Broro117 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I made the decision to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years back in December because I thought we both needed some time to grow up on our own. We were each other's first relationship, but we had a serious relationship, and we were best friends as well. We had even begun to discuss the possibility of marriage after his senior year of college. He told me I was the only woman for him, and that he wouldn't know what he would do if we broke up. Well, a month after our breakup (January), he already had a new girlfriend. We took everything really slowly and cautiously in our relationship, so this really threw me for a loop. This was just completely out of the blue. Less than a month earlier, he had told me he wasn't planning on dating anyone for a good while. We went into No Contact at the end of January, and we haven't had any interaction since then. When I asked, he told me he would be willing to give our relationship another chance if we were both single sometime in the future. He told me he would contact me again sometime before June, but I have no idea when or what he's going to say when he contacts me. On top of this, I'm still in love with him. I really want us to get back together, not now, but in a few months or a year or so. My question is, what do I do when he contacts me again? I've been thinking that I should do the hard thing and tell him that since I'm still in love with him, it would be irresponsible for me to keep talking to him when he's in a relationship. If I did that, I would only hope that one day he would come back to me on his own. Should I do that? Do I try to be his friend, conceal my feelings, and try to get him back that way? I'm just clueless as to what to do.
Stillits Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Honestly, I know it is hard to hear, but you broke up with him. This indicated to him that you are not interested. And he went and found a new girlfriend - while it does reek of rebound, it is also one way people try to get over a break up. I know he said he would be in contact but if I was you I would not count on it. You gave him up and you have to take the consequence now, unfortunately. Don't spend your time anxiously waiting for him to contact you, go follow your interests, hang out with friends and meet new people. You have to move towards getting over him instead of waiting around. Maybe he really likes the new girl and don't want to leave her for an ex who broke up with him.
Gaeta Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Dear dear dear, do not wait for him, it is over. Him saying he may contact you by June is a big load of BS. He will have forgotten about you by then, and so should you. You broke up with him in December and he had a new gf in January, he's not crying himself to sleep over you each night is he! Time for you to get back to your life, start going out again, and accept dates from other men. Don't worry you will get over him very soon. And if EVER he contacts you again just say *sorry I met someone else* 1
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