kylej Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Hello. I'm a 17 year old coming out of my first relationship with a gorgeous 17 year old girl. She was by far the easiest and most fun girl I've ever had the pleasure of being close to. I am usually a very reserved guy but within the first couple weeks of getting to know this girl I had full trust in her. I told her things I never told anyone else, a did things with her I'd never done with anyone else. Fast forward ~3 months, she starts to pull away from me, me being the novice of relationships I am, I just try to pull her back in, but end up pushing her away. After about a week of the pull and push act, she eventually tells me I was "way too much" for her and she didn't want a relationship. After I had finally pushed her past her breaking point, I backed off. We reverted to no texting and a few snapchats a day for about a week, now we have been no contact for a little over a week. I miss her so much, and spend every moment thinking about her, how badly I messed up, and wondering how she feels. However, only a couple days after she basically broke it off with me, she starts hanging out with another guy. This is a guy she told me she thought was a huge douche while we were together. She has also changed entirely. When we were together she would spend her days studying, worrying about school, and going to sleep at 9. Now it seems like she's entered a new phase, she's going to parties and staying up and hanging out with people way later than before. For example, last week it was her birthday (the last time I talked to her) and she had a party (at her new guy's house) til 3 am... on a school night. She proudly flaunts her new guy friend via snapchat stories, and seems to be hanging out with him much more than she was hanging out with me. It hurts so bad knowing she is with someone else, probably not caring or even thinking about me at all. I don't understand how she could go from liking me so much to seemingly having no interest in my life or how I feel whatsoever. At times I feel like maybe I don't need her and will find someone else, but then I get lonely again and knowing she isn't, hurts like nothing else. If you read the whole thing thank you, venting helps me.
BDL Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 You're 17. You should be doing the same thing... having fun and hanging out with other girls. You shouldn't be in any exclusive relationship at this stage in your life. There are plenty of girls out there and stop thinking you can't find other girls to be chummy with. Go out and talk to other girls. Build your confidence because you appear needy and insecure; two traits that will kill a girl's attraction for you instantly. So how to be not needy and insecure? That'll be your homework assignment.
Arieswoman Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 kylej, I am sorry you are having a bad time over this. She's not that gorgeous if she dumped you. If she wants to be a wild-child, and flunk her exams, that's her choice. Now here's my advice for what it's worth ; Knuckle down to your schoolwork, that should be your prioity now - you need a good education to get you a good job/career. By all means have fun going out with girls, bowling, pictures(movies), bbq's, hores(back) riding, whatever, but don't think about being exclusive with anyone yet. Get yourself to college, universityor some kind of further education.It will enhance your self-esteem no end.Now I know that it seems like a lifetime away, (and I am sure that at your age you think everyone over 25 is either a BOF, geriatric or dead) but when you get to 25 and you have that law degree, or are a plastic surgeon, or have your own IT company or are turning over $1,000,000s in real estate, you'll have girls falling over themselves to go out with you. Good Luck.
swfc_77 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 kylej, turning over $1,000,000s in real estate, you'll have girls falling over themselves to go out with you. Good Luck. Stay away from women like that too
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