toonormal Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 After months of successful no contact my ex appears back in my life wanting to talk. She has been in regular contact with my family without my knowing the entire time (one year). She judged me for how I live.. judged me for how I used to live. Made me feel just all around bad but pretending to be nice and caring. She told me I should be dating, should have a girlfriend, should be going out all the time... wtf. Why is it so much to just let me live my life? It was nice seeing her and all because we used to be really close... but she has no intention of being close again.. so why even pretend we are friends? The last time I saw her she was ready to call the cops and ruin my life for dropping by to see her... but it's okay for her to drop by a year later? I just do not understand. Why play with my emotions.. Let me live my effing life. I am totally content being alone I just wish some people would let me be myself. My ex clearly included.
singme2sleep Posted March 21, 2014 Posted March 21, 2014 She has no right to tell you what you "should" be doing. When the dumper ends the relationship, they are severing ties with you and therefore it's not her business! 1
Author toonormal Posted March 21, 2014 Author Posted March 21, 2014 She has no right to tell you what you "should" be doing. When the dumper ends the relationship, they are severing ties with you and therefore it's not her business! Yeah I don't know what is going on in her head... Kind of set me back mentally from my recovery. All day I've been feeling in the dumps.
rec88 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 She told me I should be dating, should have a girlfriend, should be going out all the time... Smile and say, "I see your good intentions, but I don't need your advice." Then go back to being happy.
BC1980 Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 It sound like she just wants to meddle and stir the pot. It's really a reflection on her that she can't move on. 1
StGeorge22 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Strange situation. Is she seeing anyone else? Maybe she had a break up and is sniffing around? Stick to your guns 1
David87 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Strange situation. Is she seeing anyone else? Maybe she had a break up and is sniffing around? Stick to your guns It doesn't matter if he had a break up or not, she has no right telling him what to do... and to appear from nowhere after one year. Tell her that you appreciate her advice but you know how to live your life. Or better yet, ignore her.
STM206 Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 Why is it any of her business? I find it funny that dumpers act like it's so easy... It's easy for them because they had a chance to move on already, where us who were dumped had no time to really mentally and emotionally prepare. I wouldn't even respond. 1
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