FrostBlaze Posted March 25, 2014 Posted March 25, 2014 Maybe it's just me, i don't know, but when i get a partner that i really LOVE(after month's to develop the feeling). I don't have eyes for anyone else. I won't cheat, i won't look at other women sexually, in fact i don't even find them hot anymore, or i might but i show no interest. (until i get single again )...i can't explain it, i found it odd myself. This has come to bite me in the ass. As some women find it very unatractive, "are you a "man" or not?" I got this reply from actual people. Deep down in their lil heads, they want me to crave for other women and maybe hit on them...so they get impulsed to fight for me so i remain theirs. If i'm so "loyal", i'm just to easy of a catch. Be honest, what do you think of this? Would it be a turn-off if you're man just had eyes for you, seems so from what people i spoke to xD...wich is so MIND BLOWING. One of my Ex's gave me a spicy video once, with hot babes, Shakira was in it too. She was all like "you'd tap them wouldn't you?", i honestly didn't feel it so i said "no" xD. She didn't like my answer.
vanhalenfan Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 (edited) No, this would not be a turn-off for me! I think it's great that you only have eyes for the one you're with. Should be more men like you around... Not quite sure why your ex seemed disappointed in your response to the video. I would have been happy with that answer, but then again if it were me, I wouldn't have even shown you the video in the first place. Edited March 26, 2014 by vanhalenfan 1
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 I'd be glad if i find someone that thinks like that. Seems to not be the norm around here, would appreciate more answers. Offtopic slightly: As far as that girl goes she was just **** testing me or something. Went on to call me a liar and she got angry from there. Didn't believe there is a man who can actually think like me, her past experiences.(very insecure) They enjoy playing games so i'm sure she just wanted me to make it harder for her, my stability boored her. She also liked to fight/argue, made stuff "intense" as she said, etc. Odd stuff, i never want drama queen's again xD.
Els Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Uh, that doesn't sound 'loyal TO THE EXTREME' to me, just loyal. It's a basic requirement for a LTR partner. 4
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 The "around here" excuse is that, i don't see people practicing it, so it's rare as it is. Girls flirt with everything and jump from tree to tree. However, the question was if you find it a turn-off or unatractive, the fact that i would not engage or desire other women? People i asked, said it's unnatural and even a turn-off.(this whole weird pshycology stuff, of things they want you to do but never admit) They expect me to desire other women, just hold it in my pants since i have a partner.
xxmusical Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 However, the question was if you find it a turn-off or unatractive, the fact that i would not engage or desire other women? No, this would not be a turn-off for me But, being a woman, I would always be the type to challenge the guy. Example of me and my guy: Me: *points to sexy model in magazine* Isn't she pretty hot? Him: *serious face* No. Me: Liar! Then I would proceed to ask and bug him why he thought the model's not hot (in a teasing way). I'm horrible, I know But I wouldn't actually be angry at him... They expect me to desire other women, just hold it in my pants since i have a partner. IMO the way of thinking is, because you're a man, it's expected for you to stare at other women and think of them sexually. BUT at the same time, if you do ogle at them, you're screwed Women...yikes.
Els Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 The "around here" excuse is that, i don't see people practicing it, so it's rare as it is. Girls flirt with everything and jump from tree to tree. However, the question was if you find it a turn-off or unatractive, the fact that i would not engage or desire other women? People i asked, said it's unnatural and even a turn-off.(this whole weird pshycology stuff, of things they want you to do but never admit) They expect me to desire other women, just hold it in my pants since i have a partner. No, it's not a turn-off. Lack thereof would be a dealbreaker. What sort of girls are you talking to?
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 "Playa" girls, i always seem to get those. To many mind games +drama. Early 20's of age in general. ^^
Els Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 "Playa" girls, i always seem to get those. To many mind games +drama. Early 20's of age in general. ^^ Perhaps time to start talking to different type of girls?
Snakechammah Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Loyalty is an incredible turn on! If I have full faith that my guy is absolutely loyal to me that no drinks, drugs or sluts can steer him away from me, my life is complete because as a person seeking serious, long-term and committed relationship, I can finally feel secure. It's a beautiful feeling that you can TRUST the person, no matter the distance or circumstances. Your girlfriend or wife will be lucky to have you. Because of this trait, I do believe that you will have that promising and fulfilling relationship that you are already offering to your other half. Just need to choose wisely. Karma is a beautiful thing! All the best! 1
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 Perhaps time to start talking to different type of girls? They end up being the same, i sure know how to pick'em . They don't seem as playa's on the first run. Plus i like mine to be more introverted, wich makes things even odder...introverted playa'z, how do i manage to run into them. But yeah i'm a try different women when possible, i don't actively chase.
kodakgirl Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 To me that is a turn-ON, and very attractive. I am the same way. 1
Woggle Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 It should be a good trait but today everything is just screwed up so it is not considered to be by many people. I am so glad I found a good woman because if I still had to deal with this crap I might have just become a celibate monk.
veggirl Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 Weird. My first thought was they are testing you by pointing out other hot girls, to see what your reaction is. Very immature. But, they don't like your reaction when you say you aren't attracted to the other girls? You're dating some oddballs. Unless maybe they assume you are lying.
man_in_the_box Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 As in doesn't even see someone else could be attractive? It's a great quality if you have that and I'm sure there are plenty of women who find that very attractive. I don't think there are many people that are truely like this.
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 26, 2014 Author Posted March 26, 2014 As in doesn't even see someone else could be attractive? It's a great quality if you have that and I'm sure there are plenty of women who find that very attractive. I don't think there are many people that are truely like this. Pretty much that, yeah.^^
Targetlock Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 yep, loyalty any day thank you and it is never a bad quality in my opinion.
Phoe Posted March 26, 2014 Posted March 26, 2014 I adore loyalty and the "I only have eyes for you" attitude My boyfriend and I are like that with each other, it makes me incredibly happy.
Els Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 As in doesn't even see someone else could be attractive? It's a great quality if you have that and I'm sure there are plenty of women who find that very attractive. I don't think there are many people that are truely like this. There's a difference, IMO, between not feeling attraction to other people, and not having any opinions on whether anyone is (generically speaking) physically attractive. I thought the OP was talking about the former, which is quite possible (and desirable). The latter, eh, I think most people with intact eyesight have opinions on that.
man_in_the_box Posted March 27, 2014 Posted March 27, 2014 Well whatever floats his boat. I can be loyal without getting a lobotomy.
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