Cutey25 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Not sure where to start here it goes. Been separated since last July and finally going trough a divorce. During the separation months i was not stable financially and needed a second job to help pay bills ext. Friends suggestion I should try a service it was easy money. I was skeptical at first and not sure if I should get into something like this but I was a complete mess and decided to give it a try. A month into it things where normal I was working in both places and did not have any problems. A month into it things started to change. I was not supposed to work that night but decided to for financial reasons and I ended up being sent to this man who I tough at first was the most self centered disturbing sick person. To make the story short he was a regular client that would call for call girls all the time and this was nothing new. He is extremely wealthy 54 years of age and has a gf that he lives with for 17 years. He has a sadistic personality and has completely ruined me but I am in love with him and blind he spent xmas new years day after he ditched his gf and made excuses. I'm not sure what to do I'm 28 and completely destroyed by him we have not had sex we tried but always ended up into arguments. And he expects me to be available whenever he feels like it at any time of the night or day when she is not there and will not take No for an answer. He has no kids and neither do I. I am so torn i have not seen him in 1.5 month because i have been away visiting family and he was extremely upset that i did not spend time with him before i went away. After he went on vacation on Valentine's day with his gf and told me the day before that he was leaving for 2 weeks and expecting me to just show up before he lives and that he was ready to have sex with me which i refused and that just made him extremely upset he went crazy and told me that he was done with me and never wanted to see me again. Well I have not had contact with him for 3 weeks because i have been away and before i left we ended up into a huge argument over the phone that he was waiting to see me and I did not do anything about it. We texted last night for the first time after not talking for 3 weeks and i can tell he missed me. I will never tell him that I'm in love with him because he told me in the past he has heard it many times from other women and I refuse to be a fool and show him and give him what he wants to hear. I am completely lost and do not know what to do. Any toughts?
David87 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 He has a gf, he's 54, he's using you. Where do you want to end up with this guy? Marriage? Kids? More info needed. If I were you I'd ditch him and find a better one, his personality is wishy washy. 1
herself Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Just the title of your post alone says everything you need to know. You arent in love with him. You are going through divorce and vulnerable and scared and understandably would take "love" any way it comes. Your in a tough spot of low self esteem and its hard to see clearly the destructive patterns you can easily fall into when your feeling alone, struggling with money, and hurting inside. You need to talk to a professional asap. You haven't seen him at all & have barely spoken to him which is good. You need every ounce of strength you can pull from yourself NOW to Block his number and any other way for him to reach you. Its a time in your life where you really need to regain your life and your center, heal from seperation and divorce and get healthy. This guy sounds like someone who can truly ruin you mentally. Sleeping with him will make it a million times worse. Please block immediatel. TThe fact that your reaching out here is good. It means you see it & its not too late for ypu to regain your footing and turn it all around. Leave him now, and get. A therapist. Good luck.
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