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i don't think jealousy is a horrible thing


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yeah you can take it to far but i think it can be good in a minor way

 

if a guy messages my girl on facebook and says "we should kick it sometime" thats a problem for me. if its someone she knows and has hung out with, its fine, but if its someone she doesnt even know, then yeah thats a problem.

 

i would tell her no, you cant go.

 

its a matter of respect. if she did go the it would be a problem

 

one guy said my girl should come to his house one time at 2 am to just chill.

she told me and i said "nope, if you go then we are going to have a major problem"

 

was it jealousy? a bit yes, but was i wrong? nope

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What you're really discussing are reasonable boundaries and respect for your partner's feelings.

 

If my partner doesn't value my feelings, or values spending alone time with some strange woman at 2 am over me, then we don't really have much of a relationship, do we? That really has nothing to do with jealousy. He would be telling me via his actions where his priorities lie. That's fine. We can go our separate ways, and I'll find someone who values me and a relationship with me.:)

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yeah you can take it to far but i think it can be good in a minor way

 

if a guy messages my girl on facebook and says "we should kick it sometime" thats a problem for me. if its someone she knows and has hung out with, its fine, but if its someone she doesnt even know, then yeah thats a problem.

 

i would tell her no, you cant go.

 

its a matter of respect. if she did go the it would be a problem

 

one guy said my girl should come to his house one time at 2 am to just chill.

she told me and i said "nope, if you go then we are going to have a major problem"

 

was it jealousy? a bit yes, but was i wrong? nope

 

You are controlling.

 

First: Your girlfriend is more than capable to tell men to back off. If a guy hits on her she does not need your help to stand up for herself. If the guy doesn't listen to her and keeps insisting, if she asks for your help, then yes, you step up. Not before.

 

Second: It's not your place to tell your girlfriend if she can or cannot go places. Once again she is more than capable of judging for herself what is appropriate or not.

 

Third: If your girl lacks judgment and finds herself in inappropriate situations then your role is to leave and find yourself a girlfriend that has better judgment and sense of loyalty.

 

The only person you can control is yourself.

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then what is classified as it being ok to be jealous

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