movingonguy101 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Been a week since she broke up with me. I'm trying really hard not to think of her but she keeps coming back in my head. It's really messing me up, I cannot do anything but to think of the breakup and her. Last night I had a few drinks with a friend and slept pretty well but again in the morning reality sinks in. I'm having roller coaster emotions all day, a few minutes I was fine and not thinking of her and the next trying to figure out how can I make the pain go away and really move on. I really don't know what to do anymore. I really do want her back but she broke it up and I don't wanna beg anyone who doesn't wanna be with me. It's just so f***ing painful that I wish I can just make it go away as soon as possible. I found a place where I can go every once in a while to think sometimes after thinking I was fine and then I wasn't again. No suicidal thoughts but I just wish all the pain and suffering will just go away. I really miss my old self. Before I can make anyone laugh but now I just cannot seem to do it anymore. I just sit in my desk and do nothing all day but to think of her. A big chunk of me died the day she broke up with me. I know it's all over between us but why is it this hard to accept that she's gone in my life.
JDPT Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 All the symptoms you are currently experiencing are perfectly normal. As crazy as it may sound, learn to embrace pain as part of your healing journey. Internalize the fact that there is no going back, this is it. Accept reality for what it is and release any hope, eradicate it immediately. As long as you proactively contribute towards heal g from the breakup you will at the end be ok. Keep in my that there is no need to rush this process. Don't attempt to replace the old with the new, don't date. Get to know yourself in a deeper level. Be strong, you will come out of this a new and improved you. 2
Author movingonguy101 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Any idea how can I embrace the pain? I'm not really an emotional person as I always laugh and joke around. Not an emotional person and I think that's why I'm having really hard time with coping with this breakup. I tried crying but my body just wont let me. Sometimes I feel numb, sometimes the pain is unbearable.
JDPT Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 We've been through the wringer and back, we've felt the excruciating pain, that's our common denominator. Embrace pain by accepting the fact that pain will be part of your life. It'll be part if your life temporarily and will linger for as long as you allow it. Everyday is an up hill battle. The second you open your eyes the pain either rushes your chest or gut and back to reality you go. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and power through with your day. For now worry about today and if that becomes too complex, focus on the hour and so on. Do not self medicate, face these issues head on and come to terms with them. AND professional assistance by way of counseling is always encouraged and conducive to your healing. 3
Haydn Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 JDPT is spot on friend. I would have said the same. We've been through the wringer and back, we've felt the excruciating pain, that's our common denominator. Embrace pain by accepting the fact that pain will be part of your life. It'll be part if your life temporarily and will linger for as long as you allow it. Everyday is an up hill battle. The second you open your eyes the pain either rushes your chest or gut and back to reality you go. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and power through with your day. For now worry about today and if that becomes too complex, focus on the hour and so on. Do not self medicate, face these issues head on and come to terms with them. AND professional assistance by way of counseling is always encouraged and conducive to your healing. 1
RDawg Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Another suffering compatriot. It is so ****ed up how much pain this love nonsense causes. Hangin their bro, you got a long way to go.
StGeorge22 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Unfortunately it's going to take longer than a week. But take comfort in the fact that there are plenty of people here on the same boat
Author movingonguy101 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Waking up earlier isn't as bad as yesterday. Only a few thoughts about her came to my mind and I managed to just ignore all the thoughts and replace it with positive affirmations. Even now she pops in my mind once in a while but I just ignore it and think of positive things.
Author movingonguy101 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Been just 1 week since I got dumped by my long distance girlfriend via FB message. Today seems like an ordinary for me as if I'm back with my old self like before my ex came to visit me last December. Why am I feeling like this? Why am I not thinking about the breakup? Is my body just tired and would like to restart the grieving process all over again? Or am I really that numbed because of my previous breakups that I processed and accepted everything in just a week which usually took me 3-6 months to process and accept from my previous breakups?
David87 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 One week is too soon to reach indifference. You'll miss her soon I guarantee you that. After a breakup your emotions will be like a rollercoaster ride. Hold on to the feeling .
Author movingonguy101 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 One week is too soon to reach indifference. You'll miss her soon I guarantee you that. After a breakup your emotions will be like a rollercoaster ride. Hold on to the feeling . I know that. I still do think of her but it isn't as painful like the past few days, now if I think of her I just smile and tell to my self it does not matter anymore and someday I will find a better person. Indifference? I'm pretty certain I don't want her back.
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