Jordvn Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 hello. lately i've been down about my ex. i tried to use NC but, regrettably broke down last night. i texted my ex last night... saying "i want another shot, we can work this out.." she responded saying that she wish we could get back together but she doesn't feel anything anymore. then we started arguing and i said "everybody was right about you, i wish i just listened. you're never going to be happy with anyone." that set her off. she said "i don't want to see you ever again, tough love, leave me alone." then she threatened to call the police if i ever contacted her again. i mean, i know what i said was wrong, but is she overreacting, or do i deserve this. she's acting like i threatened her life or something!
LadyM Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 When one is insulted by another, one is likely to receive an inflammatory response. What else did you expect? 1
Sasukie Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Learn to control your emotions. Go for a low blow, expect people to be pissed off with you. Yes, you deserved it. 3
Chi townD Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Yep! Your fault! You broke NC. Now, why don't you focus your time on finding a girl to go out with this weekend instead of a girl that wants nothing to do with you. Like this.
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 hello. lately i've been down about my ex. i tried to use NC but, regrettably broke down last night. i texted my ex last night... saying "i want another shot, we can work this out.." she responded saying that she wish we could get back together but she doesn't feel anything anymore. then we started arguing and i said "everybody was right about you, i wish i just listened. you're never going to be happy with anyone." that set her off. she said "i don't want to see you ever again, tough love, leave me alone." then she threatened to call the police if i ever contacted her again. i mean, i know what i said was wrong, but is she overreacting, or do i deserve this. she's acting like i threatened her life or something! Now you know why breaking NC is such a crap idea. I take it from this that you have finally learnt your lesson, and no such thing will ever happen again? Just checking. So many people fail to heed good advice, ignore it, or think they know better.... Let's be honest - it doesn't put you in a very good light though - does it?
Zahara Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 You're all sweet when you want to work it out and then when you don't get the response you want, you throw a tantrum and attack. What did you expect? You were at fault. 1
Strength in Healing Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 You're all sweet when you want to work it out and then when you don't get the response you want, you throw a tantrum and attack. What did you expect? You were at fault. Nailed it. The relationship is dead, doesn't matter what's "fair" anymore. Move along...
ahthepain Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I feel for you bro. Even when I have wanted to say things to my ex about how others have said how cold she is and stupid ect I have refrained. Dont worry. Move on and try to be the bigger man.
Author Jordvn Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 can't believe she would do this, today a cop came to my work to served me a restraining order against me. my ex said i kept harassing her to get back together. i admit i was a jerk, but she has a history with getting restraining orders against ppl. she got one against some dude she use to date, and i helped her last year get one against her friend she hates. she's a loose cannon and i guess this is her way at getting revenge against ppl, being passive aggressive. 1
KaliLove Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 You just admitted to acting like a jerk and you already know that she has a history of taking out restraining orders. Are you really that surprised?
hoping2heal Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 hello. lately i've been down about my ex. i tried to use NC but, regrettably broke down last night. i texted my ex last night... saying "i want another shot, we can work this out.." she responded saying that she wish we could get back together but she doesn't feel anything anymore. then we started arguing and i said "everybody was right about you, i wish i just listened. you're never going to be happy with anyone." that set her off. she said "i don't want to see you ever again, tough love, leave me alone." then she threatened to call the police if i ever contacted her again. i mean, i know what i said was wrong, but is she overreacting, or do i deserve this. she's acting like i threatened her life or something! She may be acting a bit over the top, but the outcome does not change. She does not have feelings for you and the "tough love" comment suggests she is thinking about what is best for you and wanting you to leave her be so that you will move on. Being pursued by someone you do not have interest in, can become very uncomfortable and feel crowding. I guess now you have a reason to stick to NC whether you want to or not - she does not want you contacting her and it is in your best interest to respect that request.
Zahara Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 i admit i was a jerk. There are two sides to a story, and the truth. The fact that you said that, I wonder if there is more to this story than you're actually revealing.
Author Jordvn Posted April 9, 2014 Author Posted April 9, 2014 She may be acting a bit over the top, but the outcome does not change. She does not have feelings for you and the "tough love" comment suggests she is thinking about what is best for you and wanting you to leave her be so that you will move on. Being pursued by someone you do not have interest in, can become very uncomfortable and feel crowding. I guess now you have a reason to stick to NC whether you want to or not - she does not want you contacting her and it is in your best interest to respect that request. over the top is right, this is a bit extreme. it makes me feel like i'm a creepy ex bf or a psycho. idk what i was thinking, her temper and anger management issues never changed. i'm just feeling hurt and confused right now. NC is my only choice now.
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Trust me, it gets easier with enough time and distance and only if you can master the NC rule. Good luck!
bluegreen Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 We told you so and as harsh as this is gonna sound you deserved it. We heard and been trough 10000000000 scenarios by now here as someone once said it can takes us just few moments to "know" what to say to member. She is gonna gloat over this for year at least and you will feel just as you do Perhaps next time you will remember what we preach here until we are blue in face NO CONTACT unless they crawl on hands and feet back first.
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