slapping him. She never even attempted to have fun with me. Yes, she was under the blanket with me, but it seemed that she would've preferred to be under the blanket with my friend instead. I know I should have said something, but I was too angry and frustrated with the train wreck that the night had become. So, when the movies were over, I didn't even give her a hug or anything when I dropped her off. I know it's childish, but I was just so angry that the night I was so looking forwards to had been ruined. This morning, I asked her why she completely ignored me last night, but she isn't answering. I'm assuming this is a bad sign for our relationship, but I really like her and don't want it to end. What should I do? I'm sorry if this is complete gibberish, but I'm still frazzled by what happened last night and I can barely think straight.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Before I tell you my problem, I feel like I should give a bit of background on my situation. Me and girlfriend have been dating for about three weeks now and we get along wonderfully. We like all of the same things, make each other laugh constantly, and are just the perfect compliment to each other. Our first four dates went swimmingly, each ending with a long hug and then a kiss goodbye. So, last night we decided that we would go to the local drive-in theater with another few friends of ours. In my mind, this was the perfect opportunity for us to get even closer. That is not what happened. To me at least, the night was an absolute disaster. We were cuddling under a blanket together as we watched the movies, but it seemed like her mind was on other things. Instead of focusing on me, she was teasing one of my male friends, running her hands through his hair and playfully slapping him. She never even attempted to have fun with me. Yes, she was under the blanket with me, but it seemed that she would've preferred to be under the blanket with my friend instead. I know I should have said something, but I was too angry and frustrated with the train wreck that the night had become. So, when the movies were over, I didn't even give her a hug or anything when I dropped her off. I know it's childish, but I was just so angry that the night I was so looking forwards to had been ruined. This morning, I asked her why she completely ignored me last night, but she isn't answering. I'm assuming this is a bad sign for our relationship, but I really like her and don't want it to end. What should I do? I'm sorry if this is complete gibberish, but I'm still frazzled by what happened last night and I can barely think straight. SHE CROSSED A LINE as did your friend. Do you not think he should have said hey quit it just like you should? It's entirely unacceptable and you should be more worried about what's going on there than her ignoring you. I would put my feelings in a text to the pair of them and see what comes back. That girl owes you a massive apology as does your friend for participating in the flirting. 1
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Congratz you are dating an attention whore. IMO, from what you have described, she over step her boundaries. I"m not sure how much you really know of this girl but it's possible she is liking your friend better. You need to open your eyes to what the potential of what she is doing. Her actions should be a big red flag to you, a warning that A. she can't be trusted, or B. it turns out she's not that into you, or C, she is just an attention whore and who knows what she is like around other guys when you are not there. Sure you can discuss this with her and tell her you found her behavior over stepping your relationship boundaries, and like how would she feel if you did that kind of thing to one of her friends. BUT Like I always say, go by their actions and not what they tell you. It's not looking good. 1
smackie9 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 If it were me I would save all the bs and dump her ass. 2
Valen Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 So, last night we decided that we would go to the local drive-in theater with another few friends of ours. In my mind, this was the perfect opportunity for us to get even closer. Wait what? Your idea of the perfect opportunity to get even closer with your girlfriend is to bring a male friend along on a date? I hope you don't invite your mom to join you on your honeymoon. 1
Stay Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Dump, on to the next one. If you don't it'll just cause more issues down the line. Also dating for 3 weeks and perfect compliments of each other should never be said. I don't think you know much about how well you match in just 3 weeks and this situation that happened is exactly why. 1
OhThatGirl Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 3 weeks? Girlfriend title? Relationship? Perfect compliment? Whoa now. Did you know her for a while before you two started dating? This is moving pretty quickly. Also, how old is she? Sounds like a 15 year old girl. I can't ever ever imagine behaving like that when I'm out on a group date. Be glad she's ignoring you. Take that as a clue she's just not into it as much as you are and move on.
J21 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 (edited) First of all, why the hell would u bring your FRIEND to a date?? Secondly, playful flirting is still flirting. She's so disinterested in you that she's openly flirting with someone else. Wow, I would say it's over with her in my books. Don't be delusional, if you have any sense of self worth you would agree. As harsh as it sounds, that's my assessment. Your choice whether you want to accept the reality of it or not. Edited April 5, 2014 by J21 1
quidproquo89 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 3 weeks? Girlfriend title? Relationship? Perfect compliment? Whoa now. Did you know her for a while before you two started dating? This is moving pretty quickly. Also, how old is she? Sounds like a 15 year old girl. I can't ever ever imagine behaving like that when I'm out on a group date. Be glad she's ignoring you. Take that as a clue she's just not into it as much as you are and move on. surely 3 weeks isn't too early to start a relationship, it depends on how well you to connect.
BDL Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 What now? You date other girls and don't contact your "girlfriend" until she initiates. Then proceed to treat her like your bratty little sister, and don't give all your power away. Tease and flirt with her back, but don't expect to be in any sort of long-term serious relationship with this girl. Still best advice, date other girls. Your life will be so much better than getting hung up on someone so unworthy.
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