napy666 Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 I showed my mom a few guys who had messaged me or checked out my profile on a few of the dating websites I am a member of. She of course finds these guys attractive but I don't. She says I am going to be alone forever because I am so picky and I am not very good looking myself so I will always be alone. I know the type of guy I like, I like guys with long hair or short long hair or that emo rocker look or a look I find attractive. BUT no mom is VERY disappointed in me for not talking to one of the guys she found attractive so yeah.
clia Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 When was the last time you went out on a date? Is it possible that you are being too picky? Have you considered trying to branch out into different types of guys? Do you respond to any guys who message you first?
Gaeta Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 I have a 26 y/o daughter doing OLD. Her type is the tall skinny long hair musician. After a couple of years of disappointments I got her to think outside the box! and finally she met this really sweet guy, he's not tall, he's got real short hair, he's not a musician! and she is crazy about him!
Jethro Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Your mother doesn't have to bang him, so who cares what she says? 2
MidwestUSA Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Since the odds of meeting up with and/or connecting with someone you chat with online are slim, it wouldn't hurt you to reply to them. You never know what's under the hood. It's a numbers game. I still personally think you need to get out of the house and out from behind the computer. 2
thecrucible Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 I think what your mums means is that it's best to have an open mind with online dating. You can't really tell whether you fancy someone just from a photograph. You have to see what they're like in person.
O'Malley Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Are you going to concerts and festivals, where you're more likely to meet these kind of guys? Certainly some are on OLD, but go to a metal or punk show on a weekend and you'll find any number of guys to talk to. I don't think you're being picky for having a physical type that you prefer, or finding long hair or emo styles sexier than clean cut. Everyone has physical preferences. My SO is one of those lean long haired musicians; what's even better is that he's a wonderful man and my family likes him a great deal. However, I probably never would have met him if I'd stayed at home.
Zahara Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 You're limiting your pool if you're going strictly by looks. Not wise. You have to be open minded. You may just be surprised that someone that looks just the opposite of what you desire may have the personality to knock you over. 1
soccerrprp Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 You base your attraction on the length of a guy's hair? Eeesh and I thought some people were too picky. 2
Shepp Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 if your not even sending them a message then you are judging a book by its cover! Give someone a chance and they might surprise you! 1
Author napy666 Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 I'm not basing the guy by their hair but I am picky with their looks. Yeah if I don't find them attractive by their photo then I won't talk to them. And I can't go out to concerts that much and even when I do, its likely the guy I end up talking too is underage of 21-under. My mom doesn't want me dating 21 year olds thats too young.
MidwestUSA Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Someone else asked, but I'll ask again. When is the last time you actually went on a date? If I recall, most of your messaging sessions just kind of peter out, and you end up wondering where the guy went. Take a chance! (Safely, of course)
Author napy666 Posted April 3, 2014 Author Posted April 3, 2014 Someone else asked, but I'll ask again. When is the last time you actually went on a date? If I recall, most of your messaging sessions just kind of peter out, and you end up wondering where the guy went. Take a chance! (Safely, of course) Last time I went on a date was July 2013. Since then I've done nothing but talk to guys but after 1 day or a few days of talking to them they stop talking to me. I was suppose to have 2 dates both guys never called me to tell me they were here.
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