Ever date outside your race?

[Mo_Do]

I think light brown skinned girls are the hottest, and have dated 3 of them recently as well as one for just under 2 years.

 

2 Indian mixes and 2 Iranian...

 

However, none of them worked out and I am thinking it might be time to get over the infatuation and just focus on girls in my own (white) race.

 

Has anyone else had any luck dating folks from outside their race?

 

I ask because while we may get along great on a personal level, its the religion BS they may subscribe to that ultimately crushes the whole thing (once the novelty rubs off).

 

Plus I have a feeling I've been secretly going for relationships that are bound to fail because of commitment issues, and then get sad when it does fail...but that's another topic lol

[Hello_is_it_me]

People of all different colors have different personalities. I would imagine in time you should be able to find a darker skinned girl that meshes with you. You like that skin color. So don't settle (which would mean dating someone of your own race in this case lol)

[Hello_is_it_me]

And, yes, I've dated from Black to Latinas to Russians. Their races didn't define them as what types of people they were.

[AntiSocal]

You must be really old or ignorant.

 

Race doesn't mold a persons character at all. So yes i have dated outside of my race and i will continue to do so when i am infatuated by girls who are a different race then myself.

 

Tbh this obsession with race disgusts me. We are all HUMANS. Yet most of us (at least the older generations) seem to think that only someone within our "race" can truly relate to us. Lol.

 

An iranian or Armenian girl that grew up in california is gonna get along with you a lot better than a muslim lady straight from Bosnia. Even though that muslim lady is the same race as you. The Armenian girl grew up in a similar environment.

 

Stop looking at people and seeing their race or ethnicity first. Instead look at the PERSON. Did you have similar upbringings? Do you share similar core values? Are you attracted to them? Do your personalities mesh? All of these things are way more important than the color of someones skin.

[Mo_Do]

And, yes, I've dated from Black to Latinas to Russians. Their races didn't define them as what types of people they were.

 

Were they religious? I've had to change what the pizza toppings were at the last minute because one didn't eat beef! LOL...stuff like that adds up

[Mo_Do]

You must be really old or ignorant.

 

Race doesn't mold a persons character at all. So yes i have dated outside of my race and i will continue to do so when i am infatuated by girls who are a different race then myself.

 

Tbh this obsession with race disgusts me. We are all HUMANS. Yet most of us (at least the older generations) seem to think that only someone within our "race" can truly relate to us. Lol.

 

An iranian or Armenian girl that grew up in california is gonna get along with you a lot better than a muslim lady straight from Bosnia. Even though that muslim lady is the same race as you. The Armenian girl grew up in a similar environment.

 

Stop looking at people and seeing their race or ethnicity first. Instead look at the PERSON. Did you have similar upbringings? Do you share similar core values? Are you attracted to them? Do your personalities mesh? All of these things are way more important than the color of someones skin.

 

Easy tiger - I hear everything you're saying.

 

Our personalities have meshed, we had mutual attraction etc. Some were born here (meaning they are no different) and some weren't. There were most definitely differences between them and white girls I've dated, differences that I like!

 

I am asking what other peoples experiences (that actually have dated them) has been.

[Hello_is_it_me]

Were they religious? I've had to change what the pizza toppings were at the last minute because one didn't eat beef! LOL...stuff like that adds up

 

You know that people of different races can adhere to all sorts of different religions, right? There are many Middle Eastern Christians; there are Black Jews; there are white muslims. You dig?

[CarrieT]

Were they religious? I've had to change what the pizza toppings were at the last minute because one didn't eat beef! LOL...stuff like that adds up

 

You need to change your vernacular. Religious beliefs can dictate one's dietary restrictions, not necessarily race...

 

Heck, there are Caucasian vegetarians who don't eat beef!

 

I think the OP is being very closed-minded. I have dated many races and many religious creeds. I have dated African American men who followed Hindu beliefs and Caucasian Jewish men who won't eat pork.

 

There are Indian women who will eat beef and Caucasian women who don't.

 

Do you see that?

[AntiSocal]

Easy tiger - I hear everything you're saying.

 

Our personalities have meshed, we had mutual attraction etc. Some were born here (meaning they are no different) and some weren't. There were most definitely differences between them and white girls I've dated, differences that I like!

 

I am asking what other peoples experiences (that actually have dated them) has been.

 

And i gave you my opinion, race does not matter. The way you choose to word your question shows that you believe that the race of somebody is somehow going to effect the way they behave or their actions. That is simply not true. And if you can't realize that then you are ignorant.

 

And if you are dating muslim women obviously you will have problems. Not because their race is different but because their BELIEFS are different.

 

Stop trying to group girls into different dating groups based on race. Its 2014. Date a girl who you are attracted to and who you can see eye to eye with. This thread is somewhat offensive to people of all races.

[hasaquestion]

I think light brown skinned girls are the hottest, and have dated 3 of them recently as well as one for just under 2 years.

 

2 Indian mixes and 2 Iranian...

 

However, none of them worked out and I am thinking it might be time to get over the infatuation and just focus on girls in my own (white) race.

 

Has anyone else had any luck dating folks from outside their race?

 

I ask because while we may get along great on a personal level, its the religion BS they may subscribe to that ultimately crushes the whole thing (once the novelty rubs off).

 

Plus I have a feeling I've been secretly going for relationships that are bound to fail because of commitment issues, and then get sad when it does fail...but that's another topic lol

 

I don't ever bother to pursue non-Indian girls at this point. My last two serious girlfriends were Indian, the girl I'm seeing now is Indian. There's been a Pakistani too but that still fits the theme.

 

 

I'm from a Mediterranean country. Something about my appearance/persona is more closely aligned with their culture's concept of beauty.

 

Is it because I could pass for an extremely fair-skinned North Indian? Do degrees carry more weight for them? Its it a personality thing? I don't really know and I wish I could find out.

 

 

Anyway its not really about having race preferences but beauty preferences. I'd rather put in a given amount of work with a sexy Indian girl than a plain white girl. Its not Indian vs. white its hot vs. not. Not much motivation to do more work/deal with more drama for less.

Edited March 25, 2014 by hasaquestion

[organizedchaos]

Were they religious? I've had to change what the pizza toppings were at the last minute because one didn't eat beef! LOL...stuff like that adds up

 

What's your point? White people can't be Vegan or Vegetarian??? You don't have to be religious or of color to not eat beef!!!

 

I'm white and have dated all types. Ex wife-white, Ex gf-Korean, girl I've been seeing for past two months-black.

 

It's the person I'm attracted to, not the color of their skin.

[Gaeta]

Race does not matter but culture does. Someone that was born and raise in another culture will somewhat behave and think differently, you have to accept it and embrace it to have a successful relationship. I know, I am a French Canadian woman and I don't think like an American woman, not even like an English Canadian woman even if we live on the same territory.

 

And to answer your question, yes I date outside my race, actually I ONLY date outside my race, I can't stand Frenchmen. So in some way I am racist against my own race.

[soccerrprp]

I have always dated someone outside of my race. I am privileged to be of various ethnic/racial backgrounds and comfortable dating any and everyone regardless of race. As it has been mentioned, cultural/educational/political considerations are more important to me.

 

I am NOT white, but dating a very white woman. I was married 12+ years to a African American woman of multi-ethnicities. I have been very privileged to have been able to experience people of all races.

[avoforastig]

Race does not matter but culture does. Someone that was born and raise in another culture will somewhat behave and think differently, you have to accept it and embrace it to have a successful relationship. I know, I am a French Canadian woman and I don't think like an American woman, not even like an English Canadian woman even if we live on the same territory.

 

And to answer your question, yes I date outside my race, actually I ONLY date outside my race, I can't stand Frenchmen. So in some way I am racist against my own race.

 

I don't think there is anything wrong if you do not share the same religious background. However, if it's a deal breaker for you (and you seem to be well aware of this), why waste your time? I'm an atheist who was deeply in love with a Jewish woman. I hate to say it, but when we discussed our long-term plans we just didn't mesh. If you have a desire to have children, you need to discuss your mate's life aspirations.

[Mo_Do]

Race does not matter but culture does. Someone that was born and raise in another culture will somewhat behave and think differently, you have to accept it and embrace it to have a successful relationship. I know, I am a French Canadian woman and I don't think like an American woman, not even like an English Canadian woman even if we live on the same territory.

 

And to answer your question, yes I date outside my race, actually I ONLY date outside my race, I can't stand Frenchmen. So in some way I am racist against my own race.

 

This seems to explain it - cultural differences for certain ended one of the relationships (on her end) and another ones family didn't agree with her dating a white guy, so that one ended too.

 

-Every idiot using this thread as a racial battle ground...grow up.

[AntiSocal]

This seems to explain it - cultural differences for certain ended one of the relationships (on her end) and another ones family didn't agree with her dating a white guy, so that one ended too.

 

-Every idiot using this thread as a racial battle ground...grow up.

 

You're the only idiot itt.

 

Almost every person who has responded to this thread said the exact same thing.

 

Nobody used it as a "racial battleground". Simply pointing out your ignorance, which you seem to have in abundance.

[Thegreatestthing]

I date outside my race I am German and 1/4 black I look quite Hispanic,Romanian,Italian etc . I mostly date Eastern European guys 90 percent of the time,at the moment I am starting to like Asian guys though.

 

It's not something I would recommend as a mixed person I found it such a difficult thing and I believe strongly in the preservation of culture and tradition.but people fall in love so whSt can you do?

[jay1983]

I've seen a lot of mixed couples. I've also meet a lot mixed people. Half white and half persian or half hispanic half arab. Black and white looks really good. Stuff like that's not unusual. Yeah the religion thing can get in the way if there family is real traditional. Your taking a lot of heat on here. I favor more light complected, but I probably won't mention this again after reading all these nasty comments your getting, sheesh!

[Almond_Joy]

I think light brown skinned girls are the hottest, and have dated 3 of them recently as well as one for just under 2 years.

 

2 Indian mixes and 2 Iranian...

 

However, none of them worked out and I am thinking it might be time to get over the infatuation and just focus on girls in my own (white) race.

 

Has anyone else had any luck dating folks from outside their race?

 

I ask because while we may get along great on a personal level, its the religion BS they may subscribe to that ultimately crushes the whole thing (once the novelty rubs off).

 

Plus I have a feeling I've been secretly going for relationships that are bound to fail because of commitment issues, and then get sad when it does fail...but that's another topic lol

 

My current relationship's with a guy outside of my race. My last two bf's were also outside of my race. My current relationship is the best I've ever had.

 

I agree with Carrie, it's culture and religion that you sound like you've had issue with, not race. You may have a racial preference but that in and of itself isn't an issue.

 

There's no guarantee that dating someone of your own race will increase your compatibility. I'd suggest refining how you define YOUR personal culture and religious beliefs then dating based on those common grounds.

 

Really irritating to see everyone jumping down this guy's throat over what he didn't know, or know how to articulate properly, rather He had some misconceptions, he came asking for other perspectives to change them. Give him a break, geez.

[Haydn]

Mixed heritage. Means very very strong gene pool. (Not like the the Royal family)

 

 

[Haydn]

You are spot on. (Yes i agree with you)

 

You're the only idiot itt.

 

Almost every person who has responded to this thread said the exact same thing.

 

Nobody used it as a "racial battleground". Simply pointing out your ignorance, which you seem to have in abundance.

[SpringBaby]

I think light brown skinned girls are the hottest, and have dated 3 of them recently as well as one for just under 2 years.

 

2 Indian mixes and 2 Iranian...

 

However, none of them worked out and I am thinking it might be time to get over the infatuation and just focus on girls in my own (white) race.

 

Has anyone else had any luck dating folks from outside their race?

 

I ask because while we may get along great on a personal level, its the religion BS they may subscribe to that ultimately crushes the whole thing (once the novelty rubs off).

 

Plus I have a feeling I've been secretly going for relationships that are bound to fail because of commitment issues, and then get sad when it does fail...but that's another topic lol

 

Yes, I have, I don't discriminate and I don't buy into stereotypes, I tend to look at men for who they are and not their skin color. My only physical preference is attractive lol, but I am particular about religions and cultures.

 

I am always weary of people of any race who describe, for example, people as "mixes" and "light brown skinned." This to me sounds like a superficial person and maybe that was the reason it didn't work out over anything else.

And just because a person is your same race is not a guarantee that you will live happily ever after. I hope you realize this.

 

It's okay to have a preference but this language suggests that there's more to your thought process than just race or religion. It may even be something you are not aware of. The women may have noticed this. This is especially true being from cultures like black American, some Latin, and Indian who separate us by shade and tend to largely favor lighter skinned people (I used the present tense intentionally).

 

I know I don't like for people to refer to me as "light skinned" or any food-related color like "chocolate, almond, and caramel" it rubs me the wrong way and I feel like a novelty or a dessert and not a person. It makes me wonder if the guy from the "other race" is just looking to get a taste. I don't give samples.

 

Maybe this is something you want to think about.

 

I have learned from dating Asians, white guys from America and Europe, Latinos and black guys, there are no guarantees and no one is better than anyone else we are all people who can be different SOMETIMES. Just like any relationship, it can work if you are sincere and take the time to learn about the person you are with and not lump them all into the some category.

[Eclypse]

Personally I like tall, slim white girls. That's what I've always found attractive and that description fits all the girls I've dated so far. I had a huge crush in high school on a girl who was half Chinese half white and she was gorgeous. But generally I have my preferences and I don't know how one can change that.

[salparadise]

In dating everyone is entitled to their preference. Having a preference is not in any way racist, it's simply a matter of who you find attractive, individually or collectively. I honestly don't know why people still think in terms of race or continue using it as the basis for sweeping generalizations. Personally, I've got a thing for detached ear lobes.

[Emilia]

I agree with posters that pointed out cultural differences, I gather that's what the OP meant. I also hear you OP on skin tone, my aesthetic preference is darker skin, I find flawless brown skin very beautiful.

 

I've dated outside my race/ethnicity many times. I'm white Eastern European but left my home country many years ago and even when I was married to a Brit, I was in a relationships outside my ethnicity since culturally he was very different from me.

 

I've dated a few South Asian men, the last one was Kenyan Indian. I found his values intriguing because he is a mixture of conservative and liberal, more so than most of his country men. Probably to do with his having lived in the UK for many years but not actually being born here.

 

There is definitely merit in understanding where a person was born and where he spent his formative years. It will affect the way he sees women, relationships, men that grow up in strongly patriarchal societies are quite different from Westerners.

 

So I strongly disagree that you can ignore ethnicity/cultural differences. Race however, doesn't matter, everyone has preferences physically. I think the argument on this thread comes from the fact that many don't understand the difference between ethnicity and race.