kgreatie Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Lately I've been trying to talk to some new people, just to see where it goes. Every single time something flirty comes out of it, flashbacks of something my ex did or said come up and it kills me. I can't even think about having sex with someone else because I always think back to when my ex and I had sex. I have no idea what to do. It's been almost 6 weeks since we broke up and I still miss him more than everything. I want to move on but it seems impossible. Nothing seems to work out for me anymore and I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm really starting to lose all hope. I'm thinking about calling out of work today because I can't stop crying and I'm so depressed about everything.
4everalones Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Lately I've been trying to talk to some new people, just to see where it goes. Every single time something flirty comes out of it, flashbacks of something my ex did or said come up and it kills me. I can't even think about having sex with someone else because I always think back to when my ex and I had sex. I have no idea what to do. It's been almost 6 weeks since we broke up and I still miss him more than everything. I want to move on but it seems impossible. Nothing seems to work out for me anymore and I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm really starting to lose all hope. I'm thinking about calling out of work today because I can't stop crying and I'm so depressed about everything. 6 weeks is a very short time to heal and get over your ex completely. I made the mistake of dating too soon after the breakup and it just made me compare everyone to my ex and cling to hope even harder. I would suggest taking some time to focus on yourself and make sure you are happy by yourself. It's only at this stage that dating becomes appealing and healthy. Try to read a few self-help books, avoid any memory triggers, workout everyday to release endorphin, socialize with your friends, take a new hubby or indulge in old ones. I know it's hard and that you miss him a lot. It's completely normal. Just allow yourself to grieve and work through the pain. There is always light at the end of the tunnel
Author kgreatie Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 6 weeks is a very short time to heal and get over your ex completely. I made the mistake of dating too soon after the breakup and it just made me compare everyone to my ex and cling to hope even harder. I would suggest taking some time to focus on yourself and make sure you are happy by yourself. It's only at this stage that dating becomes appealing and healthy. Try to read a few self-help books, avoid any memory triggers, workout everyday to release endorphin, socialize with your friends, take a new hubby or indulge in old ones. I know it's hard and that you miss him a lot. It's completely normal. Just allow yourself to grieve and work through the pain. There is always light at the end of the tunnel Yeah, you're right. I feel like I have a huge void that needs to be filled, but nothing fills it. I've bought a few self help books and I've been with friends alot and going to the gym, and getting a new pet soon. It's always there in the back of my mind, that he's gone and left when I needed him. He was perfect for me and I'm worried I'll never find someone like that again
WYSWYG Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 ...... He was perfect for me and I'm worried I'll never find someone like that again If he was perfect for you, then you would still be together right?. You WILL find someone like him or even one better than him again. Trust me on that. I've had days like yours in the past 4 months when everything seems lifeless and uninteresting. Sometimes I just cry in bed and not move - very unmanly but I didn't hold back. 'had to let it go. On better days, I focused on starting bigger projects that required time - redecorated my crib while listening to interesting stories on youtube. The sense of accomplishment and newfound knowledge was uplifting i.e. I had no idea Einstein married his cousin. Othertimes, I'd pick up my new guitar and immersed myself to hours of guitar tutorials on youtube. Playing the blues seems more genuine now. A glass of wine every night helps me to sleep - Malbec became my favorite and then allocate time on the treadmill just to check the extra drinking calorie. The gym is a good distraction itself. I hope you can get yourself distracted to minimize the bad days. I still get them now and then. This weekend got me teary-eyed again, actually. Hang in there. We will overcome this...we will.
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