InnocentMan Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 You need to get into the habit of equal texting. If someone just disappears after a series of texts, without a goodbye, the onus is on them to text you. She may have just been called away, but two unanswered follow up texts looks a tad needy. If I just suddenly stop texting someone without a goodbye, it means they have said something that has suddenly scunnered me. Any follow up texts just reinforce it. There's a million reasons why people just fall of the face of the earth. I wouldn't take it personally, although it won't do any harm to have a quick look and see if you said anything too goofy.
FloridaKeys Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Keenly, Whatever happened to that girl that was hot for you? The medical practitioner girl...did you ever update that thread? Why you start the thread and leave everyone hangin?
Author Keenly Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 All she ever did was work. Work work school sleep with school sleep work work , better not text back so I can keep working and going to school. She never initiated a single time so I was finished with her.
CrystalCastles Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Keenly, internet chemistry =/= real life chemistry, though you probably already knew that. Come on. This is one girl. One is 3.5 billion (let's assume hypothetically the population is split evenly among genders). Hardly a reason to overreact. You don't know this girl, she's a complete stranger. You might find out that she's actually an axe murderer. You don't know her from the average Jane, spare yourself the heartache and don't get attached until you've been on a decent number of dates. Can you google the beta key instead? Any time I need something illegal, someone on some site has already posted it. You seem like a good guy, Keenly. It boggles my mind that you're having such dating troubles. I would have thought someone in our age group would have totally pounced on you by now... 3
Els Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 So you've not heard from her for... all of 1 day, if I read your post correctly? Try and calm down, focus on something else, hang out with friends. It's just been a day! You haven't known her for all that long. It could be normal for her to just take a break from texting and just do something else.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 She flaked. And you sent two texts and no response. You cannot send a third. Just that simple. Move on to the next!
Thegreatestthing Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I am doing this ATM it's been about the same amount of time too,I really don't know why Im doing it,I don't not like the guy ,I am just feeling unsure about him you see.
saltyfishhead666 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 ..... you're suggesting deleting her number because she hasn't texted me in 23 hours? That sounds a bit extreme , doesn't it? For all I know, she dropped her phone in the toilet. This threads isn't really about what she is up to, but how I stop myself from being an idiot and scaring her away. I mean, assuming I haven't done that yet When I found myself getting "too keen" which is exactly how you've come across I deleted his number simply so I couldn't do it anymore. I get where you are coming from, you like someone, you want to talk to them. The issue with texting is you cannot tell bar silence that they are as into you as you are them if that make's sense. When you find yourself getting curious and wanting to text her again STOP and do something else. Go for a run, see friends and leave your phone at home!!! chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased isn't good. I've been at both ends and when it happened to me all I thought was how ****ing annoying! People aren't battering you for asking for advice, you are being given advice and you aren't taking it. Trust me when I say 9/10 times these people are correct. 3
contact1 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Sorry to hear about your dating woes. My advise would be go score yourself some more numbers
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 ..... you're suggesting deleting her number because she hasn't texted me in 23 hours? That sounds a bit extreme , doesn't it? For all I know, she dropped her phone in the toilet. This threads isn't really about what she is up to, but how I stop myself from being an idiot and scaring her away. I mean, assuming I haven't done that yet Is it just me or are the responses around here getting more and more nastier, aggressive and unhelpful.. Im sure it wasnt like this when I joined! x Dont worry Keenly u wouldnt be normal if u didnt get a bit excited about meeting someone u seem to have a lot in common with... just chill now and see what happens.... right a list of everything u are going to do on every hour of today and follow it... that will fill your time x
Author Keenly Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Keenly, internet chemistry =/= real life chemistry, though you probably already knew that. Come on. This is one girl. One is 3.5 billion (let's assume hypothetically the population is split evenly among genders). Hardly a reason to overreact. You don't know this girl, she's a complete stranger. You might find out that she's actually an axe murderer. You don't know her from the average Jane, spare yourself the heartache and don't get attached until you've been on a decent number of dates. Can you google the beta key instead? Any time I need something illegal, someone on some site has already posted it. You seem like a good guy, Keenly. It boggles my mind that you're having such dating troubles. I would have thought someone in our age group would have totally pounced on you by now... Maybe its the fact the BECAUSE I'm s good guy that I'm having troubles. Nothing worth having is ever easy, is it? So... before I make the next move I'm about to make , I just want to make sure... The consensus is to just forget about it and move on? And people keep asking about the key, I wouldn't have any interest in playing this game without the ulterior motive of spending time with her via LAN type setting.
regine_phalange Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 So POF, found this girl. Cute, nerdy, fellow gamer, blah blah blah. Five messages back and forth later ( novels ) gave her my digits and we started texting. She stopped responding yesterday around 2, I figured she went to work or something. Haven't heard from her since. The reason I'm worried is because she spent half the time convincing me to try out this game with her, and she was going to send me a beta key. Then came radio silence. I sent one text around 9pm playfully asking for my beta key so I could get my character creation going. Sent her one text today that just said " hey there " Now I'm doing that extremely unhealthy mental panicking because I really think her and I could be something special. I'm trying to distract myself but I have a very stubborn mind that can be hard to derail. I'm debating putting a sticky note on my phone with the word NO! on it. Any advice to keep something so stupid from bothering me? Well, you sending her those two texts is not a mistake, it's a nice display of interest, and if she didn't want to reciprocate, that's her problem. Even if you text her again "Are you alive and well?" or so, a) she will either reply "yes" and you will be dissapointed of her ignoring you, either b) she won't reply and you will have to use your imagination about what happened -> don't do that, it's quite unlikely that some tragedy hit her. She probably may think that because you never met f2f it's okay to do the impolite sudden fadeout.
Author Keenly Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Well, you sending her those two texts is not a mistake, it's a nice display of interest, and if she didn't want to reciprocate, that's her problem. Even if you text her again "Are you alive and well?" or so, a) she will either reply "yes" and you will be dissapointed of her ignoring you, either b) she won't reply and you will have to use your imagination about what happened -> don't do that, it's quite unlikely that some tragedy hit her. She probably may think that because you never met f2f it's okay to do the impolite sudden fadeout. I messaged her on friday, heard back on friday night, texted a little on saturday, stopped hearing from her sunday. There wasn't exactly any time to arrange a face to face in that short span. I have a plan though. It's going to work. Trust me on this one. I'll report back hopefully by the end of the day with how it went.
Iguanna Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Keenly you confuse me. I bet that if this first post you made here would have been written by another person the reply he would have taken from you would have been "relax dude! you only exchanged some messages and haven't even met her! get a life already" or something similar. Then you go and do this thread yourself. I can't figure you out to be honest. 1
smackie9 Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 It sucks when the interest peters out to nothing. You struggle with the fact that she isn't continuing to let this develop. This is all online crap, temporary affairs, that in reality really don't have that much reality, and most of it is fantasy. This is why the boards are plugged up with threads like this one. There is way too much investment in emtions over a computer screen. Sure it's 2014 and this is what 24 year olds find themselves doing...but it also has issues, because it is stupid crap that you young-uns do that gets you all in en emotinal hot mess of anxiety and for wut? NOTHING! I agree with the other posts...get a life! Go out and socialize irl with real people, that you can touch, hug , kiss, look into their eyes, etc. This generation is so socially inept and a lot of it has to do with modern technology, texting, and FB, doesn't teach them proper social skills. You have become a pile of emotionalmush, that are ready to hang themselves from a cutain rod becuase someone didn't answer your texts. 2
Author Keenly Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Have a little more faith in your buddy Keenly you two! Trust me... I've got this. Once I set my plans in motion I can all but promise the worrying I was experience will not be for naught. Just because I'm a rational / logical person doesn't mean I'm not allowed to experience a little emotion sometimes, but have faith. Fruit will be born from this endeavour. Mark my words. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Keenly you confuse me. I bet that if this first post you made here would have been written by another person the reply he would have taken from you would have been "relax dude! you only exchanged some messages and haven't even met her! get a life already" or something similar. Then you go and do this thread yourself. I can't figure you out to be honest. If i had a £1 for every time I didnt follow my own advice Id be a millionaire! lol x This is so typically me... I am so good at giving advice and so rubbish at following it for myself! x 1
Author Keenly Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Boom. First meeting arranged. ( I always hesitate to call them dates because it adds unneeded pressure ) Two days hence, after work. 3
RonaldS Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Boom. First meeting arranged. ( I always hesitate to call them dates because it adds unneeded pressure ) Two days hence, after work. Good. Now friggin relax. Don't build this into somethingn until you have some materials to build with.
Author Keenly Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Good. Now friggin relax. Don't build this into somethingn until you have some materials to build with. I wish it was so easy. I'm still nervous as hell.
fujidabruin Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I wish it was so easy. I'm still nervous as hell. Hey Dude, its kinda funny to hear you so excited about a girl..... but I think it is a good thing. I guess I was more familiar with the calm, cool, and reflective guy that you projected in past romantic events. Just be yourself and keep the enthusiasm high without focusing on expectation and everything will work out Good Luck Keenly
Author Keenly Posted April 4, 2014 Author Posted April 4, 2014 Just thought I'd give the update. Just got back from meeting with her. I met her right after work after a lengthy drive. We sat and talked for four hours. I believe I have chosen my next girlfriend. She was into it, and we have a great deal in common. Including our love of video games and all things nerdy. This should be an exciting development, if the gods so will it. 6
Phoe Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Just thought I'd give the update. Just got back from meeting with her. I met her right after work after a lengthy drive. We sat and talked for four hours. I believe I have chosen my next girlfriend. She was into it, and we have a great deal in common. Including our love of video games and all things nerdy. This should be an exciting development, if the gods so will it. Awwwww I'm so excited for you keenly!
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