bluegreen Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I understand.. But i'm just afraid that she will choose the other guy over me if i cease contact with her.. She already did. And what she is giving to you is called bread crumbs while she is trying out new guy. Its very simple hear what we are saying and stop hearing what you wish she would be saying. Read NC guide cause if you keep this up it will take us forever to help you wake up its already over ...
Author retort Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) Guess i have been falling deeper into the hole i have dug for myself.. I told her i wanted to start NC, as a mean of getting over her, or untill she has decided who she wants to be with.. She told me bluntly that by me doing this, I'm giving more chances to the other dude. Funnily enough, she has started referring to me as her boyfriend this coming day, including going out for dinner with me, holding my hands, hugging, all those BGR stuff, YET she has never initiated them with me.. Upon probing, she told me, she couldn't let both of us go.. I have no idea what i should do now.. It just seems that I'm falling deeper, deeper into her.. She no longer reply my 'love messages' and would only reply 1 worded or a simple "i know' message. However, she would message me normally for other type of messages ( normal communication). I have been trying my best to appease her, make her happy.. but i don't seem to understand the situation.. Also, she told me she has still been contacting that other dude.. Edited April 26, 2014 by retort
Author retort Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 i have been in constant contact with her for the past few days. including her birthday, which i surprised her with quite some presents. She messaged me after the birthday where she claimed that i'm still the one she truly loves. I was also at her house a week ago. I go into an extremely huge row with her sister. None of us have a really good relationship with her. My ex than got into an extremely huge fight with her over me, spewing and shouting vulgarities. I could see that she was really trying her very best to protect me. After the row, she brought me to the nearest park, and told me she loved me and that she was sorry she couldn't protect me. This few days, we have met up as bf/gf and had great times together, talks and dinners. However, she admitted that she was still in contact with the other guy and couldn't let both of us go as the other guy was always there for her when she was at her lowest. (at of today, they havent met) The other guy was willing to come over to our country to complete his education and this has further complicated things as my ex couldn't bring herself to stop this. TLDR; been with ex for the past two weeks, had amazing time. but she's torn between both of us (me as her ex and her new ldr bf) and couldn't decide. she tells me she need more time. What should i do? Really confused with her actions.. another thing is that her current bf doesnt know that she's still in contact with me or even going out with me...
FredJones80 Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 TLDR; been with ex for the past two weeks, had amazing time. but she's torn between both of us (me as her ex and her new ldr bf) and couldn't decide. she tells me she need more time. What should i do? Really confused with her actions.. another thing is that her current bf doesnt know that she's still in contact with me or even going out with me... Just being honest, but if I was in your situation and someone was torn between me and another guy, I'd tell her to f-off and have the other guy. She's having the best of both worlds, playing you off against each other. Have some self worth, tell her if she wants you she knows where to find you and then leave her alone. If she ends up with the other guy then good, you've dodged a wrong one. Read my sig...
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