DALIFAN Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Just wondering.. So I was in a very happy relationship with my ex. We hardly ever fought (maybe like 2 or 3 times in our 3 year relationship). I felt so loved and we harmonized perfectly. We shared very similar interests and were both studying the same thing. We love Art, we loved painting, traveling, we enjoy classical music, cooking, trying new restaurants.. So basically we had a lot in common, but still different personalities. I got along really well with his family, still am and still see his parents once every 2 months. BUT I KNEW from the start that I will not be staying with him forever. I don't know why though. With my current relationship it is very different. We have up and downs, we have disagreements, we are very different, we have different interests and sometimes he frustrates the hell out of me. But for some reason since I've been with him, I could imagine being married, being with him forever. How does that rationally make any sense?? Maybe my relationship with my ex was too perfect?
Damaged217 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 There's no such thing as a perfect relationship. Perhaps things didn't work out with your ex because you were TOO similar. Arguing and having productive fights occassionally is healthy and in no way means you are perfect for each other. I've found that the couples that never argue are usually doomed because they bottle up their feelings and never work out any issues, no matter how small. Who cares about WHY you feel like your current bf is the "one?" You're happy, right? Do you really need to understand the reasoning behind your happiness? lol. Just enjoy your relationship instead of trying to figure out what makes sense. There's nothing rational about love.
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 You may like the passion rather than the quiet.
RonaldS Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 The most important element in a relationship is how you two 'fit' together. Just because two people have similar interests and personalities, get along harmoniously, are agreeable....that doesn't mean that they're compatible in the way it takes for a relationship to work. There's a whole underlying attraction and compatibility that is difficult to pinpoint, but when you come together, you can feel it. When I hear somebody talking about their new flame and how perfect they are for each other because they like the same things, I just laugh. 'She's so awesome! We have so much in common! We both love the Chicago Blackhawks and pizza!' Big effing deal. Won't get you anywhere.
PegNosePete Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Go to google and ask it why women like bad boys.
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