jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I’m a member of a group of fans for a particular NFL team. The group organizes a meet for every game at various bars. Usually about 100+ people show up, order drinks, food, have a good time. At one of the games there was this girl that started chit chatting with me. She was pretty cool, didn’t look too bad, a year younger than I, had a degree and said she worked as an auditor. While moving around mingling, saying what’s up to everybody, she kept following me around. I bought her a drink or 2 and several for myself, and talked a lot. When the game was over she asked if I wanted to go back to her apt, said she lived right around the corner. I was drunk and said sure. I picked up a 6 pack and followed her to her place. Before we went in she said “Please excuse me it’s a little messy” I said that’s fine, that’s what they all say. Went in and OMG freaking pigsty! This was the dirtiest b***h I’ve ever met in my life! S**t was everywhere, beer cans and trash, it stank like dog s**t (she had one), carpet had black stains everywhere. In the kitchen the garbage was over flowed so trash and beer cans all over the kitchen floor, I mean s**t was just everywhere. There was an empty coke baggy on the coffee table lol. I’m a very clean GUY, so I’m contemplating whether I should just leave or not. I was drunk and my organs were battling. I ask to use the restroom and that was probably the only thing clean thing in the whole place. I go back to the couch still thinking about getting the hell out of there. Before I could finish my beer, she starts grabbing and kissing on me. I turned off by everything but I’m drunk, came all the way over here and now we’re this far. She started getting undressed, didn’t smell bad herself. I also noticed the she was clean shaved, so I said “Well at least she takes care of herself” So I decided to go through with it. The sex wasn’t that great, condom, no head and when she turned off the lights it was pitch black, no light from the window or anything, so I couldn’t see anything. After it was over we went back the living room cuddling. I couldn’t believe I just slept with this slob. It was really late on a work night and I wanted to get the hell out of there. So I picked a little fight with her, over the dirty apt. Me: You need to clean this place up immediately Her: You can’t tell me what to do, I just met you Me: I don’t care blah blah blah Her: You know what, you can leave I’m like yes, and hightailed out of there. The next day I got a couple texts from her saying “Sorry about last night, I was drunk” “Call me when you can” I never called or text her back. Felt like s**t all day, because of the booze and only a few hours sleep, it wasn’t worth it. Why I didn’t call her back 1. Gave it up on the first night 2. The disgusting apt 3. Not a good match physically Some of my coworkers told me I was wrong for not calling her back. Was I wrong for doing this? 1
SammySammy Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I don't think you were wrong at all. I've also started to notice that a lot of women don't clean. I'm a neat freak, military parents, etc. I just don't get it. I can understand if the filth was a dealbreaker for you. Even if it was a one night stand. 2
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Men and their weak hormones. You knew you weren't gonna call her back before you slept with her. 6
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Men and their weak hormones. You knew you weren't gonna call her back before you slept with her. "Am I gonna see her after this" That wasn't exactly running through my head.
InnocentMan Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I could cope with general mess, but the smell of dog **** is too far. She should be grateful you stayed long enough to bang her. Don't feel any guilt about not calling her. Probably best to block her number so she can't shame you into answering her. 2
SunnySide0418 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Why can't you just send her a text saying that you have no desire to see her again?
Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 OMG. That's disgusting. I would have turned around and left as soon as I saw the apt. 4
kaylan Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 (edited) Lolz, you had sex with that sloppy chick in that gross ass apartment and youre trying to paint a bad picture of the girl? Lol come on OP. I need to know more about these NFL fan meetups. Who knew typical venues for bro bonding could open the doors for meeting teh ladiez? Edited March 27, 2014 by kaylan 8
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 This was the dirtiest b***h I’ve ever met in my life! S**t was everywhere, beer cans and trash, it stank like dog s**t (she had one), carpet had black stains everywhere. In the kitchen the garbage was over flowed so trash and beer cans all over the kitchen floor, I mean s**t was just everywhere. There was an empty coke baggy on the coffee table lol. Should you feel bad about not calling her back? Not at all. About having no standards in regards to where you insert your penis? Yes. 15
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Why can't you just send her a text saying that you have no desire to see her again? What difference would it make. Let's say I did. How do you think she would respond. "I understand" I doubt that. The replies would probably be pretty ugly.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Lolz, you had sex with that sloppy chick in that gross ass apartment and youre trying to paint a bad picture of the girl? Lol come on OP. I need to know more about these NFL fan meetups. Who knew typical venues for bro bonding could open the doors for meeting teh ladiez? I never said I was perfect. I'm just talking about why I didn't call her back. It's through facebook. A lot of girls go to those. Some of the organizers are girls. You don't have to a guy to go, just a fan and member of the club.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Should you feel bad about not calling her back? Not at all. About having no standards in regards to where you insert your penis? Yes. Yes I feel bad about that. Like I said, I was about to take off, before she jumped on me. I'm a human male, I have hormones. Alcohol played a big part in this. How many guys you know that slept with a girl they didn't like while drunk?
Copelandsanity Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Here's a sample of current thread topics in the Dating section: -Trying to get a date by writing the girl poems -Should I just ask her out? - i'm insecure Your story was well-received by me. We need more of these stories on LS 1
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 OMG. That's disgusting. I would have turned around and left as soon as I saw the apt. You say that, but when you drunk and a skinny big breasted girl starts kissing on you, It doesn't always pay out as it should. 1
kaylan Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I do think you should at least tell her something like, "Its cool, I was drunk too. Things happen. That said, I think youre a cool girl, and we should just be friends for now." That way your name doesnt get dragged through the mud around the group. Plus you wanna minimize awkwardness whenever you see her around again. 12
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Lame excuses. A player is what you are. If you stuck your thingy into her you outfit to at least call her back. Do you have any decency at all? Because I'm a player, not because she's a slut and a slob?
Goldenbrwn Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Lame excuses. A player is what you are. If you stuck your thingy into her you outfit to at least call her back. Do you have any decency at all? At this point he can either call her back fake interest with her and make the situation worse or he can call her back tell her why he wont see her again then get into an argument and make the situation worse. He is doing the right thing. 1
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 I do think you should at least tell her something like, "Its cool, I was drunk too. Things happen. That said, I think youre a cool girl, and we should just be friends for now." That way your name doesnt get dragged through the mud around the group. Plus you wanna minimize awkwardness whenever you see her around again. Your right, that's some good advice. That's why I'm on this site. Thanks man.
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 kaylan, I'm new to this site and I'm not use to it. Your post the other day about the girl that wouldn't give her name. I didn't understand. I thought it was a common thing for girls on OLD to to that. Then somebody after me told you "just call her Ashley" That was awesome, cause then she might say "my name is_____" Coincidentally Ashley happens to be the girl's name. (The one this thread is about) 1
SoleMate Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 The grosser you make her out to be, the worse you look. As distasteful as her personal habits obviously are, and as ill-advised and undiscriminating as her selection of a sex partner clearly was, still, you can exercise a bit of courtesy. She may get cranky but at least you'll know you've done the right thing. 3
oz-missy Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I do think you should at least tell her something like, "Its cool, I was drunk too. Things happen. That said, I think youre a cool girl, and we should just be friends for now." That way your name doesnt get dragged through the mud around the group. Plus you wanna minimize awkwardness whenever you see her around again. This looks like the best approach. Especially if she will be around the group in future. A quick text will make things less awkward in future. Good luck. 3
Author jay1983 Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 The grosser you make her out to be, the worse you look. As distasteful as her personal habits obviously are, and as ill-advised and undiscriminating as her selection of a sex partner clearly was, still, you can exercise a bit of courtesy. She may get cranky but at least you'll know you've done the right thing. Yes I understand that NOW. Thank you 1
Medium.Lumo Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You say that, but when you drunk and a skinny big breasted girl starts kissing on you, It doesn't always pay out as it should. No. Seriously. 2 years ago a college friend tried to get me laid... He sent me to these college girls he knew. I went up to the apartment and it was a mess... although nowhere near what you are describing here, and they were both smashed, completely drunk. I told them they were going to ruin their livers and left.
Phantom888 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Her place smelled like crap, you weren't really attracted to her, she's a slob, and yet you still slept with her cus you were drunk? Have some standards man! You didn't do anything wrong by not calling her the next day. You were desperate, and once you sobered up, you didn't feel so desperate anymore. 3
Noproblem Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Just because she is not clean, doesn't meAn she is not a wonderful person! You were there, got your free sex and left! At least thank her for that and move on! 3
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