How did you feel when your role was switched in ending relationships?

[iDrumKing]

I think at some point in our lives we become a dumper & a dumpee.

 

- I remember dumping a girl my senior year of High School. At the time I knew it was the right decision for it was not working out. My ex an I still had growing up to do. I didn't have a good understand of what hurt I caused, so not much sympathy went about it.

 

- I was the dumpee in my most recent relationship. I was torn (much better now) and didn't have a chance to fix anything. I then realized what it was like to have a broken heart.

 

- So my question for you guys is when dumped or dumping how did you feel?

- How did you feel when when roles reversed in your following relationship?

 

I ask this because my ex GF has never been dumped. Every relationship she has been in, she would be the one to leave.

[L1ght]

I have dumped 3 women since getting out of my last serious relationship 1+1/2 years ago and to be honest I don't really feel too much. It's harsh to say it but there was only one girl on my mind that mattered through all of those brief relationships/flings........it scares me a little because I think to myself that if I could dump them and be so indifferent then maybe just maybe that's exactly how my ex felt when she dumped me. It seemed like she was very serious about me but you never know....maybe she too had someone else in her past who simply meant more to her than me.

I've tried finding answers but she is not forthcoming on the details though these days I don't even care any more and I have other options on the horizon that I'm looking forward to plus I just wanna be happy and as of right this moment I certainly aint gonna find that happiness with my ex.

[MercuryMorrison1]

My earliest relationship was one where we dated for almost three years and we had a trial breakup for about two weeks (in which she dumped me) because she wanted to experience dating other guys without feeling tied down, well I was young and dumb so I didn't realize at that point that her's and my relationship was already over.

 

Regardless I was heartbroken. But after dating around for a few weeks she came back to me and I not knowing any better because of my inexperience at the time let her back in. Her and I continued to date for probably 5-6 months after all of that took place, at which point I got solid evidence on something I already suspected, which was that she was having an affair.

 

At this point I ended the relationship and I ended it for good. Initially I was heart broken. Being cheated on is not something I would wish on my worst enemy, however its something that seems to happen to most of us at one point or another.

 

I guess you could say I experienced heartbreak all over the place in that particular relationship.

 

Recently I was dating a sweet girl, but I could tell that her and my relationship was not built for the long run. I eventually did meet another girl with whom I feel as though her and I have a much better chance at making a lasting relationship.

 

I broke up with the first girl in order to spare her feelings. She was initially hurt but eventually understanding, I know her heart was broken because the breakup somewhat came out of nowhere. But I felt it was the right thing to do.

[somedude81]

I've never dumped a girl, and I can't imagine every doing so.

[todreaminblue]

Normally when someone gets dumped, its not out of the blue, i think it is painful to be on any side....an ending is an ending .....a death...so there is always sadness for more than one......i prefer to make guys dump me.....i find it easier than dumping them.....i am loathe to give up on anyone........i give chances till it becomes unbearable for me to do so.......deb

[Breadimus]

Hey iDrum,

 

Great to see you are doing alright.

 

My first relationship through University lasted about 14 months, and for the last 4 months of those I was desperately telling myself I loved this woman as I began to ever so slowly detach myself from her subconsciously.

 

By the time it came for me to end it I could not even bring myself to care as she sobbed on her bed in the fetal position.

 

I left her like that and never saw her since. Pretty brutal hey! I am not proud of it but I was not happy so I did what I thought was right.

 

My most recent relationship ended with me in the curb, hence why I post here. I knew in the last three weeks that I was toast, but I never fully acknowledged it. I was not in the right place emotionally and mentally, which may have made it easier for JW to ditch me.

 

My desperate attempts to claw back some of the relationship the last time we were together was superficial at best and I knew deep down that it was over. Hence the neediness. The same trait I broke up with my last ex for.

 

I just wish now I stood up for myself and respected myself before JW, when you lady of 3 years spends 45 minutes of 1 hour breakfast at a cafe on Facebook, you know you deserve better than that.

 

Sheesh.