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Just found out ex is going to Poland for student exchange program for a year starting in september.

 

Feeling so bad. This will be a little hardcore venting but...

 

The pain is unbearable. I just can't take it. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't work, I can't study. All I am thinking is she is so happy right now, imagining polish nights with a hot european guy, pounding her over and over again all night long and she is enjoying is so badly that when she looks back at me she disgusts herself that she has been with me because there are hundreds of times better guys out there than me.

 

Damn..

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Oh my! how long has it been since you guys broke up? You shouldn't be seeking news about your ex. A few months ago, I used to have a breakdown when I heard my ex went for a beer with his colleagues. Everything is exaggerated and opens the door for wild, inaccurate imagination after the breakup. So, it's best to avoid any news or contact for a few months.

 

Also, you should work on developing some self-love and self-respect. Not everyone your ex is going to meet is better than you. Come on! you will be okay. You will meet someone new, and your ex will just be a distant memory.

 

Read some self-help books. There are plenty out there, I'd be happy to provide a list if you're interested. Also, try to work on improving your appearance by working out and getting a slight makeover (new haircut, new outfit, etc). This helps a lot with self-esteem issues. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. Try to go out and socialize as much as you can. Meet new people and surround yourself with people who love you.

 

You're in college, this is the best part of your life (believe me). You have endless opportunities. Go for an exchange program as well, get engaged in extra-curricular activities, take a class that you enjoy a lot, work on improving your GPA.

 

Your ex is going on an exchange program, she's improving herself, and getting new experiences. You should do the same, instead of wondering who she's sleeping with.

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Oh my! how long has it been since you guys broke up? You shouldn't be seeking news about your ex. A few months ago, I used to have a breakdown when I heard my ex went for a beer with his colleagues. Everything is exaggerated and opens the door for wild, inaccurate imagination after the breakup. So, it's best to avoid any news or contact for a few months.

 

Also, you should work on developing some self-love and self-respect. Not everyone your ex is going to meet is better than you. Come on! you will be okay. You will meet someone new, and your ex will just be a distant memory.

 

Read some self-help books. There are plenty out there, I'd be happy to provide a list if you're interested. Also, try to work on improving your appearance by working out and getting a slight makeover (new haircut, new outfit, etc). This helps a lot with self-esteem issues. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. Try to go out and socialize as much as you can. Meet new people and surround yourself with people who love you.

 

You're in college, this is the best part of your life (believe me). You have endless opportunities. Go for an exchange program as well, get engaged in extra-curricular activities, take a class that you enjoy a lot, work on improving your GPA.

 

Your ex is going on an exchange program, she's improving herself, and getting new experiences. You should do the same, instead of wondering who she's sleeping with.

 

I am not a student. I am working full time but also studying on my masters degree. That is all. I don't meet any girls to hang out.

 

I am 24 and she is 20.

 

She broke up with me 10 months ago, then I went NC and she wrote me 2.5 months later, then I told her not to contact me and she contacted me 3.5 months later again, which is 2 months ago. We spent ngiht together but then both decided it wont work and left each other. Then I told her I want a relationship with her and she said she doesn't want it.

 

I don't love her or anything, just sex was perfect. And the idea of she will bang someone else is hurting me so deep.

 

I am going to gym to work out, I am working full time as an engineer, also I am tudying on automotive engineering masters program. I am doing my best to improve myself but still her life seem so much better for me and she is much more happier than I am.

 

I am misarable. Skipped work today, ate nothing, doing nothing but stalking my ex.

 

Ah it hurts so damn much. I want to throw up. How can she be happy while I am so miserable?

 

I want her to be with me forever and not a single guy should touch her.

 

I am on 2 months NC. If she checks up on my on facebook I seem okay and moving on. But inside I am horrible. Thinking of her nonstop.

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I don't love her or anything, just sex was perfect. And the idea of she will bang someone else is hurting me so deep.

 

So you don't love her, but want to have a relationship with her just to have sex. And you also don't want her to move on and find someone who will actually love her, just so you'll have sex with her?! Do you even hear yourself? wow!

 

I am on 2 months NC. If she checks up on my on facebook I seem okay and moving on. But inside I am horrible. Thinking of her nonstop.

 

Just like you're pretending to be okay on social media, she might be pretending as well. But then, she might be actually happy and moving on. The point is, you're not doing NC until you stop stalking her. Block her or desactivate your Facebook for a few weeks/months. What you don't see can't hurt you. and what she does or does not do is none of your business anymore. It's time to let go, heal, and find someone you actually care about in a non-superficial way!

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So you don't love her, but want to have a relationship with her just to have sex. And you also don't want her to move on and find someone who will actually love her, just so you'll have sex with her?! Do you even hear yourself? wow!

 

 

 

Just like you're pretending to be okay on social media, she might be pretending as well. But then, she might be actually happy and moving on. The point is, you're not doing NC until you stop stalking her. Block her or desactivate your Facebook for a few weeks/months. What you don't see can't hurt you. and what she does or does not do is none of your business anymore. It's time to let go, heal, and find someone you actually care about in a non-superficial way!

 

I have no idea why it take so long for me to get over her? I feel like she will stick with me lifetime and I will never get over her.

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I have no idea why it take so long for me to get over her?

 

because you're stalking her. you'll NEVER move on if you don't stop.

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because you're stalking her. you'll NEVER move on if you don't stop.

 

Okay, now I know she is going to Poland and she will have good time there. There is no reason left for me to stalk on her. I am stopping it.

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Okay, now I know she is going to Poland and she will have good time there. There is no reason left for me to stalk on her. I am stopping it.

 

 

Please do. Not trying to be an asshat here. But, this thread is pointless the moment I read that you don't love her, only the sex.

 

 

If you don't love her, then let it go! Find someone that you can love. And she has the right to do the same!

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