moonlightpath Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I dated my ex for 6 months. Broke up a few weeks ago. We shared couple of mutual friends. I found out yesterday that the entire time we were dating he cheated on me many times and lied to me about so many things. He told our friends that he wouldn't mind if they had sex with me since they do so much for me. He said they deserved something out of it. He lied to me about our mutual friends when we were dating. Lied and said all they wanted from me was sex so that I would stop talking to them. Finally yesterday they showed me proof that he was always a lair. Why would someone do this???? I understand some people like to lead someone on but why 6 months? Why not just for a few weeks after we met? I'm not sad, I'm so angry! I wasted 6 months with this person. I could have been with someone who really cared. Sorry for the rant!
JessieJ08 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 It's really hard to say why people lie but in life you will learn they do and they are not worth your time. Some people think its funny to hurt others, they like doing it because they poor morals and are usually insecure or miserable in their lives. All you can do is just love yourself and know how to walk away from mean people who go out of their way to hurt you. Always keep true people around who know right from wrong, I wouldn't say him or his friends are good why are they just now telling you? To me good people try to do everything they can to prevent others from being hurt no matter cost they may lose friends or be hated by a few but they always do the right thing for someone who is innocent. Not wait until the damage is done. I wish you luck in life, you will find a guy who shows respect and care instead of your ex who personally seems not worth any females time, unless she is just as rude and hurtful as he is
Author moonlightpath Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Thanks for answering! One reason my friends didn't tell me was because they thought I wouldn't listen. They told me before not to trust him but my ex had brainwashed me into believing they were the bad guys.
Omei Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Always put faith and a friends word into heavy consideration over a new bf, passion or love can be blinding where a friends view can be crisp and clear, if they didnt tell you before because they think you wouldn't listen then you may not have a good history of taking input from your friends they shouldn't fear being up front with you. 6 months isn't very long you're really lucky some people get married and get cheated on years later, I spent 5 years with my first bf who ultimately cheated many times I felt like the best youth years of my 17 - 21 was wasted I could of been out having fun with many guys getting to know what I like instead of being tied down, take I from me when I say that you dodged a bullet be glad you found out now and not years later. You got saved a lot of pain and stress
Snow101 Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Unfortunately, some people are scumbags with no morals or honor. You made the mistake of falling for one. At least in this situation you have a very clear, very strong reason for leaving this person behind and not caring. Becaus he is a provne piece of **** and you're better off without him. Sayonara.
Author moonlightpath Posted March 27, 2014 Author Posted March 27, 2014 I did dodge a bullet. I'm glad I'm no longer with him. For the last few days I keep finding out what else he lied to me about. I feel so stupid. There were SO many signs that he never cared about me from the very beginning of our relationship and I just ignored them. I wanted to believe he really loved me like he said. He didn't. I'm SO mad that I let him use me. I wish I would have followed the signs and left him months ago. I have never met anyone this awful before. I never thought I would be the girl who waited around her phone all day for DAYS for a worthless guy to call and make plans. I'm sorry if what I keep saying is repetitive. I'm completely furious and I do not know how to express it. I have never been in this situation before.
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 At least you only wasted 6 months and not years and years!!! And you got an extremely valuable education on trust, human psychology and relationships 1
guest572 Posted March 28, 2014 Posted March 28, 2014 What he has done is disgusting. Sorry you had to go through that! Be angry with him but don't be angry with yourself, you were trusting and loving and he did not return that. You can't predict this sort of thing, so don't worry about wasted time.. Onwards and upwards! 1
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