corixo Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 I have been friends with him for three years. I dated two of his friends. He dated two of mine. One in which he was with for 5 years. My ex boyfriend, him and i all practically lived together for a year. He's always been a friend of mine, like a big brother. We always got along, we playfully always made fun of each other. I know him well. He is NOT a great boyfriend, I've witnessed his bad behaviour for years. He's an ******* in general, he knows that. Everyone knows that. Despite that, he has always been nice to me, and sweet and I have always felt warm and fuzzy towards him, but in a friend way. I broke up with my ex boyfriend (His ex roommate, his EX bestfriend) about a year and a half ago. Him and my ex were bestfriends but they have grown far apart. We still kept as friends, and hang out from time to time, go out for drinks, chill at his house. Just friends.. St Patricks Day we went out for drinks, got really drunk. I slept in his bed.. Wasn't the first time we slept together, although we never had sex (untill lastnight) he has tried a few times but i didn't want to complicate things...... I didnt want to end up testing our friendship, or ruining whatever we had.. Well ever since St Patricks Day, I caught feelings for him. Three years later and i find myself insanely attracted to him, when i never was before. I seriously think I'm falling in love with him... We went out yesterday, got drunk.. Went back to his place, watched movies, kissed, hugged, cuddled, ended up having sex but I am just getting off my period so we had to stop. I told him i have feelings for him, he made it clear the feeling was mutual. We both aggreed we could never be together though because of all the drama that will cause, and he doesn't want to be hated by his friends because I dated his friend for two years. Who made it clear he was pissed me and him even hung out. I had an amazing night with him.. He gave me a kiss this morning before work, I got up cleaned his room and left.. Well I still never heard anything from him!!! It's freaking me out.. I like him, a lot!! & having sex just made me extra stressed about the situation. Why isn't he texting me? Not even a thank for you for cleaning his room, lol I thought was a cute gesture. Like I said, i know the guy all too well. He's very stubborn, and so am i. So if i dont hear from a guy I will not be the first to ttext. He's immature in a lot of ways too.. Is he just being stubborn..... or is he just a complete dick
TXGuy Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Why are you not texting him? Being stubborn or just being a &&&&&? Look, you have known this guy for a long time and you know he is a horndog. You discussed with him and agreed that whatever hookups you two do have to be kept hidden...because if it was known to his friends, they would think he is being a d&&k (more so than usual). So, this guy has been a d&&k for as long as you have known him and you are wondering why he is being a d&&k now? It doesn't seem like that big of a deal. You have agreed to be secret fwb. The only thing you are in disagreement over is who should text first. The answer is: whoever wants to more. If you really want him to text first, give it a week. Next time he gets drunk and wants to shag, he will text you. 1
Damaged217 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Do you guys normally text on a daily basis? I'm not sure why you are freaking out. You both agreed that dating would be a bad idea. He's just going about his business as normal. You should definitely stick to not texting him first though. Would you have cleaned his room before you guys had sex? Maybe you cleaning his room freaked him out and he's scared that you didn't mean what you said about you two not dating.
Omei Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 You guys arnt in a relationship that means he doesn't have to answer to you, text you or make you feel better etc. And you this morning he kissed you and left so you haven't even given him a full day? Since its clear you like him more than just fwb and the cleaning of his room etc your starting to give him relationship perks, dont expect anything back you're only fwb I think moving forward is a bad idea since you're looking for more back when you prob won't get it.
newmoon Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Why isn't he texting me? Not even a thank for you for cleaning his room, lol I thought was a cute gesture. he's not texting because you're not his girlfriend and he probably just wants you for sex. so you don't get the little nice things girlfriends might get, like a text, or a thanks for cleaning the room. you're a fwb so you shouldn't be worried that he isn't calling. that = a relationship, doesn't it? maybe that's what you really want
Damaged217 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 P.S. If you are serious about not being together, you need to stop hooking up ASAP. You already like him and that feeling is only going to intensify the more you sleep together. Don't ruin a friendship over sex.
Author corixo Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Why are you not texting him? Being stubborn or just being a &&&&&? Look, you have known this guy for a long time and you know he is a horndog. You discussed with him and agreed that whatever hookups you two do have to be kept hidden...because if it was known to his friends, they would think he is being a d&&k (more so than usual). So, this guy has been a d&&k for as long as you have known him and you are wondering why he is being a d&&k now? It doesn't seem like that big of a deal. You have agreed to be secret fwb. The only thing you are in disagreement over is who should text first. The answer is: whoever wants to more. If you really want him to text first, give it a week. Next time he gets drunk and wants to shag, he will text you. What you're saying makes complete sense. He is known to be a dick, but he's always been sweet to me. He has ALWAYS showed respect for me. Whenever we would go out, he would say things like "Don't f*cking talk to her that way" If a guy at a bar was being a pig. He's always been protective over me.. and this wasnt a booty call, we were hanging out all day, and WE decided to go go out and drink.. (too much)........ So the fact I havent heard anything from him makes me angry cause I feel like now I'm "just another girl" to him..
Author corixo Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 Do you guys normally text on a daily basis? I'm not sure why you are freaking out. You both agreed that dating would be a bad idea. He's just going about his business as normal. You should definitely stick to not texting him first though. Would you have cleaned his room before you guys had sex? Maybe you cleaning his room freaked him out and he's scared that you didn't mean what you said about you two not dating. Yes, He knows me I would totally clean his room regardless. That's just how I am.. and I'm not a crazy girl that acts as a stage 5 clinger. Im the total opposite, and we do text regularly. The other day he was mad at me because we were suppose to hangout last Thursday and i was too busy and completely forgot. He didnt text me for a couple days and i asked why and he said he was pissed at me cause I never go see him. He told me he missed my beautiful face, etc etc... So it's not just me and him are "Fb's"... We never had sex untill last night..
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 corixo, Reading what little you think of him and knowing that he's not good bf material, but still had sex with him and now think you're falling in love with him....YOU HAVE ISSUES. Again, another example of a girl that some guys harp about that seems to be attracted to *********s....good luck. 1
jay1983 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 If I slept with somebody I've known that long. Boyfriend's friend and all that, I'd feel a little weird. That might be why he hasn't text you. "Hey what's up"
GoreSP Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Good grief, not this again… This reminds me of the Don't drink and drive campains. Everyone knows you shouldn't drink and drive but too many people do it anyways. Everyone knows having sex doesn't mean a commitment yet too many people sleep with someone they like and are all surprised when this sh*t happens. If you can't handle getting dumped after sex, don'T have sex outside of relationships. 3
Phantom888 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Ugh. You had sex with someone you know well, is known to be a prick, and you are expecting friendship to continue? If I had known that *******s get laid so easily, I would have been a complete prick all these years! Geez!
Author corixo Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 It wasnt easy for him at all. We've slept in the same bed many times and just cuddled. Yes I said hes an ******* in general but never to me.. I caught feelings after three years of knowing him. He said he cares about me, thinks about me all the time. Goes through my phone, gets jealous over other guys. Etc..
mammasita Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 You know this guy, you know how he is. What exactly makes you think that he has a magic switch that he can flip on and off to make him not treat you like a complete douche just like everyone else. Guess what, he doesn't.
Andy_K Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Yes I said hes an ******* in general but never to me How a guy treats other people is a much better indicator of his general character, and it's also how he'll treat you when the novelty of finally getting you wears off. Don't ever ignore it and tell yourself he's different with you.
Grumpybutfun Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 He treated you well because you were a challenge, after you hooked up you aren't a challenge anymore. Simple. Stop cleaning his room, that is what mothers do. Move on, Grumps
Leigh 87 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 You knew him for years. You admitted he was a known douche. WHY oh why did you expect to be able to "change" him? You defied all logic, frankly; you knew what he was like and yet you slept with him knowing you had FEELINGS for him.... Most women of any reasonable level of intelligence AND who respect themselves would NOT get involved with a man they knew was a jerk. Plain and simple. I cringed with you said you cleaned his room. What exactly has he done for you besides give you an orgasm? Please use common sense next time. Guys like him often don't change, and if they DO change it is only because they meet an absolutely stunning looking girl who they happen to fall head over heels for and who they then TRY to change for. 1
Author corixo Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I made his bed and picked up all the beer bottles we drank and put them into the case.. I didnt dust and vacuum. Relax, lol
PegNosePete Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Why isn't he texting me? I think you answered your own question earlier... He's an ******* in general, he knows that. Everyone knows that.
GoreSP Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I made his bed and picked up all the beer bottles we drank and put them into the case.. I didnt dust and vacuum. Relax, lol Ok now I think we have a troll...
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