moonpies Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 just found out my gf ex gf or whatever slept with two guys...we broke up in october but it seemed we were together.. we still did everything the same..she told me she loved me and wanted to marry me she ****ed two guys in the past month..i had a feeling and i stooped through her phone.... she said it wasnt cheating because we arent really together then she said she has more guys she wants to add..i said do you even want to really marry me...she said she does but she cant commit yet what do i do? part of me regrets looking, she said she would have told me when we got back together
soccerrprp Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 [sHAKING MY HEAD] WTF, dude!? Do you not have ANY respect for yourself?! THERE IS ONLY ONE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION! ............................................................................drop her for good!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1
ExpatInItaly Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 just found out my gf ex gf or whatever slept with two guys...we broke up in october but it seemed we were together.. we still did everything the same..she told me she loved me and wanted to marry me she ****ed two guys in the past month..i had a feeling and i stooped through her phone.... she said it wasnt cheating because we arent really together then she said she has more guys she wants to add..i said do you even want to really marry me...she said she does but she cant commit yet what do i do? part of me regrets looking, she said she would have told me when we got back together You need to really act like a broken-up couple now. Stop hanging out with each other, sleeping together, etc. etc. You are not in a relationship with her any longer. I can understand why you're upset to hear she's been with other guys (you're only human and she once held an important place in your life) but technically she's right. You aren't together so she is free to do what she likes. Don't even think about marriage unless and until you get back together. I don't understand why you two are talking about that when you're not even boyfriend-girlfriend any more. OP, she is being honest with you. She doesn't want to commit. She doesn't want to be your girlfriend. You can either take it and deal with the pain of knowing she is planning to have sex with other men again and possibly date one of them..or you can leave. For real, this time.
Stay Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Do you like being strung along? She's putting you on the back burner while she enjoys herself. You are second to her and not first, this is just a big disaster and nothing good can come out of it. I hate to be blunt and mean but you're being very beta right now, do you not have any balls to stop hanging out with her? You don't deserve a girl like that anyways, leave her for good and never talk to her again for your own sanity. She doesn't respect you with how she's handling this.
GorillaTheater Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 then she said she has more guys she wants to add..i said do you even want to really marry me...she said she does but she cant commit yet "Sure I want to marry you. Someday. But I want to bang a bunch of other guys first. That's okay with you, right?" Well, is it okay with you? Maybe she didn't cheat, technically. But you still have one hell of a problem. Best way to deal with the problem is to wish her well and move on with your life.
Gaeta Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Really, that is the kind of woman you want as a wife? Yes she was free to sleep with whom she wanted but extremely wrong in dragging you along, telling you she loved you while sleeping with other men. What do you think her I love you means? You think that's the actions of a woman in love with you? Let her go F&?& who she wants, she is not ready for any type of relationship, and move on to someone that has it a little more together.
Phantom888 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Leave her. She can't LOVE you if she wants to **** other men!! geez!!!! 1
jay1983 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Telling you she wants to marry must be F ing with head. You know what to do, you didn't need to make this thread. 1
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Why do I feel guilty looking through her phone. I'll admit since we "broke up" I have not been perfect but I never had sex Am I a hypocrate
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 Is it bad I regret looking through her texts that's how I foundoout
Armegoggon Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Move on and forget about her if she's going to act like a prostitute while keeping you hanging in the middle. Or try to get back into the relationship with her and see what happens. If she breaks your heart immediately break up and find another girl.
Noproblem Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Why do I feel guilty looking through her phone. I'll admit since we "broke up" I have not been perfect but I never had sex Am I a hypocrate Because you are an honest person, you can't tolerate behaving badly ..... You also feel if you hadn't checked her phone you wouldn't have found out and got hurt ... But really, you should stop being with her ..I mean you still love her and you can't move on unless you really leave her.. Yes, you might marry her one day .. when you both ready But since she is having fun and really in a strange way ...You go find your own fun ..stop waiting for someone who treats you like this.
bubbaganoosh Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Just chalk it up and move on. Seriously, think of how this would have played out if by chance you got back with her, talked about marriage, pledged your love to her with a ring and find out she did this behind your back. Think your hurting now? And one more thing. I wouldn't have counted on her to tell you about her romps with the other guys either. You may have found it out through word on the street. You and her aren't together any longer and she's free to screw Pittsburgh if she wants. Move on and find another girl. Got a feeling that she isn't the right one anyhow.
J21 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 "she has more guys she wants to add?". Not even one ounce of remorse from her. This is not someone u want being the mother of your children. Listen man, as tough as it may be, you gotta let this one go man. Its beyond repair.
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 I just don't understand how she can look me in the eyes and tell me she loves me and wants to marry me and sleep around
jay1983 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I just don't understand how she can look me in the eyes and tell me she loves me and wants to marry me and sleep around You sound very inexperienced. Welcome to the real world.
tinalooks808 Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Run, that's what you should do! You're broken up... so she's a free agent. It isn't v right for her to string you along... but you need to respect yourself enough to let her go!
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 i texted her tonight saying i was going to come get my stuf and she said she was in bed i said " you know im not even that mad about it anymore. its whatever" she said " good for you" ten 10 minutes later sent a text saying "dont give up on me" what is she saying here?
ingalls Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 i texted her tonight saying i was going to come get my stuf and she said she was in bed i said " you know im not even that mad about it anymore. its whatever" she said " good for you" ten 10 minutes later sent a text saying "dont give up on me" what is she saying here? she has remorse, she feels wrong. the good for you? not sure
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 when i found out what she did and she said she had some regrets but couldnt do anything about it now i said she was a whore and a piece of **** was i wrong saying that?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 i texted her tonight saying i was going to come get my stuf and she said she was in bed i said " you know im not even that mad about it anymore. its whatever" she said " good for you" ten 10 minutes later sent a text saying "dont give up on me" what is she saying here? What does it matter, really? She is having sex with other men and stringing you along because she wants to keep you on the backburner. Where will she turn if the other guys don't pan out? Oh, that's right...she expects you to be there. She's quite selfish. Don't be so desperate as to allow her to do that, OP. She isn't in love with you if she can do this type of thing. Get your stuff and be done with her. You're making yourself look very weak and needy here...don't give her that power.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 when i found out what she did and she said she had some regrets but couldnt do anything about it now i said she was a whore and a piece of **** was i wrong saying that? That was not the best way to handle it, but OP...give your head a damn shake. You're sniveling and feeling guilty when she is the one who will walk all over you. Let her go. She isn't invested you any more.
Author moonpies Posted March 29, 2014 Author Posted March 29, 2014 That was not the best way to handle it, but OP...give your head a damn shake. You're sniveling and feeling guilty when she is the one who will walk all over you. Let her go. She isn't invested you any more. what was i suppose to say..yeah it was wrong but i lost my cool
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