Married, but crush on Married coworker

[BreakOnThrough]

I don't know Man, you need to treat this Woman as a threat to your marriage and think of her on those terms. Crushes are normal and dissipate over time once you get to know people better. You need to establish proper boundaries and steer your interactions to more of a professional level. She should NOT be sharing private details of her/your marriage, that is completely inappropriate and will lead to bad things.

 

Another thing, your wife will NOT be interested in knowing you have a crush on someone, keep it to yourself. It is VERY normal, but something that should NEVER be discussed with a significant other. Gradually decrease communication with this person and make her another coworker like everyone else and you will be fine.

[VeronicaRoss]

Hormones are way smarter than us for a reason, it's all about fooling us into making babies. So don't romanticize this. Read more threads on LS to see where this will take you if you don't make choices to stop this interaction, because if you want to save your marriage that's what every choice has to be now.

 

It is very easy and common to be in love with two or more people at once. And this won't be the only time it happens, so get used to dealing with it.

 

That's why feelings aren't any indicator of of our character, how we act is how people judge us.

 

Carrie is right, tell your wife but most importantly ask your boss for another assignment and stop making and accepting texts. You are perfectly aware of what you're doing, there is no excuse if you 'suddenly find yourself in her arms'.

 

Your marriage or this affair. It's your choice. Every step of the way.

[90s kid]

If you truly love your wife and don't want to end your marriage, you need to put some distance between you and this coworker. STOP texting, emailing, or having any contact with her whatsoever outside of the office. Inside of the office, keep your interactions with her work related.