RonaldS Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 When last we left this tale, the woman had informed me that she was in a relationship..... Yesterday morning she sends me a bunch of texts about the dream she had about me and my ex-wife, and apparently my XW was castigating her for talking to me and telling her how bad of a person she is. Clearly, the guilt and anxiety of getting herself involved with me is weighing on her subconscious. So, how does she follow that conversation up? Well, first by flirting. I told her I had dreams of her that didn't have my XW in them. She asked, 'Anything good?', and then I said 'Wouldn't you just love for me to divulge that?', and she responded, 'Yes please'. I then asked her if she would rather have a demonstration, and she replied 'Lol, I'm afraid'. Then we flirted a little more. Then she asked me to hang out with her Friday night. This will represent out first test of hanging out 'as friends'. I'm pretty sure I've already failed it. Doubt she'll do too well on it, either. It is pretty funny, though. Usually when people have that conversation where they establish barriers and proclaim that they are just going to be friends and when they hang out, it's just as friends, the standard operating procedure is to sort of avoid actually hanging out with that person, right? You don't try to avoid being hit by a car by running out into the street blindfolded, do you? So, I guess we're going to go be buddies tomorrow night. Thoughts on what might happen? 1
PegNosePete Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Usually when people have that conversation where they establish barriers and proclaim that they are just going to be friends and when they hang out, it's just as friends, the standard operating procedure is to sort of avoid actually hanging out with that person, right? What? No. It's pointless to be friends if you're not going to do things that friends do. If you're not going to hang out then what's the point of being friends?
Chocolat Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 The only plot I see here is her betraying her bf and you getting some sort of enjoyment out of "winning" her. She's had time to figure it out -- as have you -- and why you want to play with fire is beyond me.
Author RonaldS Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 The only plot I see here is her betraying her bf and you getting some sort of enjoyment out of "winning" her. She's had time to figure it out -- as have you -- and why you want to play with fire is beyond me. Living on the edge, I guess.
Author RonaldS Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 What? No. It's pointless to be friends if you're not going to do things that friends do. If you're not going to hang out then what's the point of being friends? Because it never works. When you cross a line with a person, it's really hard to go back, especially 2 weeks later. I mean, I've done it...I've got a good friend who I used to hook up with a little, but really the main reason it works is because she's remarried. We every so often get together when I'm back in her town, and just grab a couple of drinks and hang out more or less platonically. But even then, she doesn't tell her husband that she's hanging out with me, because apparently he's super threatened by me. So, yeah....of course it can be done. But not when everything is so fresh, and not when the person is openly flirting. Too soon. I can do it, but I'm certainly not going to push her away. As Chocolat stated, I'm probably playing with fire, but you only live once, right?
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