Radu Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 In the latest iteration of the 'shave/don't shave/men all want teenagers bcus of porn !!!' thread to grace these servers i saw an interesting statement. Apparently, some ppl who are taken would consider it insulting to shave for their SO [once/forever ... not mentioned], and are full believes in the dogma of not doing what you don't like. As i'm a fool by nature, i have this idealistic notion that love is selfless [sorry for the GASP] and that LTRs are the place where generally ppl learn to compromise. So the question is, what did you do in your relationship for the pleasure of your SO that you did not like doing in general [i look forward to ppl jumping on the extreme of this way of thinking as a counter-example]. It has to be something selfless. 3
2.50 a gallon Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Not only do I remind her it is Judge Judy time, I even change channels from what I might be watching. The selfless part, I do my best to watch it with her. 2
RedRobin Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) I stayed and tried to work on a marriage after learning he cheated on me (he confessed). No. He didn't cheat on me with a woman who shaved her parts either. lol. In any case, I screen out guys who have unrealistic physical demands in advance. It's not that hard. I wouldn't get breast implants if they asked me to either. Same thing in my book. I believe that decent men want their women to feel happy and comfortable with the body she was born with, as long as she is fit and healthy. But that is just me... ... on a less extreme example... For the most part, we had some kind of sex nearly every day for the duration of our marriage... even up until the end... unless I was sick or had to travel due to business. Of course, I was getting something out of that too. I got pleasure out of seeing him happy... even if I may or may not have always been 100% into the moment at the time. He'd do the same for me too, BTW. Edited March 28, 2014 by RedRobin
Grumpybutfun Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I spend all holidays with a house full of family who are loud and messy even though I would be happy for us to be by ourselves. I shave my face even though I like a beard because she doesn't like beards at all. I always give her my first sip of Coke or beer because she thinks the first sip is the best. I give her my jacket even if I am freezing because she is adamant she won't get cold and won't take one...ever. I don't even think of it as compromise because she does so much for me that I know she doesn't enjoy. I mean, she went to my MMA match last night where she held her little hands over her eyes the entire time. Grumps 7
gaius Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I can usually have fun anywhere. I went to a lot of art museums with one of my ex's even though it wasn't really my thing but still had fun making fun of the guys who liked to stand there and "study" for minutes on end the paintings with the naked babies dancing around with their schlongs hanging out. So I don't know how much of a compromise it was. Just want to add I think it's ridiculous that someone would let their pubic hair define them. I get that it can be annoying having someone ask you to change but just ask them for something in return of equal value and it shouldn't be a big deal. It's all about give and take.
David87 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I had to watch ''Keeping up with the Kardashians''.... imagine that. 5
PegNosePete Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I would do anything for love! (But I won't do that) No really. I watched Twilight. And the second one. Luckily got divorced before the 3rd so I wasn't subjected to that torture. 6
pickflicker Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I'd listen to his music even if I hated it. For an hour or so. Then we'd switch. 2
Keenly Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I had to watch ''Keeping up with the Kardashians''.... imagine that. Give this man a purple heart. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 There are little things we do for each other all the time. For my birthday DH took me to a movie he had no interest in seeing. I vacation with his Marine buddies every year. On Fridays we go to a supper club he loves & I hate; I drink soda to be able to drive him home safely. He accommodated my family needs so I could take care of my parents at the end of their lives. It's about working together as a team about the big things & the little things. 3
almond Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I grow my pubic hair into some funky arse mohawk kind of style. Definitely not my thing, but he loves it and, well, I don't stick my own face down there very often. I also socialise with his friends quite a lot even though I find most of them uncouth and bland at best...I have built good relationships with them over the years, but it did take effort to see the good in them initially. It's a continuous effort actually, but it's gotta be done. I also listen to a LOT of music I don't like, as he has particular tastes and likes playing it loud throughout the house. When we go for a big night out, I will occasionally stretch my rules about the amount of cleavage I show because he "really likes looking at them after a few drinks." I financially supported him for six months when we were younger, as he needed a career change (required a lot of training) that I encouraged. I taught myself to deepthroat because he enjoys facef*cking. Not totally selfless as I intended to get onto this at some stage anyway, but it was an effort to get it right. He never asked for this of course, but I like to keep him happy, and I like that he does the same. Win win. I frequently deal with his incredibly difficult mother when it comes to organising things as I can do it much more effectively and peacefully than he can. 2
David87 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Give this man a purple heart. I was only joking, obviously I made many sacrifices for my girl. But seriously did you ever watched that show? Maybe you'll get a purple heart to;)
Author Radu Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 I grow my pubic hair into some funky arse mohawk kind of style. Definitely not my thing, but he loves it and, well, I don't stick my own face down there very often. I also socialise with his friends quite a lot even though I find most of them uncouth and bland at best...I have built good relationships with them over the years, but it did take effort to see the good in them initially. It's a continuous effort actually, but it's gotta be done. I also listen to a LOT of music I don't like, as he has particular tastes and likes playing it loud throughout the house. When we go for a big night out, I will occasionally stretch my rules about the amount of cleavage I show because he "really likes looking at them after a few drinks." I financially supported him for six months when we were younger, as he needed a career change (required a lot of training) that I encouraged. I taught myself to deepthroat because he enjoys facef*cking. Not totally selfless as I intended to get onto this at some stage anyway, but it was an effort to get it right. He never asked for this of course, but I like to keep him happy, and I like that he does the same. Win win. I frequently deal with his incredibly difficult mother when it comes to organising things as I can do it much more effectively and peacefully than he can. You must really love him, i envy him.
Author Radu Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 I would do anything for love! (But I won't do that) No really. I watched Twilight. And the second one. Luckily got divorced before the 3rd so I wasn't subjected to that torture. Love that singer, and the duo he had with Cher.
Medium.Lumo Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Ditto Kardashians. Clean up after her. Let her drive my car. Miss shows that I want to watch. Go out mostly to places in she wants to go. Pick up her pills. 1
xxoo Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Watch dozens of documentaries and videos about cafe racers. Take the smaller closet, because he has more clothes and shoes. Give up cooking some of my favorite foods, because his tummy can't tolerate them
Author Radu Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Holy crap, nr 2 is a massive sacrifice. This woman deserves 2 purple hearts [one for shoes and one for clothes].
Shepp Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I take my life in my hands every time I get in her car, I always leave the last biscuit in the tin for her, I stand holding her bag when she's trying things on in the shop, I bought a pink fish for my tank for her, I take my turn on the karaoke when she asks, I even changed my side of the bed cause she likes to sleep on the furthest side from the door!! Seriously though, I'd do a lot for love! I waited a good 4 years being the best mate of a girl I was crazy about while she jumped from guy to guy! I'd of found a way to walk on water if she'd asked it of me! She does a hell of a lot for me too though!! 6
Allumere Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I spend all holidays with a house full of family who are loud and messy even though I would be happy for us to be by ourselves. I shave my face even though I like a beard because she doesn't like beards at all. I always give her my first sip of Coke or beer because she thinks the first sip is the best. I give her my jacket even if I am freezing because she is adamant she won't get cold and won't take one...ever. I don't even think of it as compromise because she does so much for me that I know she doesn't enjoy. I mean, she went to my MMA match last night where she held her little hands over her eyes the entire time. Grumps This so made me smile!!! 2
GoreSP Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I would do anything for love....but I won't do that! 2
TAV Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Flying! I'm in a LDR and dread flying but it's the fastest way to get to him so I do it in order to not waste too much time if we only have a weekend together. I always get an extra big cuddle right after because he knows and appreciates what I do for him. Love this remark: As i'm a fool by nature, i have this idealistic notion that love is selfless [sorry for the GASP] and that LTRs are the place where generally ppl learn to compromise. 1
TAV Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Watch dozens of documentaries and videos about cafe racers. Take the smaller closet, because he has more clothes and shoes. Give up cooking some of my favorite foods, because his tummy can't tolerate them Ooh I'm not sure if I could do that! My guy is so typically British, also food wise, and I like dishes from all over the globe. I've started on introducing the Italian kitchen to him, since I thought that was the safest one to try out on him. I plan to gradually make him more adventurous than that. I could never stop cooking them though! I have to eat too! 1
Haydn Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 I did that. The whole outfit was made me feel fantastic. I would do anything for love....but I won't do that!
Haydn Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Back to back Moz with, `Last of the international playboys`, on loop while the pizza is being delivered? I'd listen to his music even if I hated it. For an hour or so. Then we'd switch. 2
pickflicker Posted March 29, 2014 Posted March 29, 2014 Back to back Moz with, `Last of the international playboys`, on loop while the pizza is being delivered? *sigh* Fine. But you're buying. 1
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