Author Cocochai Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 (edited) So you unblocked him to send him a 'fishing' text? You are still allowing yourself to be disrespected. You two can't be friends...your too attached to him. If he has any respect for you, he would stop this back and forth game and let you go. He still gets an ego boost from you each time you send him a text. When are you going to put yourself first? When are you going to really and truly let him go? Time to put your happiness first. I understand what your saying Jelly but in order for ME to stop being angry/confused I had to know in order to let that emotion go... Although I agree this lesson has taught me to not to "put myself out there again"... And expect the same in return. I blocked him/unblocked him 5x's today. That's not normal either. He responded back and said "no I didn't receive your text but thank you/appreciate it". I didn't respond back but I now know clearly step back because I obviously can't handle being "just friends". I won't reach out again. Sorry if any one felt I shouldn't have done that. Edited March 26, 2014 by Cocochai 2
whichwayisup Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Well, I decided to stop wondering and flat out text him "Just wanted to know if you got my bday text to you if not I sent one, did I get the date wrong" I know I didn't get the date wrong but just want to see if he's doing this on purpose and will ignore or give me an honest answer and say yes but forgot to text. I'll feel worst if he doesn't respond but at least I'll know either way. And it will def make it easier to block. Stop playing a game here. Forget the bday text, in the past he's ignored you as well, so chances are he's chosen just not to reply. Maybe he will reply to this text but if he doesn't, you're gonna feel silly for sending it. Wish you'd come here first when you get the urge to text so someone can talk you out of it. You texting him and asking if he got your text will show him your weakness and (sorry) to him he may see you as desperate now. He knows he 'has' you and can do as he pleases. Put him back on ignore and please try your best to rid of the feelings. Focus on the negatives and how shi.tty he can make you feel. 2
ladydesigner Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 (((Cocochai))) You can always begin NC again 1
Author Cocochai Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Stop playing a game here. Forget the bday text, in the past he's ignored you as well, so chances are he's chosen just not to reply. Maybe he will reply to this text but if he doesn't, you're gonna feel silly for sending it. Wish you'd come here first when you get the urge to text so someone can talk you out of it. You texting him and asking if he got your text will show him your weakness and (sorry) to him he may see you as desperate now. He knows he 'has' you and can do as he pleases. Put him back on ignore and please try your best to rid of the feelings. Focus on the negatives and how shi.tty he can make you feel. That's just it, I hate playing games.. I never said I wasn't going to go back to NC, I still am but now I can stop the wondering and causing me to think about this. Now... Back to reading those links someone very thoughtful sent me^^. The first one I read over and over again. 1
FoolishOW Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I don't call pople up and say thank you for the birthday card, which takes more effort than a text message, and I don't think not responding to a text is rude. Not sure why you wouldn't take a second to say thanks for either a card or a text. When someone takes the time to show they're thinking of you on your birthday, how do you rationalize simply blowing them off without any response? It probably isn't the reason they said Happy Birthday (to conjure a response), but to assume they "know" you appreciate the kind gesture is just, well... not very thoughtful. plain and simple.
Snipercatt Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Foolish, you are entitled to your opinion. those to whom I send Bday cards don't call me up to specifically say thank you for the birthday cards, nor do I call them when I receive them. We aren't "blowing anyone off". However, We usually mention it the next time we talk. These thoughts that text messages require responses is just silliness hidden by false senses of politeness that get people in trouble wondering if their message was received, etc. This thread being a case on point.
gettingstronger Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 I think you got your answer. He is incapable of the truth and it hurts you. Good luck with NC. 3
Author Cocochai Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 Foolish, you are entitled to your opinion. those to whom I send Bday cards don't call me up to specifically say thank you for the birthday cards, nor do I call them when I receive them. We aren't "blowing anyone off". However, We usually mention it the next time we talk. These thoughts that text messages require responses is just silliness hidden by false senses of politeness that get people in trouble wondering if their message was received, etc. This thread being a case on point. You have every right to be entitled to your opinion. Some people were brought up to make Birthdays a big deal... I happen to be one of them but yes, when someone takes the time to wish someone a "Happy Birthday", which is only one day out of the year... It shows that person how much you think of them. I don't care if it's a card, text message, phone call or FB time line message. And it is courteous to acknowledge it as well. I feel much better after asking him. I still say he ignored my text but at least I can move on and continue my NC w/ peace of mind. 2
FoolishOW Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Foolish, you are entitled to your opinion. those to whom I send Bday cards don't call me up to specifically say thank you for the birthday cards, nor do I call them when I receive them. We aren't "blowing anyone off". However, We usually mention it the next time we talk. These thoughts that text messages require responses is just silliness hidden by false senses of politeness that get people in trouble wondering if their message was received, etc. This thread being a case on point. It's all good, Sniper... I understand your thought (a little better) when referring to someone you are in regular contact with and know you'll speak with again fairly soon, but in the case of the OP, it didn't appear obvious that that would be the case. Hey... Happy Birthday, Sniper... whenever yours comes around.
sunburned Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 I Hey... Happy Birthday, Sniper... whenever yours comes around. She hasn't replied with a thank you!?!? She clearly doesn't love you and was only using you for casual love shack hookups. You must go NC. Forever.
Author Cocochai Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 She hasn't replied with a thank you!?!? She clearly doesn't love you and was only using you for casual love shack hookups. You must go NC. Forever. Yep, I'm sure Foolish doesn't appreciate it either... Nor would I.
movingon45 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 Oh OP I'm exactly in the same boat. And here I am thinking of responding to his text last night but I'm controlling it and chose instead to come here!!!! It is very hard. It has become an addiction! I always go to this forum whenever I feel weak. Good luck to both of us. I can't count the number of times I have removed and put back his number on my phone!!!! 1
Author Cocochai Posted March 28, 2014 Author Posted March 28, 2014 Oh OP I'm exactly in the same boat. And here I am thinking of responding to his text last night but I'm controlling it and chose instead to come here!!!! It is very hard. It has become an addiction! I always go to this forum whenever I feel weak. Good luck to both of us. I can't count the number of times I have removed and put back his number on my phone!!!! Thanks & you stay strong as well
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