katinlc Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Hi all! I tried OLD for the first time at the end of last year...met someone, dated a couple of months and broke up a couple of weeks ago. I put my profile back up about a week ago and started talking with multiple people. I'm generally a one person at a time kind of dater, but my experience with OLD before was that you talk to a lot of people but many don't actually ask you out, so you need to be talking to multiple people, so that's what I did when I got back online. Problem is they are all asking me out now & I'm not sure I can handle it!!! I currently am talking to 4 people. I went out with one last night, am going out with another tonight, and have the third scheduled for Friday. The one I went out with last night was nice enough and we had a lot in common, but I didn't feel a huge spark. I'm afraid that's because of tonight's date possibility, but I'm not going to write off the first guy when I haven't even met the second guy. I guess any tips you can provide, would be greatly appreciated. I have no interest in multi-dating past a couple of dates, but think I should give everyone a fair shot before narrowing it down. Do I tell them flat out I'm seeing other people or just if they ask? I just don't even know where to begin so any advice would be greatly appreciated! Why didn't I have this problem the first time around - then maybe I wouldn't have ended up dating the cheating douchebag I ended up with!!!
HappyLove Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 NO! Don't tell them your multi dating! Trust me they are too! That's why your all online to meet people and hopefully find a match. No need to explain your dating several people. If asked just say I'm dating. Don't get too excited OLDing is full of flakes so just stick to what you have going now and IF any of them ask you out again and you like them enough then go.
StanMusial Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Hi all! I tried OLD for the first time at the end of last year...met someone, dated a couple of months and broke up a couple of weeks ago. I put my profile back up about a week ago and started talking with multiple people. I'm generally a one person at a time kind of dater, but my experience with OLD before was that you talk to a lot of people but many don't actually ask you out, so you need to be talking to multiple people, so that's what I did when I got back online. Problem is they are all asking me out now & I'm not sure I can handle it!!! I currently am talking to 4 people. I went out with one last night, am going out with another tonight, and have the third scheduled for Friday. The one I went out with last night was nice enough and we had a lot in common, but I didn't feel a huge spark. I'm afraid that's because of tonight's date possibility, but I'm not going to write off the first guy when I haven't even met the second guy. I guess any tips you can provide, would be greatly appreciated. I have no interest in multi-dating past a couple of dates, but think I should give everyone a fair shot before narrowing it down. Do I tell them flat out I'm seeing other people or just if they ask? I just don't even know where to begin so any advice would be greatly appreciated! Why didn't I have this problem the first time around - then maybe I wouldn't have ended up dating the cheating douchebag I ended up with!!! This time around you get the pleasure of dating multiple cheating douchebags. Have fun!
Babolat Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 Hi all! I tried OLD for the first time at the end of last year...met someone, dated a couple of months and broke up a couple of weeks ago. I put my profile back up about a week ago and started talking with multiple people. I'm generally a one person at a time kind of dater, but my experience with OLD before was that you talk to a lot of people but many don't actually ask you out, so you need to be talking to multiple people, so that's what I did when I got back online. Problem is they are all asking me out now & I'm not sure I can handle it!!! I currently am talking to 4 people. I went out with one last night, am going out with another tonight, and have the third scheduled for Friday. The one I went out with last night was nice enough and we had a lot in common, but I didn't feel a huge spark. I'm afraid that's because of tonight's date possibility, but I'm not going to write off the first guy when I haven't even met the second guy. I guess any tips you can provide, would be greatly appreciated. I have no interest in multi-dating past a couple of dates, but think I should give everyone a fair shot before narrowing it down. Do I tell them flat out I'm seeing other people or just if they ask? I just don't even know where to begin so any advice would be greatly appreciated! Why didn't I have this problem the first time around - then maybe I wouldn't have ended up dating the cheating douchebag I ended up with!!! Perhaps my post on this will help you: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/467470-online-dating-how-manage-multiple-prospects
elseaacych Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 It's easier to assume that everyone you date is dating other people until you agree to enter into a committed relationship.
Author katinlc Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 This time around you get the pleasure of dating multiple cheating douchebags. Have fun! Ok - this made me laugh out loud!!!
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