sportzhl24 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Well I found out last night that my ex had cheated on me during the relationship. I'm pretty furious as you can imagine, especially because I know the guy and hung out with him a decent amount. I was just wondering if you guys think I should contact him and call him out on his actions. I really want to but I'm also afraid of what would happen, like if he would call me out in return or if my ex would get involved, etc. But I really want to because I'm so sad and angry, even still 8 months post bu. It's funny how you can date somebody and not even know them. I wasnt a great boyfriend because it was my first RS but was I really that horrible that I needed to be cheated on, dumped, and lied about? Wow. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be really helpful thank you
stillafool Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Apparently she wasn't that great of a girlfriend either. She's a cheater. That has nothing to do with you. If she had a problem or was lacking something it was up to her to discuss it with you, not cheat. Be glad she is your ex as she doesn't sound like a quality woman. Unless this guy was a close friend of yours he doesn't owe you anything. She gave it and he took it. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Well I found out last night that my ex had cheated on me during the relationship. I'm pretty furious as you can imagine, especially because I know the guy and hung out with him a decent amount. I was just wondering if you guys think I should contact him and call him out on his actions. I really want to but I'm also afraid of what would happen, like if he would call me out in return or if my ex would get involved, etc. But I really want to because I'm so sad and angry, even still 8 months post bu. It's funny how you can date somebody and not even know them. I wasnt a great boyfriend because it was my first RS but was I really that horrible that I needed to be cheated on, dumped, and lied about? Wow. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be really helpful thank you Pretty easy solution. Its not really your place nor business anymore. You contact him, you look jealous and trying to start trouble. Sucks about your ex, but nothing you can do. 1
Omei Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Just ignore him don't call think of it as an added reason why you should be glad its over.
Author sportzhl24 Posted March 23, 2014 Author Posted March 23, 2014 How do I just ignore something like this though? Not only did my ex betray me but this guy deliberately screwed with my relationship. Seems nearly impossible to just let this slide.
somegoodman Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 How do I just ignore something like this though? Not only did my ex betray me but this guy deliberately screwed with my relationship. Seems nearly impossible to just let this slide. Because ignoring them is ultimately the best revenge. Anything else betrays investment in the situation, and everybody likes to believe they matter to other people, even in negative ways. Law 36 Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem. 5
Author sportzhl24 Posted March 24, 2014 Author Posted March 24, 2014 Yeah the best thing to do is let it go. If I contact her or him then they assume that I'm still all hung up on the RS. I heard she might be getting married soon though. It still breaks my heart, even though I have another woman in my life. Breaks my f***ing heart
Chi townD Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Why contact him? He could give a damn about your relationship at the time. So, what makes you think that he would care now? You could call out your Ex. I mean, she was the one that was supposed to remain faithful to you; not this guy. But, even if you call out your Ex on this, what would it change?
Strength in Healing Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Lmao she sounds like such trash dude it blows my mind. About to get married not even a year after a breakup and she cheated on you and such? Real winner, that one... whoever is marrying her must be proud
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