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Gaeta Established Member

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Ha! He wants a mum, not a girlfriend.

 

Bye bye. I wouldn't stick around. I'm a partner in a relationship, not a parent. If this dynamic works for you, you're going to now have to stick with it. He won't lead. So lead, or get out. But he won't take initiative.

hhmm yes I think I can see that in him. Well I have dated a lot, all types of personalities, I have had lots of disappointments, maybe this is a dynamic that would work for me as well.

 

Maybe an alpha male is not for me. I have a successful career, I earn above most men I've dated, I have a very assertive personality, I often give out the vibe I don't need anyone, I was single for 8 years so I actually do not need anyone lol. So yeah, it's been difficult to date. A lot of men want to save and protect their lady, I don't need either.

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Tayken Established Member

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hhmm yes I think I can see that in him. Well I have dated a lot, all types of personalities, I have had lots of disappointments, maybe this is a dynamic that would work for me as well.

 

Maybe an alpha male is not for me. I have a successful career, I earn above most men I've dated, I have a very assertive personality, I often give out the vibe I don't need anyone, I was single for 8 years so I actually do not need anyone lol. So yeah, it's been difficult to date. A lot of men want to save and protect their lady, I don't need either.

 

 

Er...that doesn't include me and it seems you aren't far from where I am :D

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Shouldn't have done that. If a man won't lead, move on. You've established a dynamic and are now attempting to change it. That doesn't work with men who don't like to lead.

 

I suppose you think that a woman's place is in the home, she can't make decisions for herself about who she wants to see, and that women only live for the sake of men?

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I suppose you think that a woman's place is in the home, she can't make decisions for herself about who she wants to see, and that women only live for the sake of men?

 

I love when people completely misinterpret letting a man pursue you in the dating world as being completely anti-feminist.

 

Please point out anywhere in my posts this thread, where I said anything of the sort.

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InnocentMan Established Member

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Sheldon does the laundry every Saturday night, 8pm sharp. Don't see the issue here. His woman seems to cope ok with it.

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hhmm yes I think I can see that in him. Well I have dated a lot, all types of personalities, I have had lots of disappointments, maybe this is a dynamic that would work for me as well.

 

Maybe an alpha male is not for me. I have a successful career, I earn above most men I've dated, I have a very assertive personality, I often give out the vibe I don't need anyone, I was single for 8 years so I actually do not need anyone lol. So yeah, it's been difficult to date. A lot of men want to save and protect their lady, I don't need either.

 

You can date an alpha male. It doesn't mean sacrificing any of the things you've achieved, it simply means adopting the opposite dynamic in dating. It's entirely possible.

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I love to pursue. I once had a very feminist girlfriend. I fixed her car. (a lot)

 

 

I love when people completely misinterpret letting a man pursue you in the dating world as being completely anti-feminist.

 

Please point out anywhere in my posts this thread, where I said anything of the sort.

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Tayken Established Member

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I love to pursue. I once had a very feminist girlfriend. I fixed her car. (a lot)

 

Am sure the person currently driving that "car".......will thank you for having tuned it up, or not? :D

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I love to pursue. I once had a very feminist girlfriend. I fixed her car. (a lot)

 

I don't have a car. Can't even drive! :laugh:

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So I got back in the leader's seat and contacted him.

 

I asked him why we were not together right now. He replied it was because of him, he had a headache all day and was not feeling himself.

 

He did mention in the afternoon he was fighting a headache.

 

He asked what I was doing and I said I was surfing the net. He asked if I was searching for something special...:rolleyes:

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I hope it is not still on the roads! It sounded like a washing machine mid cycle. But i did my best, the `points` became points and he condenser ceased to exist and the tracking was violently to the left.

 

 

Am sure the person currently driving that "car".......will thank you for having tuned it up, or not? :D
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I don't have a car. Can't even drive! :laugh:

 

Hmmmm...interesting and red flag right there, screams liability. Just saying as road trip should be fun with only 1 person doing all the donkey work :D

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I hope it is not still on the roads! It sounded like a washing machine mid cycle. But i did my best, the `points` became points and he condenser ceased to exist and the tracking was violently to the left.

 

 

But you know what....any good 2nd hand car salesperson will still be able to flog that lemon ;)

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So I got back in the leader's seat and contacted him.

 

I asked him why we were not together right now. He replied it was because of him, he had a headache all day and was not feeling himself.

 

He did mention in the afternoon he was fighting a headache.

 

He asked what I was doing and I said I was surfing the net. He asked if I was searching for something special...:rolleyes:

 

Ask him to come over right now, and tap that *** mon ami

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Hmmmm...interesting and red flag right there, screams liability. Just saying as road trip should be fun with only 1 person doing all the donkey work :D

 

Glad it weeds you out.

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I never thought doing laundry was that complicated. The machines in his building are too small for blankets so he has to make a trip to the laundry mat. It's 20h and he just got back from there, now he's doing the rest of his laundry.

 

I am dating Sheldon Cooper.

 

Someone mentioned he might be looking for a gf to mother him so I offered him to bring his blankets here for wash next time. He said he will.

 

It's a break through, he found a girlfriend ready to mother him, and I got a sexy toy-boy that does his laundry at 20h Saturday night.

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It was green not lemon.

 

 

 

But you know what....any good 2nd hand car salesperson will still be able to flog that lemon ;)
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Best headache cure? Orgasm. Dude's not thinking straight.

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Best headache cure? Orgasm. Dude's not thinking straight.

 

Maybe he's "not in the mood"?

 

Bloody woman :laugh:

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Men! go figure. The day he had an accident and almost got 2 fingers amputated he was in the mood, but tonight a headache and laundry keeps him home.

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Men! go figure. The day he had an accident and almost got 2 fingers amputated he was in the mood, but tonight a headache and laundry keeps him home.

 

That's priceless! :laugh:

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Men! go figure. The day he had an accident and almost got 2 fingers amputated he was in the mood, but tonight a headache and laundry keeps him home.

 

Meh, he's probably gonna do at least one load by hand ;). Headache cured!

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Many years ago - the guy I was dating claimed to need to do his laundry one night so I had him followed - he went to the laundromat - then about 8:30 or 9 he went to pick up his date. Seems she had a later work schedule and he accommodated her time frame.

 

Yea, he did laundry - but he didn't intend for me to know what he did after that!

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I would be insulted. I mean, what's wrong with having company over?

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New boyfriend of 1 month just told me at 17h he's starting his laundry and no mention of getting together later, nope. Is it even worth that I say something?

 

We had a great first 3 weeks ......and 4th Saturday he is choosing doing his laundry over spending it with me. Not very flattering. I am actually insulted over this. Would you be?

 

I answered I won't stand between a man and his laundry and wished him to enjoy. He thought that was funny. No communication after this.

 

I don't think he has done anything wrong per se.

 

Unless you guys had plans and he stood you up, then there is no rule that a couple MUST go out EVERY weekend or see each other every weekend.

 

My boyfriend and I, who are also in a new relationship, generally see each other most weekends as that's usually when we're both free. I don't simply assume he's coming to see me or we're going out though, one or both of us speaks up and plans something.

 

It seems you want him to read your mind and simply know you expect to see him. If you want to see him, ask him. You guys are a couple but you're not mind readers and people have different needs and expectations. It is perfectly reasonable if nothing is planned to decide to stay home and attend to other things. It isn't an insult. I would not blow it out of proportion but would simply make plans or ask to see him if that's what I want. Also, a little space is not a bad thing, just make sure you are on the same page about how much space is good/too much/too little for each of you as your needs may differ and you may need to compromise. If he NEVER makes plans and it becomes a pattern where he seems to want to do everything else but see you then that is a problem but if ONE day out of the weekend in a month of dating he decides to do his laundry, that's not a crime.

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