Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 You really love her after a month? Oh crikey! Why do you think this is a bad thing? We've known each other for almost a year...
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 I think what you need to take from his post, is that physical looks are not enough to make up for a horrible personality. You've half-heartedly attempted to explain that she has other good qualities, but at the end of the day, you keep coming back to the fact that she's "hot". You're thinking with your pecker. I gave solid examples of her sweet personality... Unfortunately it's difficult to express it all... but for example she texted me a message saying she misses me a few minutes ago. And how am I thinking with my picker? Lol.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Why do you think this is a bad thing? We've known each other for almost a year... Knowing someone and being "with them" are entirely different things. You are smitten you aren't in love with her. So far I've not seen a whole lot to be in love with anyway
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I gave solid examples of her sweet personality... Unfortunately it's difficult to express it all... but for example she texted me a message saying she misses me a few minutes ago. And how am I thinking with my picker? Lol. I can say I love you, I miss you, I can give you a hug and text stalk you... Doesn't mean I mean anything that I say...
pickflicker Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I gave solid examples of her sweet personality... Unfortunately it's difficult to express it all... but for example she texted me a message saying she misses me a few minutes ago. And how am I thinking with my picker? Lol. "Pecker". Penis. When you really love someone, listing their qualities is easy. You've mentioned several times, about her looks, but very little in tangible qualities. You're blinded by looks. That's ok. Just be wary. She'll never respect you if you don't stand up for yourself. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Oh Christ....this ought to be fun. So, you're going to neglect your friend because your gf doesn't like her? Also ... my friend had her chance... when we first became friends I fantasised about her. I didn't make a move because I didn't want to ruin the friendship but I told her a few times that I thought she was pretty. I helped out a lot with her daughter and tried to spend time with her to gauge her feelings. But it never moved beyond friendship. If she's really jealous... which is a big if... its really not fair of her at all.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 According to the amount of threads you've created about this one woman in 4 weeks leaves me solidly thinking this is all about her looks. She's not kind to your friends as clearly they are fighting, she messes your room and car up (she has no respect for you or your belongings) and tells you you can't go to dinner with your friend... SMELL THE COFFEE 1
pickflicker Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 (edited) Also ... my friend had her chance... when we first became friends I fantasised about her. I didn't make a move because I didn't want to ruin the friendship but I told her a few times that I thought she was pretty. I helped out a lot with her daughter and tried to spend time with her to gauge her feelings. But it never moved beyond friendship. If she's really jealous... which is a big if... its really not fair of her at all. Hon, this is all part of growing up. It's your first relationship, you landed a stunner, lost your virginity, and now, are besotted. It's a story as old as time itself. Just don't let it harden your heart. When it goes pear-shaped, look at as an experience that enriches your life, not a regret to be howled about. Ok? Edited April 4, 2014 by pickflicker
regine_phalange Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Im not going to give you any advice because you dont need it. It may take a year or two, but at some point you'll see for yourself that "hotness" is overrated. Attraction can fade, even for the hottest person on earth if their personality is not right for you. People can get less or more beautiful after you spend time with them. I dont know how to explain it further, but I can assure you that I have felt it. Been there before, and it was with a man who looked like a male model. He was lovely, never hurt me or treated me in a controlling way. Our problem was that he wasnt communicative. Without meaning to, he wasnt a good listener, and at the same time he was a very closed person. And I felt I couldnt be in a relationship with someone I didnt have a great communication with. With time my attraction to him faded completely.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Hon, this is all part of growing up. It's your first relationship, you landed a stunner, lost your virginity, and now, are besotted. It's a story as old as time itself. Just don't let it harden your heart. When it goes pear-shaped, look at as an experience that enriches your life, not a regret to be howled about. Ok? I know what you mean. I had the opportunity to lose my virginity in college. A college buddy set me up with these 2 girls, told me to go to their apartment. But when I got there they were so drunk that I just gave them a bottle of water and told them they were going to ruin their livers and left. The next year I sometimes wondered if I had done the right thing. But I think I did. My buddy felt sorry for me so set me up with drunk girls - if I had have done it it would have justified his pity.
Survivor12 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 This isn't about jealousy, it's about competition--and the OP is the pawn. As soon as the gf succeeds in pushing the friend out and proving that she is "first choice", she wins!--and it will be Game Over for the OP.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 This isn't about jealousy, it's about competition--and the OP is the pawn. As soon as the gf succeeds in pushing the friend out and proving that she is "first choice", she wins!--and it will be Game Over for the OP. Well he did state in another thread of his. He wanted to go to dinner with said friend and his girlfriend said no, he then stated he had known this friend a long time and he wanted to go - to which his girlfriend replied "but I'm your girlfriend" Makes perfect sense
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 This isn't about jealousy, it's about competition--and the OP is the pawn. As soon as the gf succeeds in pushing the friend out and proving that she is "first choice", she wins!--and it will be Game Over for the OP. Why would anyone do that?
David87 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Why would anyone do that? Relax, I'm sure you know that this relationship wont last long, It's your first. Enjoy it, have sex as often as you can and try not to get to attached.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Relax, I'm sure you know that this relationship wont last long, It's your first. Enjoy it, have sex as often as you can and try not to get to attached. Logically I know you're right, but even with all her sh.t I don't want it to end
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Logically I know you're right, but even with all her sh.t I don't want it to end Then you'll be miserable until it does end. Find someone is genuine and good and nice to you! She may not be model material but at least she won't mess with your things, friends and emotions..: It's not worth it honey 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Then you'll be miserable until it does end. Find someone is genuine and good and nice to you! She may not be model material but at least she won't mess with your things, friends and emotions..: It's not worth it honey What if I don't find anyone else, or at least not for a long time? I would have to go back to masturbating... and I JUST lost my virginity. Lol.
Keenly Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 What if I don't find anyone else, or at least not for a long time? I would have to go back to masturbating... and I JUST lost my virginity. Lol. Deal with it absent question or complaint.
martaldn Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 What if I don't find anyone else, or at least not for a long time? I would have to go back to masturbating... and I JUST lost my virginity. Lol. haha! you are funny at least 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 haha! you are funny at least Hello lube and fleshlight LMFAO 2
gaius Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Just tell her you're not going to hang out with her but you're not reporting on your location constantly either. You can't really hang out alone with someone who wants to break up your relationship and expect your partner to be ok with it if they're any kind of prize or catch. That's actually pretty normal in any relationship despite all the bad advice saying you should break up with this girl over it.
gaius Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 You know medium, in a way this woman is almost like an ex-girlfriend of yours. You've spent a lot of time and some money on her kid. Women take expending resources on other women VERY seriously. Shouldn't even be doing it with your own kid with an ex unless it's court ordered. Not to mention the fact that she's actively going around telling everyone including you that the relationship is no good. You would have to get rid of her no matter what kind of girl you were dating if you want things to be peaceful. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Openly at least.
Frank2thepoint Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 It is really becoming annoying and causing issues. What can I do to stop her from doing this? Have you thought about following some of the advice people give on here? Of course not, because if you did, you wouldn't be posting passive-aggressive threads. Grow a pair already. 1
pickflicker Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 What if I don't find anyone else, or at least not for a long time? I would have to go back to masturbating... and I JUST lost my virginity. Lol. See, it's not love. It's about the sex and how hot she looks on your arm. Like David said - have plenty of sex, try not to get too attached. Though I suspect it's a little late for that... 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 See, it's not love. It's about the sex and how hot she looks on your arm. Like David said - have plenty of sex, try not to get too attached. Though I suspect it's a little late for that... No... I definitely feel something for her And despite a few quirks I think she has a very sweet personality. It's not only about looks. Even if she wasn't hot I would be drawn to her sweetness.
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