AntiSocal Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Met her at school. Kinda big for my tastes but also really cool. Really into the music scene. I tried cold approaching her. First words out of her mouth before i even said hi were "No. I don't talk to black guys" I'm mixed, but so is she. I felt disrespected so I began shunning her. See her at a party on friday and decide to try and have sex with her. She doesn't like me so nothing to lose right? I got as far as second base and some heavy kissing. She refused to take off her pants because shes "not that type of girl" but she did give me oral before the night was over. Next day she invites me to breakfast with some other people. Spend most of the day together. And again things end with oral sex. Then today she calls me. She seems really stand offish and weird on the phone. I try to warm her up but it wasn't working. So I invited her over to my place to watch a movie. She says "Oh most definetly not." And i hear her friends giggling. So them i'm like "well how about some frozen yogurt or something?" she says quote "hah! Not interested." again i hear her friends laughing in the background. I just hung up on her and ignored her when she called back. She texted asking what was wrong with me and asking me to call her back. I don't understand what her problem is? If she didn't want to talk (which is fine. Shes a little too rude/promiscuous for me) why does she keep contacting me? And if she does want to talk why is she totally disrespectful? Does she expect me to beg her for a date? I feel like she might be doing this to boost her own self esteem. Turn down a guy whose obviously way outta her league to make herself feel in control. Whats the best way to play this? I don't wanna go no contact. Shes angered the beast and i wanna play with her a little bit before cutting her off.
pickflicker Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Because you're letting yourself be used!! You should have walked and not spoken to her the second she made it clear. She doesn't want to date you, but if you're going to have so little respect for yourself, she's happy to use you, because with your actions, you're telegraphing loud and clear "treat me however you like." We teach people how to treat us. Get it? 1
David87 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I just hate when this kind of things happen, she said that she wont get her pants of because she's not that kind of girl, but she gives you oral sex.... maybe I'm old fashioned but oral sex makes you more of a slut than normal intercours. I think that I was born in the wrong era....
ExpatInItaly Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Because she's a jackass. You're only going to make yourself look like even more of a fool if you "play with her" a little bit. It will simply make you appear desperate to her, as she's already rejected you several times and yet you keep going back for more. You can't really play someone who doesn't give a crap about you, know what I mean? Trust me, it will bother her a lot more if you just stop responding to her. Trying to play her game will just indicate that you care enough to react which is precisely what she wants. Don't give her that power. The only thing I really object to you in your first post is labeling her promiscuous. Maybe she is, but you're an active participant in that. You are also pursuing her for sex. So..pot. kettle. 1
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