SilverSoul94 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Hello, and to anyone reading this, thank you in advance. Essentially, my girlfriend of close to a year broke things off with me about a month ago. We were a semi-long distance couple... I had known her since high school, and she was a best friend, but we now go to college in different states. As a result, I only routinely see her four months out of the year. I guess I should mention both of us had been in love before, and both with partners who cheated on us. Anyway, up until the breakup, she seemed perfectly happy. Then, on the first weekend of March, everything changed. She avoided me the entire weekend, until finally we finally broke up. She claimed that she lost her feelings for me all of a sudden, and that she just needs space to deal with other things in her life. She insisted that I am "the perfect boyfriend," and that I did nothing wrong. I should note that she suffers from Depression and receives anxiety attacks often, and has just recently started counseling. Despite the abruptness of her decision, she is not hopeful her feelings will return, but thinks maybe we can try again this summer if she feels up to it. My guess is around late July/early August, when she will return from a month of studying abroad. For now, I'm just giving her space. I have had mixed results in ignoring her. She texted me twice soon afterward, and I managed to resist talking to her. The third time, however, I relented. We both miss the friendship, but my romantic feelings always resurface. She, on the other hand, acts like we were never a couple, which worries and kind of angers me. Friends and family insist that I should just move on, but the more time passes, the more I miss her. This is a girl I could see myself having a serious future with, and no one has ever made me feel as cherished as she did. I can definitely live without her, but that life just isn't seeming to be worthwhile. So, what should I do now? Keep waiting things out, or just try and move on? She is starting to haunt my thoughts throughout the day, and the stress of this decision is starting to affect my performance at school and work. I thought that things would get better when time passed... But it has only gotten worse. Again, thank you for taking the time to read this, and any help is welcome. One last thing, my birthday is coming up next week. I just know she could text me a birthday greeting and I do not trust my likely-intoxicated self to ignore her. Should I even bother? Ugh...
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