Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 She's a single mom who has gone back to school in her 20s. Yes I am attracted to her but she didn't show any interest, and she's definitely not as pretty as my girlfriend. I'm just helping her as a friend, she just happens to be a woman, not "Another Woman" lol. Although you're right about one thing... her recent behaviour sucks. You know medium, in a way this woman is almost like an ex-girlfriend of yours. You've spent a lot of time and some money on her kid. Women take expending resources on other women VERY seriously. Shouldn't even be doing it with your own kid with an ex unless it's court ordered. Not to mention the fact that she's actively going around telling everyone including you that the relationship is no good. You would have to get rid of her no matter what kind of girl you were dating if you want things to be peaceful. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Openly at least.
Noproblem Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Well, I won't advice you anything.. Last time I told you that you shouldn't tell her everything you feel or don't feel and you agreed and then went on telling her anyway Which really gave her power over you..... Hot or not..so what? The fact that you got her, speaks volume of you Since you could get a hot girl, you can get the next too!
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 What kind of power did it give her over me? I appreciate the sentiment that I could get a hot girl again, but I assure you it was a fluke you don't understand how it is for guys... it isn't a question of getting another hot girl or not, it's a question of even getting another girlfriend without a major struggle! If you want evidence of this, just read the countless threads on LS. .. Well, I won't advice you anything.. Last time I told you that you shouldn't tell her everything you feel or don't feel and you agreed and then went on telling her anyway Which really gave her power over you..... Hot or not..so what? The fact that you got her, speaks volume of you Since you could get a hot girl, you can get the next too!
somedude81 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 So have you tried to implement any of the things said in this thread?
pickflicker Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 What kind of power did it give her over me? I appreciate the sentiment that I could get a hot girl again, but I assure you it was a fluke you don't understand how it is for guys... it isn't a question of getting another hot girl or not, it's a question of even getting another girlfriend without a major struggle! If you want evidence of this, just read the countless threads on LS. .. If it's hard for you to get a girl, it's only because your self confidence sucks. Confident guys have no problem getting a girl, but you equate happiness with girlfriend. I don't see anything about her that elevates her sweetness above any normal woman out there. She gives you just enough sweetness in combination with her dazzling looks to allow her to behave badly. Instead of confronting her, you come on here to complain about her. If you want to be a guy she can respect, stand up to her. 2
gaius Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 She's a single mom who has gone back to school in her 20s. Yes I am attracted to her but she didn't show any interest, and she's definitely not as pretty as my girlfriend. I'm just helping her as a friend, she just happens to be a woman, not "Another Woman" lol. Although you're right about one thing... her recent behaviour sucks. I'm telling you how women interpret things. Spending money on her and her daughter is the equivalent to sleeping with her. It's not something women enjoy from a guy they're dating. And people here might be advising you to break up with her because they don't like other aspects of your relationship but that part you're gonna have to get used to, no matter what girl you date. Except for the small minority who will let you get away with anything, but who could find those girls attractive? 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 So have you tried to implement any of the things said in this thread? Yes. I told her I didn't like it. She said she was just concerned about me and didn't want anything to happen to me, and that she could not stand the thought of losing me. Not as directly as that, of course, in a much sweeter way. How the heck can I respond negatively to that? 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 I'm telling you how women interpret things. Spending money on her and her daughter is the equivalent to sleeping with her. It's not something women enjoy from a guy they're dating. And people here might be advising you to break up with her because they don't like other aspects of your relationship but that part you're gonna have to get used to, no matter what girl you date. Except for the small minority who will let you get away with anything, but who could find those girls attractive? I'm the furthest thing from an expert on how women think, so I'll have to take your word on it. I can't believe she's having such a problem with my female friend, when she's a mutual friend, though!
organizedchaos Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 What kind of power did it give her over me? I appreciate the sentiment that I could get a hot girl again, but I assure you it was a fluke you don't understand how it is for guys... it isn't a question of getting another hot girl or not, it's a question of even getting another girlfriend without a major struggle! If you want evidence of this, just read the countless threads on LS. .. The threads here are not indicative of the entire population. Who's her celebrity doppelgänger? 1
pickflicker Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Yes. I told her I didn't like it. She said she was just concerned about me and didn't want anything to happen to me, and that she could not stand the thought of losing me. Not as directly as that, of course, in a much sweeter way. How the heck can I respond negatively to that? Sucker! Power of the pussy, indeed! Tell her you won't be "checking in" when you go out unless you're running late/in a spot of bother. Stand up for yourself. And this place, like organizedchaos said, is a microcosm of unhappy people. It's a negatively skewed collection of relationship stories.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Sucker! Power of the pussy, indeed! Tell her you won't be "checking in" when you go out unless you're running late/in a spot of bother. Stand up for yourself. And this place, like organizedchaos said, is a microcosm of unhappy people. It's a negatively skewed collection of relationship stories. True, but it's still difficult. I'm similar to somedude... no problem making female friends but difficulty converting. Except I know what my problem is. I'm too uncomfortable to tell them how I feel.
pickflicker Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 True, but it's still difficult. I'm similar to somedude... no problem making female friends but difficulty converting. Except I know what my problem is. I'm too uncomfortable to tell them how I feel. You have to express your needs in a relationship, otherwise they won't be met. Took me years to learn that. Look, you can benefit from the wealth of experience, or you can ride this train to its inevitable derailment. Your choice. 1
somedude81 Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Cool, you're off to a good start. Keep standing up for yourself and she'll start to respect you more.
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