Sweeetie Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We argue quite a lot but love each other to bits. I am mostly the initiator of our arguments We differ in a lot of areas but his goal is to make me happy. I've never had a guy love me as much as he does. Last week we had a particularly bad argument, and this was 2 days before our 6-month 'anniversary' for which we were going to do something special. He said he wanted to postpone our 6-month celebration to another time since "there's no point celebrating a breaking relationship". He also said that he "used to really love me". This upset me but I understood. He used to love me very much and I have seen this fading away of his love in action as well as in his words; he has become quite distant towards me these past couple of months. My question is, is it possible to make him love me like how he used to again? I know he doesn't want to break up with me because he is talking about going on holiday with me this summer. Thanks for reading
mammasita Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 Why don't you try to stop initiating arguments. What are you fighting about anyway? 1
Gaeta Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 You have to give him something to love. A girlfriend that nags, complains and starts fights is not something that inspires a man to be affectionate. 3
preraph Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Men don't usually stay with argumentative women. I know. Stop arguing. Get counseling. Find out why you're arguing. It's insecurity. Not attractive. No, you can't make a man love you. 1
Tayken Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 You have to give him something to love. A girlfriend that nags, complains and starts fights is not something that inspires a man to be affectionate. To add to this... OP....why don't you try to "love him more" as opposed to nag him to death? You say you are in love but argue a LOT, why do you think this is going to get any better? You need to find the root cause of all that heat and put it out before you can move forward You sound selfish from what am getting here.....you nag him, and want to show you love.....I'll show you something alright, THE DOOR You aren't that special if all you bring is headache...sex can be had anywhere for less headache
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Such an unhealthy relationship you have, OP. You both may think it's love, but with all the arguing, I suspect something less. Alas, so many people seem to think it's okay that there's a lot of arguments while in the midst of love....not hardly, imho. YOU need to show that you have matured and changed. I don't blame your bf for feeling less considering the drubbing he's getting from you. One thing is for certain, if he's sensible in any way, if YOU don't change, he will leave and be better off in the lt.
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 You could try acting like things were in the beginning. Try to remind him why he liked you in the first place. Don't get upset at him for something you wouldn't get upset at a stranger/ friend for, have as much fun as you can together, and treat him the way you want to be treated. If your relationship has a chance to get better (many dont) this is the only way I can think of to improve things.
stillafool Posted March 23, 2014 Posted March 23, 2014 Nothing kills love like arguing all the time. It's just a bore and he probably is losing feelings for you if you like to argue.
OhThatGirl Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 This may be a wildly unpopular post on this thread.. But I'm going to say it anyway. Look woman. You've been together 6 months and in that time you have come on LS complaining that he is child-like, can't have serious or deep conversations, is not in tune with your feelings or needing to talk about issues affecting you, doesn't find you attractive until you dress up for an occasion, doesn't like giving PDA and hurts you by now allowing you to give PDA. Now you tell us you're always instigating fights and he's starting to back off and prepare to end this? Uh, hell yes he is. Whether it's your issue or his, you seem to not be a great match. If you decide this is "the guy for you" then you are going to have to stop being so petty, so critical, and sooooo needy. I'm willing to bet a lot of your fights come from your needs not being met, eh? Two things to do: drastically reduce your needs from this guy OR find someone else who can give them. You're not going to change this guy. I'm still baffled as to why you really want it to work with this guy when it seems in so many facets of life you just don't feel he's giving you enough!
Noproblem Posted March 24, 2014 Posted March 24, 2014 I don't know .. But I have this feeling that when People but men in specific, lose interest ..in most cases it's for good
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