Author Gaeta Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 I have not seen him since last Saturday and I saw him for just a couple of hours. I was looking forward to this weekend. Ohhhh well! `sigh ` When I contacted him he replied: yes my love. First time he used that with me. It was strategically well introduced tonight.
Leigh 87 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 This sort of thing phases me too. I don't need a guy to spend every waking moment with me that he has free, but one day per weekend he needs to LONG to see me. If he initiates a date on Sunday, no problemo. If, however, he hangs with his friends instead of opting to see you, I would wait to see when he next initiates seeing you. If he goes another week without seeing you that is a big red flag. The crazy in love type of love starts with a man who is really into you and craves your company. If you are cool with the type of guy who doesn't tend to long for your company all that much, then sure, you can have a happy and stable romance still with a decent guy. Just not the hot passion of that type of love whereby a man moves mountains for you, to see you regularly because without you he is just left missing you too much. My opinion isn't really valid to most people, they think heck, people need time to "chill". Sure, he can chill in the morning and offer to drop by Sunday for dinner; he can spend the entire day chilling before seeing her if he wants. 1
Author Gaeta Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 Leigh: I agree with you. It was a sheetty excuse. 2
smackie9 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 2. He made a comment not long ago that it was too bad I was not living closer because he'd be happy I organize his life every day of the week. Does this mean laying his clothes out each morning and cutting the crust off his sandwiches? lol Sorry to comment like this but this does scream mommy issues. It's amazing how something traumatic in one's childhood would have such an effect on them in adulthood....very interesting.
TaurusTerp Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 You can't just change the entire dynamic on a whim and not let him know, are you crazy? How could he possibly know what you are thinking unless you tell him? You're 48, jesus christ grow up and stop dating like a 20 year old. Use your words.
gaius Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Laundry is for Sunday afternoons not Saturday night.
WP4046 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Offer to have sex on the washer during the spin cycle??? Is that because women can control a man with sex?
WP4046 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Cos if you are not "pursued" you feel inferior i.e. less confident, smart and independent??????? I hear all this BS all the time, and you know what? Not everyone is willing to play that game, myself included And unattractive. can't leave that off the list
TouchedByViolet Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 This guy is just not that into you. He might as well be holding up a sign. 2
WP4046 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Best headache cure? Orgasm. Dude's not thinking straight. Why dos sex have to always be am immediate cure for a man's problem like we are not human? 1
WP4046 Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 Laundry is for Sunday afternoons not Saturday night. you have a better chance of having a free machine on a saturday night versus a sunday afternoon
preraph Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 He sounds very busy. So best case scenario, he had a very busy life lately and neglected his laundry and possibly also needs to relax and chill. Now, that could mean he's working a lot, going to school a lot, or dating a lot. On the other hand, if he's not been busy and just decided he didn't want to do date night, that could mean he doesn't have date money, he's not in a very good mood for some reason, or he just isn't one of those people who think Saturday night dates are mandatory. It could even mean there's a game on and he wants to sit around in his skivvies and do nothing but lift a beer for a night. Either way, making a big issue of it is going to do nothing to further your cause. You can't press someone into being the enthusiastic dedicated predictable Saturday night date that is the ideal in your head. It's too early to really say anything if he IS seeing someone else or maybe just going out with friends. I would never propose you lay down and roll over and just let a man make all the calls, but it's too soon to really do much else. See how much of a boyfriend he'll be if it's left entirely up to him and that way you'll know sooner rather than later if he's the guy for you or just not the one.
gaius Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 you have a better chance of having a free machine on a saturday night versus a sunday afternoon Yeah, but I just had this Brazilian woman in yoga pants and boots with a fantastic ass bending down and parading around in front of me while she was doing her laundry. Well worth the crowd.
Author Gaeta Posted March 30, 2014 Author Posted March 30, 2014 He sounds very busy. So best case scenario, he had a very busy life lately and neglected his laundry and possibly also needs to relax and chill. Now, that could mean he's working a lot, going to school a lot, or dating a lot. On the other hand, if he's not been busy and just decided he didn't want to do date night, that could mean he doesn't have date money, he's not in a very good mood for some reason, or he just isn't one of those people who think Saturday night dates are mandatory. It could even mean there's a game on and he wants to sit around in his skivvies and do nothing but lift a beer for a night. Either way, making a big issue of it is going to do nothing to further your cause. You can't press someone into being the enthusiastic dedicated predictable Saturday night date that is the ideal in your head. It's too early to really say anything if he IS seeing someone else or maybe just going out with friends. I would never propose you lay down and roll over and just let a man make all the calls, but it's too soon to really do much else. See how much of a boyfriend he'll be if it's left entirely up to him and that way you'll know sooner rather than later if he's the guy for you or just not the one. That was an interesting post thank you. I did not make an issue (just on here ). I text him good night at 10h45 and he was still responding so I don't think he was out on a date. We did tell each other a while ago we do not date others. He is coming over for dinner, will see how he is. He initiated contact today and was attentive and sweet as his usual. He had an accident last week and can only use one hand so yes I can see where laundry and cleaning had been accumulating. 1
Tayken Posted March 30, 2014 Posted March 30, 2014 That was an interesting post thank you. I did not make an issue (just on here ). I text him good night at 10h45 and he was still responding so I don't think he was out on a date. We did tell each other a while ago we do not date others. He is coming over for dinner, will see how he is. He initiated contact today and was attentive and sweet as his usual. He had an accident last week and can only use one hand so yes I can see where laundry and cleaning had been accumulating. This could end up being a problem tonight, but am sure you two will improvise. Magnifique Mon ami
Author Gaeta Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 haha anyone took this thread seriously !
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 He is either: Busy with work or w/e and actually needed to catch up on things. or Not that into you. or Cheating or Just wanted some alone time (if he'd been dealing with ppl all week) or Doesn't see weekends as some required-hangout-time as some people in relationships do.
MidwestUSA Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 haha anyone took this thread seriously ! What does this mean? How was your Sunday?
2sunny Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 haha anyone took this thread seriously ! Does this indicate you intended to waste everyone's time with a fake thread? 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 haha anyone took this thread seriously ! Fake thread??
Phantom888 Posted March 31, 2014 Posted March 31, 2014 He can do his laundry some other time. Or he could offer to invite you over, spend time with you, while he does his laundry. It's not like he is washing by hand. He has 45-60 minutes between cycles to play with you!
Author Gaeta Posted March 31, 2014 Author Posted March 31, 2014 No it's not a fake thread. I think most people were only interested in making jokes about spin cycles, hand wash and ....cars. He came over last night. I told him, on a joking tone, that he had picked his laundry over me. He said that was not the case, he was not feeling well and reminded me he had told me he was not feeling good during the day. I won't insist, he did make it up to me the following day.
Els Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 I was going to say that at 1 month you should feel free to initiate already. But given that you have initiated for the first 3 weeks... yeah, there is a problem here. Not with him doing laundry on Sat night (especially if he has a communal laundry), but with the fact that he's never made a plan with you for a whole month.
Author Gaeta Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 I was going to say that at 1 month you should feel free to initiate already. But given that you have initiated for the first 3 weeks... yeah, there is a problem here. Not with him doing laundry on Sat night (especially if he has a communal laundry), but with the fact that he's never made a plan with you for a whole month. I think it's part of his personality, after a month I am just starting to size him. He contacts me each day, he tells me he misses me, he's expressive of what he likes about me, he's interested in my day how's my kid, he fixes things in my home without me asking, I am not lacking attention.....but yes I've been the planner so far. This lack of planning on his part doesn't really fit with the rest of his personality though. At his job he's in authority, then he also takes contracts for himself on the side and to do this you have to put your foot forward and be organized. I heard him on the phone handling emergencies and he's definitely a leader in other aspects of his life.
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