Firehead94 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 She is turning 22 in 2 weeks and I am still 20. She has the whole night with me after 5 PM. I have no idea what I should get her or what I should do and Im starting to stress so much on this. I know Im gonna take her to a fancy restaurant but dont know what kind. Also, where should I take her after the dinner? And I also want to give her flowers but when would be the right timing to do so? At dinner? After dinner? Someone please help
TheNewMe2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 First - how long have you been dating. Second - she's not going to care. It truly is more in the thought than the execution. Fancy dinner - she'll love it. If you know what she likes, take her to that cuisine. If you don't know and don't want to ask her...Italian or a Chop House is typically safe. Flowers - when you show up for the date..so she can put them in water. Even better if you can order them and have them show up during the day. But she won't care when you give them to her. After dinner - make sure you have a plan and not 'whatever you want to do'. But, it should be something she likes. Again, it's more the thought and the fact you have a plan. Look at concerts in the area that night. A movie might be good too. If you have a common interest...do that. It truly is the thought that counts. I might be wrong but a lot of guys don't put in as much effort as you are planning. Your good. Don't stress, if she likes you..she'll be happy with whatever you plan.
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Why don't you ask her what her ideal birthday treat would be (within the bounds of possibility, that is.... Elizabeth Taylor's necklace may be a bit beyond that.....)...? Buy her flowers, give them to her when you pick her up. That way, she can put them in water as she gets them. hanging on to them all evening while you're out means that (a) they will wilt, and (b) she has to cart them wherever you go.
mammasita Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Order flowers and have them delivered to her during the day....will she be at work? (Most) Women love to recieve flowers at work. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 You can have the flowers delivered as has been suggested. If you don't want to do that, when you arrive for the date, hand her the bouquet. Budget enough time between your arrival at her house & your dinner reservation to enable her to have time to put the flowers in water before you leave. What's her favorite kind of food or favorite restaurant? Take her there for your fancy dinner. As for what to get her, what's your budget? Women like clothes, perfume, jewelry, handbags, & shoes all of which make great gifts You don't have to go crazy.
Mrin Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 The gift - make her something or have it be something very unique to her with a story of why you picked it for her. If money is an issue try this: write a letter from you to the you on the day before you met. What would you tell that former you about who he is about to meet? Make it personal. Make it funny. Tell him that he needs to remember to do something you would have done differently - e.g. Wash the sheets before she comes over that first night or bail on your friends that one Friday night and spend it with her. Then give her the letter. It is touching, personal and conveys how you feel about her. Another idea if you don't feel comfortable is maybe writing the letter from today You to her the day before you met or had your first date. Same idea though.
divinegrace Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 It all really comes down to how well you know her... What is her love language? Is it gifts - if so, something small and thoughtful like a unique necklace or a trinket that reminds you of her will warm her heart. Is it acts of service - if so, make a coupon book of different things you can do for her that will make her feel special, pampered, etc. A great thing to do is run her (and you) a candlelight tub with soft light (candles), soft music, gorgeous scented bubble bath and wine. Is it quality time - plan a special day with her where you go out doing things you enjoy together. Maybe a hike where you pack the lunch, perhaps a riverside fishing trip (if that's her thing, not yours, or even a day of museums, galleries or window shopping. A trip to a bookstore together can be a great time. Top it off with a coffee an walk in the park. Is it physical touch - Buy a bottle of really nice massage oil (I recommend almond oil) and give her the pampering of her life. Massage her, worship her, and maybe even try your hand at painting her toenails and fingernails. If nothing else, you'll both be laughing! Is it words of affirmation - if this is the case, the best gift you could give her is to send her adoring texts all day long and top it off with a letter written from you heart that describes what it is about her that makes her special and important to you. Remind her of her qualities, gifts, and spirit in writing. These are just ideas to start you thinking, of course, but I do think the flowers is a lovely start, and dinner is nice. Celebrations don't have to be expensive, just creative and thoughtful. She's lucky that you're thinking about this and want to make her feel special. Enjoy the opportunity to celebrate her! 2
Phoe Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 As for what to get her, what's your budget? Women like clothes, perfume, jewelry, handbags, & shoes all of which make great gifts Hehe, I'm amused by that, thinking back to the gifts my boyfriend has given me. The above ideas don't fit me at ALL. If my boyfriend bought me a handbag I wouldnt even know what to do with it haha. Hiking backpack, gun, knives, fishing stuff, camping gear... those are the kind of gifts I get. OP, you know her best, get her something that is unique to her. Don't get a generic "women like this stuff" kind of gift.
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Hiking backpack, gun, knives, fishing stuff, camping gear... those are the kind of gifts I get. OP, you know her best, get her something that is unique to her. Don't get a generic "women like this stuff" kind of gift. True you have to get the person something THEY Will like. That said. .. a backpack is sort of a bag, fishing lures like jewelry are shiny & dangly & you could always use new sporty clothes. 1
Phoe Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 That said. .. a backpack is sort of a bag, fishing lures like jewelry are shiny & dangly & you could always use new sporty clothes. So very true. And those hiking boots ARE shoes.... 1
Author Firehead94 Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Thanks for the replies so far guys Btw, I have no problem with money so anything high quality is fine. But I think Ill take her to a fancy Italian restaurant. The only thing right now Im worried about is where to go after dinner. Like somewhere romantic/fun would be nice And for the present.. She really really likes candies and chocolate so Im planning to buy her a basket full of candies and chocolate but Im kinda worried that food wouldnt really be a good present. But Im also planning to get her something else as well along with the candy basket soo... what do you guys think?
ladylight Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Well, to be honest I think candles and chocolate are kinda lame. So impersonal. But you know her better than we do!!!!
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2014 Posted April 3, 2014 Firehead Since you said $$ is no object, try this: Pick her up. Give her the bouquet of flowers. Take her to the nice Italian restaurant. Make sure you open the doors & pull out the chairs. Assuming you have already been intimate: the basket should contain good chocolate, a scented candle, some lingerie, some sensual music, & maybe some bubble bath or massage oil. If you really want to go all out put in a bottle of her favorite perfume or a gift certificate to a spa After dinner, is there any place you can go dancing? After dancing take her someplace private to give her the basket.
Author Firehead94 Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Oh yea the spa! I totally forgot, she said she really wanted to go to a spa soon. Would going to a spa after dinner be a good idea? Cuz you know.. they separate men and women for service so we cant be in the same room. And I dont like dancing so nothing like that sorry. Soo...should all the presents be in the basket? Or should I just buy another separate present like jewerly as well? By the way, we have only been in a relationship for about a month
TheNoBSBuddhist Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 ONE MONTH - ?! Good god, please, just pull back, you're stifling her! You made it sound like you've been an item for a year or so! Hell's bells, you pull all the stops out for your Mom, or someone you have loved for a long time - this is over-doing it! You need to restrain your enthusiasm a bit, fellah..... Go under-stated more than over-the-top. For a start it could turn out to be a huge waste of time and money..... Take it easy, take it slow and fer christ's sake, don't overwhelm her! Biggest turn-off ever!
Author Firehead94 Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 ONE MONTH - ?! Good god, please, just pull back, you're stifling her! You made it sound like you've been an item for a year or so! Hell's bells, you pull all the stops out for your Mom, or someone you have loved for a long time - this is over-doing it! You need to restrain your enthusiasm a bit, fellah..... Go under-stated more than over-the-top. For a start it could turn out to be a huge waste of time and money..... Take it easy, take it slow and fer christ's sake, don't overwhelm her! Biggest turn-off ever! Yea thats what I thought but it was my birthday last week and she took me a very fancy restaurant and then very fancy desert place. She also baked me cake and gave me a very good present. So I was thinking I should do the same for her
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 If you have only been dating a month, downshift Take everything I told you & put it on hold until next year. It's over the top. Flowers dinner & a card would be perfect. More is trying too hard. You will overwhelm her in a BAD way. No going to the spa after dinner would also be bad. First, they close early. Second a message on a full stomach is gross. It won't be pleasant at all.
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