AnneT1985 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Hi y'all, Can I get your thoughts and opinions please? When a former coworker told me she was pregnant with her first baby I wished her well and mailed her a card and baby gift. A few weeks later I was invited to her baby shower and I politely declined because I already had a previous engagement and already had sent a gift. And then 2 weeks later I was invited to yet another baby shower for her. I have yet to respond to the invitation. These showers are all well before the baby is born. What do y'all think of this and what would you do? Thanks so much xx
MidwestUSA Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 I would politely decline this one too (unless you WANT to go). You don't need a reason. You wished her well and gave her a gift (of your own free will at that!). You're done! 3
d0nnivain Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 You aren't obligated to go. I never go to baby showers. You already sent a gift. It's all good. 1
Author AnneT1985 Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 Thanks y'all I was feeling like my gift wasn't enough or something and that there was some obligation in the air! xx
serial muse Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 Thanks y'all I was feeling like my gift wasn't enough or something and that there was some obligation in the air! xx Sounds like she just has multiple friends who want to throw her showers. I agree with everyone else: You're done and off the hook! 2
GoreSP Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I was invited to a former coworker's shower - this was a coworker from 10 years ago and I haven't spoken to her since I left the job in question. It seems like people nowadays invite as many people as possible for their shower because it means more gifts... In the case of my previous coworker - I did not feel bad declining the invitation and didn't feel bad for not sending a gift either...
Author AnneT1985 Posted April 7, 2014 Author Posted April 7, 2014 10 years! Wow Gore! That must have been surprising lol
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 You already gave her a card and gift - and it doesn't sound like you're particularly close - I think you're definitely off the hook! To be honest, I think it was borderline tacky of her to invite you to TWO baby showers!! But then again, I just hate baby showers... 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted April 7, 2014 Posted April 7, 2014 I'm done with giving gifts to people for babies. I don't have kids myself so I have put quite some money in gifts for kids while never getting anything in return (since it was never my turn). What bugs me the most is that since I don't have kids, these women never want to talk to me about their kids anyway or if they do, it is with contempt as to suggest that I don't know anything about it. I have also noticed being passed over when the baby was presented as if they think I am going to drop the kid due to not being a mother myself. If they want to have kids, that's OK for me. But I am not going to sponsor it.
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